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MrDiscover

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MrDiscover last won the day on December 31 2015

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About MrDiscover

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    Discovered the lifestyle
  • Birthday 08/23/1968

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  • Relationship Status
    Couple
  • Location
    Netherlands
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    MsDiscover
  • Occupation
    Specialist
  • Swinging Experience
    3 yrs
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  1. A small update: this previous post is still very true. I'm still dating from time to time, solo. Sometimes it involves sex, other times it's just drinking coffee or having diner. MsD still enjoys this new way of swinging, in most contacts she is part of the whatsapp group and she has become good vanilla friends with three of of my dates. She loves this new group of friends. She has her dates too, but only vanilla at this point. Balance in attention is key and she hits the brakes every now and then, which is good because I have a tendency of spending too much time and energy on friends. We only have three rules now and that works wonderful: - only safe sex - max one encounter a month - no sleep over Our love for each other only has deepened.
  2. I agree with GoldCoCouple but I like to add it is a two way process, the love is deeper now we share these experiences. As for your question: it is not easy to close the door again, but it is possible. Especially for the love of the one who wants to stop. We have experienced that in a way: we stopped playing together as MsDiscover stopped playing and only dates vertically since then. I keep playing solo although I certainly enjoy it less than playing as a couple. For me seeing her having fun was the ultimate feeling. But of course I respect her decision and now we share the experiences by telling everything after coming home again. And if at some point she would not be okay anymore with me playing at all, then that would be the the end of the road.
  3. I only know the situation in the Netherlands but in most clubs the range is indeed below 30 and 45 up. No limit, I've know people in their 70s who actively play. But: there is one club, unfortunately one of the best regarding location quality, which has a policy on age (and BMI unfortunately). So I would definitely inform about any rules on age before leaving home to a club.
  4. I'm sorry but I agree with your therapist. This is not about swinging, it is about an abusive relationship in my point of view. Swinging only magnifies it.
  5. We also have this rule of 'we won't lie if asked directly' and it has been asked twice. By a friend and by a son (!). Both handled it rather well.
  6. Just a quick update: we are still enjoying our newly found happy way of swinging, which is we do everything together besides the actual date itself. MsD still enjoys the attention and communication. It works wonderfully well, after three solo dates and a few more meet & greets we can say (for now) this is a truly fitting way.
  7. I'm like Angelkins partner. Is things are very exciting, I stay hard most of the times. Otherwise, I'm back in business after a quarter of an hour or so. It can take longer after the second round, however. It also depends on how I come. If I come wihout an ejaculation, most times I stay hard.
  8. Maybe bad of me, but I found the bio disappointing. Many vanilla readers likely regard is as weird already, for the acceptance of the LS it would be better if she was a more regular doctor.
  9. Thanks for your kind reply. I can confirm this is form of the LS we can both enjoy. Yesterday I had an hoteldate with a woman in the same position as I am now and it was awsome, both for us two and our loving partners at home.
  10. Thanks for your thoughtful reply, MarniJohn. But that was not the case, it was more of a magnifying glass and showed her what she didn't like in the previous dates too. For her it is the balance. The excitement and lust has to be enough to justify all the nerves and secrets (towards our kids and her mom, e.g.) and sometimes the cheap feeling. And the balance was not leveled enough. However, for her the excitement of me having dates, the preparation and searching for possible dates etc. does justify the minor issues like having to stick to stories for the kids and me not being at home. The balance is now okay.
  11. Thanks, swpacouple, but I do feel there is nothing wrong with my relationship just because she ended enjoying the LS. I fact, I think it shows how honest we can be towards each other that - she thoroughly tried all options just to see if there was a way to swing that we both liked. - we have such an honest level of communication, she felt free she wanted to stop. - we both agreed I continue to date and we both enjoy finding dates, messaging and dating. I think she is awesome to stand up for not only her but also my feelings and desires.
  12. A little update, a happy end (for this episode). We decided to try solo dating for me. Last weekend, I had a fmmm and it was very succesful for everyone involved, including the not-participating wifes. MsD found it to be very exciting.
  13. I salute you for your courage to start the conversation!
  14. We always used spotify at hoteldates, chosen a slow R&B channel. Marvin Gay etc. A phone and a portable little speaker was all what was needed.
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