My husband and I are new to the lifestyle and we both are very excited about its potential. We have been with one other couple in a soft swap situation while on vacation and although it was a little awkward, we both enjoyed it very much. Since returning home we have been trying to connect with other couples but I (wife) find it a little difficult to let go of my inhibitions and get to know others in an intimate fashion. I have been the loyal dedicated wife and did not allow myself to flirt and when other men came on to me I never allowed myself to entertain the thought because I was in a monogamous relationship. Now, I'm having a hard time connecting.
My husband and I are attractive fun and playful people but I don't know how to flirt or be forthright enough to let others know I am interested. Is there anyone out there who has managed to work through a situation like this? Any help would be greatly appreciated. I want this with my husband but am having a hard time overcoming my limitations.