We have on several occasions started out with a massage. We have a massage table and use coconut oil. Get someone on the table, possibly a light blindfold and low lights, and get some oiled hands on them. It is very erotic and relaxing, too. Once everyone has had a turn on the table with hands everywhere, we find the mood it right to get even more physical and intimate. Skinny dipping or naked hot tubbing is a great way to break the ice and ease into physical activity as well.