I have no idea why it's spelled that way but that is the correct spelling. The situation you described is very close to what we are looking for. The difficulty of finding someone like you have is that we have no one so it will be a stranger. While swingers understand discretion and respect privacy strangers may not have the same respect. I am doing this to fulfill my wife's fantasy with some great benefits for myself, however the repercussions of me being labeled a "cheater" personally and professionally could be very damaging. This is all part of the dilemma of finding the right girl to get involved with.