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Chickn70

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About Chickn70

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    Just Getting Started
  • Birthday 11/17/1970

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    Couple M/F
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    United States
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  1. Thanks for the suggestion. We've been watching the show. It's quite addicting and I do like how they seem to cover a lot of different situations and results. Just started season 2. We keep talking openly and have a night booked at a club for this Saturday. Nothing happening the first time out but looking forward to the experience and see if she wants to take it further or not.
  2. Finally home and can read on a standard size screen and full keyboard. whew! I really really appreciate any and all the feedback, all. It's great having an outlet where we can get experienced and honest opinions like this. I'm sorry I haven't directly addressed some of the responses, it's a little tedious to do on an iPhone with a temperamental autocorrect, lol. I know she's read this thread and we've been talking over the course of the day and I'm hoping some of this has helped, as she does seem more at ease. We're going to talk further through the weekend, establish our rules, boundaries and expectations, safe words, and then go from there. We've decided that we'll go check into a semi-local club and check things out. We've both agreed that we won't engage in anything the first visit and re-evaluate after that. Having never been to a club before, Would we be out of line asking other couples about things? Coming in as a new couple, is there anything we should expect? Are other attendees receptive to talking to newbies without the chance of sex so long as we're honest about intentions?
  3. Also an open relationship is well beyond what we'd be looking for, but I'm assuming the concerns and the answers to those concerns would be the same. This is something we'd be looking to experience and share together as a couple, not separately, and not out on our own.
  4. Thanks for the feedback all! I've showed her this thread and asked if there was anything she wanted to add. First off she's very interested in this but hesitant and concerned about feelings afterwards. As she's put it, she's very spontaneous and would be up for anything in the Heat of the moment. But she is afraid of the 'after'
  5. Hey all! Newbie here! Recently the girlfriend and I have started discussing fantasies and turns out she's actually suggested swinging. We've been dating for 2 years, relationship rocks, the sex is fantastic and not in short supply (I can't keep up) and we talk openly and honestly and really, don't have a complaint at all. Over the course of the discussions she's asked me why I'd want to let someone screw her. Bear in mind, she has this fantasy of being with two men herself. I don't have a logical answer beyond its incredibly sexy to think of her being pleased in every way and having this hot intense physical act unfolding in front of me. She's bi and has had a girl date once during our relationship and there was no issues there either. So answering this question has become a bit of an issue. Even though a lot of this has been brought to the table by her, she's taken it personally and likened it to "throwing an old shoe to a dog". It's pretty hell and gone from reality and I've told her I could care less about pursuing any of this if she has any doubts or discomforts. But I do need to answer this for her one way or another. The problem is I can't verbalize it. I've explained the difference between physical and emotional and that I'd never let anyone have her emotionally. I've tried to explain that it's not degrading her, but idolizing her and putting her on a pedestal and having her worshipped... of sorts. But I guess she's looking for something more tangible since she's used to conventional roles where anyone else she's ever dated would kill her for even bringing this fantasy up. It ends up where she feels like she doesn't have any value to me in they scenario. So it's a little confusing. Has anyone been through this before?
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