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  • Birthday 10/30/1953

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    Single widower
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    Moore Oklahoma
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    Retired
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    STill looking for the opportunity

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  1. I lost Marty about 23 months ago and I am finally feeling like getting back out there, I don't think I want a relationship just yet, but I could be wrong. I recently signed up with swingtowns and Recently I got an email saying someone liked me and wanted to message. Now I don't really expect much form them and I am not the hottest property on the planet and I have been honest in what I am looking for and offering. I click on the link and find it either is private or does not exist. When I pay money I do expect some honesty from the provider. Not false interest
  2. I currently use alldaychemist and they have it at reasonable prices. Put the dotcom at the end and while is says not for consumption in the US you can still order it.
  3. She is testing you, seeing how far you will go with it. If you give her permission, she will think about it, she may even act on it. When and IF she tells you about it she will gage your reaction as to how you would really handle it. Her fear of your reaction will be very high. But she also has to sort her feelings about it out too. Remember, Women give sex to get love, Men give love to get sex. Things to sort out. Take your time and see how she feels about you with other women, part of every woman fears loss or being proved inferior (false fear really, but it is there none the less). Casual sex or sport sex is not the norm for most people. You truly have to like it and have fun with it and it is distinguished from making love. Be sure and make her have orgasms like crazy and you can combine them with fantasy if you like. Orgasms do not have to come from penetration. Use the information here to broaden you knowledge of how women orgasm and what it really takes. Clues Does she masturbate for fun feelings? Does she love to orgasm? Does she like to play with you and give those feelings? Does she like you to play with her and give her those feelings? To learn more about women's orgasms check out rebootyoursexlife.com Have fun, check in and let us know how it's going.
  4. Learn how to small talk and do it well. Also learn how to give deep orgasms that can go on for hours, do it on someone and the girls will talk. If you need to lose a bit of weight and tone up a bit. As you get to know people things will turn around. Just be up to it. The other thing is don't take it as rejection. People need time to recharge, use the small talk to make that time pass. Offer to get drinks, or snacks. Offer back rubs.
  5. Ok Since swinging is off the table, it time to reestablish the relationship. Time to go courting again. Yes, you have been married for a long time, so what. Time to really work on the relationship. I am going from memory here so I may make a few mistakes. With everything she has been pushed by the side between work and medical issues. So you get to bring her back in. Yes, she will wonder what is going on. Just explain that she has been left out and supporting for along time and now it's time for some payback. If you are still traveling and she is off then take her with you. If that is not possible and you are out over the weekend then fly her out. Take her to dinner on a weeknight (not Friday), SEND HER FLOWERS. Lots of flowers. Give her a back rub - I know of no woman who will turn that down. Go out and have fun. Make her know she is important to you. Go learn the technique at rebootyoursexlife.com for the orgasm, My wife loves it. I have been a bad boy and done it to her while she is standing, she gets so weak in the knees I am holding her up and she is cumming. It is fun to do and watch. When you put your finger in her vagina feel towards the pubic bone and rub the area from just inside the vagina to about two inches in, use lubrication. The area will feel like it has a rough patch of wrinkles.. Apply varying amounts of pressure trying to lift your finger up through the pubic bone. It may take two fingers in the vagina to get the effect. And of course actually communicate with her. And Actively listen to her, watch body language and see if they agree. Ask her if the pants make your butt look big? She will most likely go, "What?" Take her shopping for you and her. She will love it. Do a fast weekend in Houston, San Antonio, Vegas, where ever. Camping. You get the idea. Spend time with her NOT at home in bed. Get that sense of accomplishment in a WE project. Pay very strict attention to nutrition, the older we get the better the nutrition needs to be. I think by now you are getting the feeling for where this is going. Swinging may not happen, but if this relationship is repaired so what? Have fun and let us know how it goes. Be prepared for a long trip and take some time.
  6. To put the matter to rest, love her, get a dna test and know regardless it will be your child. YOU ARE THE DADDY!! Smile, the fun is just beginning. Congratulations. Do start iodine supplementation ( it makes kids smarter. Check Youtube for videos on iodine) as well as complete B vitamins and include high quality protein and a very complete multivitamins. I cannot stress enough the importance of complete nutrition during pregnancy. The baby will strip the mother for what it needs and many conditions are avoidable with good nutrition. Do not forget to have liver - too many good thngs to pass up. Don't like it then eat it anyway. It's good for you.
  7. The reasons for shaving the pussy are several. Women shave their legs to remove unsightly hair. The puff that is genital hair ruins the symmetry so it goes. For some it makes clean up of periods that much easier. With current technology of disposable razors it is now easily doable. Sex feels different with a shaved pussy, both to the man and the woman. Personally I like a pussy with no hair, I enjoy it more visually. As to the little girl argument, there might be some there at the age of 40 or so, but having had both I like smooth. Either way works and I would not turn down either type. It's just a preference.
  8. Actually you can make a dildo out of food grade silicon and fashion a clit stimulator (bump) as well in the same piece. just make it an overlay and let it thin out on the sides. You could smake the mould for the dildoe from a 7 in (18 cm) vibrator and do quite well. The silicone is easily available.
  9. Sounds like a group meet is in order. I think you would want a few more couples to help round things out.
  10. Vaginal contractions with intercourse or foreplay cause my wife to "fart" or force air from the vagina. Usually happens when I am eating or fingering her and she is getting ready to orgasm. She does not get wetter. It is also not her orgasm. My first wife would get noticeably wetter with her orgasm and it was very noticeable. My ex could break a rubber if she chose. I have found a only one women that actually who did "squirt", actually what happened is they got much wetter and that was from the inside. It was not urine. ( urine on the skin will feel warm, this fluid was not warm) And it is not a common thing - it was like 1 woman out of about 50. I had one woman that did lose bladder control when she orgasmed and that was a different feeling altogether. She warned about it first. Yes, The G-spot does exist, yes, you can train it to have full body orgasms like those found at rebootyoursexlive.com. My wife can attest to this and I can make her come standing up in under a minute. It's fun. What most people don't know about sex is that they don't know. No one I am aware of has had any training on sex. The closest most come to it is the Kama Sutra, some other oriental art, or porn. Most parents are afraid of this subject as it would seem they are giving approval, but explaining how to give head, use anal sex as a sub for vaginal intercourse. How to control herself and recognize the symptoms of hormones that have kicked into high. How to put on a rubber. How to turn a guy on and many other subjects are avoided with a simple - Don't do that!!
  11. If you turn her to jelly first she won't care. You are at the average size for an adult male. When you get done then turn her to jelly again. She will love you for it. Welcome to the board.
  12. The short answer is yes. The strategy is no different than when you want to attract any female. You just hunt in different places. 1. Go where you would expect to find her. 2. Stay put, Relax and interact and get to know people. Let them get to know you. 3. Enlist them in the hunt after you get to know them and they you. This maximizes your odds of success. 4. Get ready for the long haul and be open to all invites. 5. Expect nothing. It keeps you from becoming desperate, nothing says failure like desperation. 6. Rotate clubs one in a while. Repeat.
  13. Thanks for the comments. Glad you like the pics!

