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squrl78

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About squrl78

  • Rank
    Just Getting Started
  • Birthday 09/01/1975

Personal Info

  • Relationship Status
    Married
  • Location
    Il
  • Interests
    Camping, hunting, fishing, and most outdoor fun.
  • Swinging Experience
    Never have
  • Anniversary
    xx/xx/xxxx

Swinger Info

  • Favorite Club(s)
    Pt's
  1. Hello, I'm the other half. Thank you all for your input. Here is some of my background. I'm almost 40 yrs old and this is my first marriage. I had a bad traumatic sexual experience when I was 17 which my husband knows about. I have always had trust issues. I have also always had jelousy issues. We have been together for 8 years and married for 4. I went into a very bad deep depression for a little over a year and our marriage was struggling because of it. I was getting better then found out about the affair. We went to a wonderful marriage counselor and are back on the right track. I love my husband and he loves me. I'm glad we were able to get past that part of our lives. I like going to the strip club and having sex in front of people and know that people are watching us but after reading some input I don't thing our marriage is strong enough to swing yet. We are strong just not that strong. Thank you all for your help on our questions. You have really helped a lot. I told my husband this and he said ok, no problem. Maybe we will meet some of you down the road some time.
  2. I agree with you 100%. I have not pushed her in any way. I know that will not work out in the end. We have commented a lot about this very thing. I don't want her to do anything she doesn't want to. That will have long lasting ramifications. She is opening up to the idea as time passes. She has also open up to me that she may be interested in girls a little. Maybe as a curiosity or something more. She isn't really sure yet. I know we have a long way to go yet. But we are communicating more than ever before. Even on every day things. So if nothing ever comes of it, just the discussion and understanding of what would be needed has helped our marriage a lot.
  3. We are new to this whole thing. Well, let me start even before that. Last summer I had an affair with a much younger woman. I was found out by my wife after a crazy turn of events. We have attended marriage counseling and have since been on the right track. We have mended our marriage and she has forgiven me. During our counseling I committed 100% to our marriage. We have also open up the lines of communication. I have told her many things I have never told anyone else; including my first wife. I told her I have always been interested in swinging since my teen years, and had a bad experience with a mfm situation in high school that soured me on the idea for a long time. During my interpersonal reflection I have realized that it wasn't the situation, but the players involved. But back to the point. So during our opening of communication I told her I was interested in swinging and it was probably stemming from childhood trauma. That I need over stimulation sexully. She was shocked and hurt to learn this part of me she never knew. I couldn't quite explain to her why in her words, "why am I not enough for you?" I later found the words. I told her, you are enough for me. I am not looking for an emotional experience. You are my wife. I want that with you. It's just the physical act and the overstimulation. She could start to see what I was saying. Now to the present. She has warmed up to the idea a bit. And we have even been out to a local strip/swingers club a few times. She enjoys others watching us have sex. And in fantasy land she enjoys talking and role playing as if we were with others. We have joined a couple sites and forums to find out if this is really for us or her. She is concerned and has a lot of questions about everything involved. One of her main concerns is that she will have jealousy pop up during the act. This is not something I can really honestly answer for her. So after my novel of a post. I am asking for any advice you could give us on this matter. Or anything I may not have considered. We are both in this together no matter the outcome. Including this account. So she and I will see any responses; good or bad. So please help us out. Thank you.
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