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Nwhappy2

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  1. No I mean swapping with a couple. We've decided since we are new that this would be best. To get comfortable with all of this. Right now I'm still not wanting to just watch... maybe that changes but maybe it doesn't. Which he is ok with. I wanted to thank you all for your honest comments, I've been thinking about them and the hubby and I have been talking a lot about this and suddenly I was hit with "the big red truck" or "a light bulb came on over my head". After ten years of being in this marriage we are able to tell each other our darkest fantasies and possibly acting them out. How cam I make my own insecurities a judgment. I will not... I'm flattered actually. I am definitely the slower half in this because I really don't know my darkest fantasy but I'm willing to figure it out with hubby. Again I'm flattered. Knowing that he feels the same has brought us passion for each other we didn't know we had... we do now!!!! Also after reading your post, you're right, some self looking needs to be done. It really has already started and it is a good thing that I'm not doing this digging inside alone... wow what a revelation. What a ride this is becoming!!!!
  2. Thanks for all the advice!! So we've talked more about this and for now I'm more comfortable with MFM first because I absolutely want him involved or couple swap, we did the FMF. I agree with the thought of how can I be jealous when we are both receiving a "gift" from the other. I have come to the realization that my hubby would at some point like to watch me and that's fine. But we will be slow poking (no pun intended) this whole LS. There just so many seneris and so many different ways this can all go..
  3. I wasn't sure where to put this and I was also really surprised when this came up. I really respect everyone's advice on here and have no where to talk about any of this outside "us". So MOD please move this where you feel it should go. I'm really into trying the swinging thing but I just wanted some advice on this subject surely didn't mean to offend.
  4. As I said the hubby and I have really been communicating a lot on all of this and the more we talk obviously the more comes out and last night he told me he wanted more than anything for me to be his "hot wife". Naturally I say geez baby what else do I have to do? I'm constantly pushing my body beyond my limits to stay fit for him. Then he shows me the definition of "hot wife" ohhhh. He is hoping that once we do a swap encounter I will be comfortable enough to do things so he can watch then after take me himself. Which I will say is hot. My only concern is once I do this for him that he will want the same in return and I am not set up that way. I don't think I will ever be able to just watch him with another woman but wanting all to play. Now he knows this and says he doesn't want that at all but his fantasy and the things he thinks about has to do with watching me get as sexed as he will "allow" then he will take over. Bringing me to another level... So he asked me to search voyeurism so I can see that he is not the only man who has these fantasies. I realize that but I guess I still have a little part of me that thinks he will want the same in return. Maybe it's just because all of this is so new and we are getting deeper in our own sexuality together that we have ever gone. This is really not a question but maybe I could get some input from y'all on here to give me some insight on this. I've been looking for threads on this topic and found one but it was just asking a quest "exibitionist or voyeurism" Would love to hear what you guys have to say..
  5. Thank you for the responses! Nice to know it's not just me. Alura what is the name of your book? I'd like to read it myself. When our first encounter does happen I want it to be awsome for both my husband and myself. I want it to enhance what we have. I don't want a green eye to mess anything up for anyone needlessly.
  6. Alright this is something I've been wanting to ask but for some reason a little afraid to for whatever reason but... I have always been a very "hands off that's my husband" kind of woman, and I'm a little worried about having some pissy feelings about my husband being flirty and showing another woman some attention. Now let me say I'm not ignorant to the fact that more than likely I will be in that same situation and for whatever reason I'm feeling fine about the sex part. (I know this is the crazy part) Also my hubby is wonderful in knowing how to treat things so that I don't feel any type of insecurities (if that's the right word). For example, we had a FMF experience and it was great then after, when we saw her again in a normal atmosphere, he was a gem in assuring I had zero bad feelings. I am 100% willing to try this and see what happens and I can only imagine what this will do in our own marriage. Not that we are doing this to fix anything because we are in an awesome place in our marriage. Already just getting this whole thing started we communicate more, respect each other more, and the sex we've been having... let me just say mind blowing! But I am a little nervous about this little green eye I have and don't want it to surface. please tell me I'm not the only one who feels this way.
  7. Thank you everyone for this great input!!! I love this forum.
  8. Wow thank you for your advice We will honestly take all in consideration and yes right now I'm not comfortable with separate room swap but I can understand why some prefer. Anyway I look forward to reading your input for second date. CoupleInMD79
  9. The "Y" is when we swap. If we swap. When we decided to try this I had no idea how many questions we would have. Even though we haven't met any couples yet it sure has been a fun time so far. I think the hubby and I are making sure we don't hurt the other in any kind of way..
  10. That was an excellent reply and thank you! I would like to hear what others have to say about this because this is the one thing we are really unsure about. When do we split at what my husband calls the "Y"? Not sure I'm comfortable with separate ride to venue but that's just me at least right now but good idea.
  11. Ok so we have our SLS profile up and going with a few pics, that were so much fun to take, and we've tweaked our profile a bit. We've had some really awesome sex with each other throughout all this and we've already had a few messages from other couples and the butterflies in our stomachs will not stop flying. Both of us seem to really be nervous about what's acceptable and what's not as far as us being ok with doing certain things to our playmates. I'm sure all these things will be discussed with our couples date??? Is this the etiquette?? We are so nervous!! Both of us... but also very excited... no dates are set up yet but I feel as though it might be soon. Another question, at what point is the swap to take place?? How does that usually come about? Is it a go with the flow moment???
  12. Thank you for putting this quest out like this. We want to hear what you all have to say about this. All advice is definitely being appreciated.
  13. Thanks for the tip.. I think both my hubby and I are a little worried about doing anything that would upset each other especially our first time. We are communicating a lot on this and hopefully when we are at this point we will know what the other is comfortable with. I keep saying it will really be important to be with a couple who is understanding and will help. We are trying to be sure that certain things are just for each other while the sex well....
  14. So the hubby and I have been reading these posts and this is something we have been wondering about (remember I'm asking this with having no experience) but in my mind the perfect thing for us is, with a couple we swap, everyone is finished at the same time. We get back with our spouse and go about our night. We have decided we are together on this through everything but what if one half the team finishes first?? What does the other half do? If we decide that after sex major affection with the other wife/ hubby is not what we feel comfortable with, at least not yet, what happens?? Am I putting too much thought into this? I just want this experience to be awesome for myself and my husband while not losing anything of our marriage.... I am loving this forum!!! Hopefully this is not a foolish question.
  15. We are new to this. We have never really had a swinging experience. We did have a FMF 3some and all went well awhile ago. My hubby and I did everything 2 people could do to one another sexual when we git together and then life happens and here we are 10 yrs later venturing into the things we discussed then. I'm not sure where to post this at but since we are newbies this must be the place. We decided to do this for us, to spice up our marriage but what we don't know is where to meet people. We are new to our area and have decided that the swingers clubs are to intimating for both of us. We fantasize about meeting a couple who has done this before, who will help us walk through this door. We are looking for a couple that we can be FWB but don't really know how to find them. Any suggestions?? We just joined SLS and are being totally honest in our profile. Now what??
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