  14. Why are you swinging? I see insecurity and fear in you from many places - mostly personal insecurities. They are not evil and I am not trying to punish or call you out. Merely to point out that you have a hard accepting people like you and want to be around you. You must accept yourself as you are, Drop the fear of rejection and know you can improve yourself at your leisure. She has accepted you and now you need to accept her judgement of you and accept yourself as you are. Self acceptance is required for growth. Your statement The first part is partly true, the second part is patently false. Her orgasms are NOT your responsibility, they are HERS. You can help her achieve them and that is all. You are not her secretary or her pimp. Your definition of lover ( as I read it) is purely in the sexual context. It encomapsses so much more, in every area of life, not just sexual. Sex is easy, even mechanical. But if you want to give her an orgasm - you must first have her permission. Otherwise she can shut it off. Sex in a committed couple is an expression of love, it can be lustful, hard, soft, bouncy, Steamy, sultry, painful, pleasurable, but underlying it is love. Not so in sport sex which is swinging. Your number one job in the relationship is to love her, support her, be there for her. You are not a thing there only to give sexual pleasure. She can get that anywhere even from a vibrator. She chooses you. Quit trying to control everything, it wastes your time and your energy you could be channeling to other things - like her. It causes you to operate in the world of "What IF". What if is a place that does not exist unless you will it by self fulling prophesy. Instead of what if - deal with here and now. You have choices, that is in reality all the control you actually have. Drop the FEAR and know it is a tissue of shadows that do not exist except in your mind. Accept yourself and her acceptance of you. You will find it much more rewarding and a lot more fun.
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