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FunWife

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About FunWife

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    Just Getting Started
  • Birthday 02/16/1979

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    M.Female
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    AZ
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  1. I wanted to come back and update since you all took the time to reply and help me. I ended up sitting down and talking to him very candidly, and told him I needed to have the truth in order to move past his indiscretions. He said I had everything and he would no longer talk to me about it. My gut would not stop screaming at me that he was continuing to lie. I put a keylogger on the family computer, not his work computer, and within two days I had everything I needed. He met her on a web forum and she was close to our area. They never stopped seeing one another, and it is possible he is the father of one of her children. I do good to get out of bed most days, and if it weren't for my children, I do not think I would. When I confronted him, he said he did not want me to know who she was as he did not want me to know how close she lived to us. He now admits to having a prepaid cell phone to talk to her and the keylogger led me to all his secret accounts and e-mails. He moved out over the weekend and I called her husband, and made arrangements to get him the proof I have of the affair. Thank you for your advice and time.
  2. I could and would believe it if I found nothing with the keylogger. I am looking for truth in his actions, however he he is unwilling to open up to me regarding her. He will answer all other questions, but he will not answer one thing that has to do with her. I could overlook a little online fun, but the emotional part is not so easy. I am taking a few days to make my decision and I consider your advice, thank you.
  3. We went about 8 months ago, due to him pressuring me. We started swinging after discussing our fantasies and wanting to explore new sexual things. He knows I read the e-mail, but I don't know if they met IRL. I don't know where she lives. All I have to go on is his word and he says it stayed online. He says he opened all e-mails to me and gave me all passwords, but I have no way of knowing if he is hiding any from me. You are, of course, right. If my mind and imagination are making this what it is not, I am destroying my marriage all by myself. I have an IRL friend suggesting I put a keylogger on his computer without him knowing, and then I will have my answer. I will then know if it is me making doubt out of nothing, or if he is up to no good. If feels underhanded to me, and I feel like it goes against what I want in my marriage, honesty and openness. However, she says if I tell him I am doing it or ask to do it he can simply change his actions and work around the keylogger by using other devices. I am torn on what to do. I long for the openness and trust we had back when we began swinging, before he brought this into our marriage. I do not understand why he needed to find sex and intimacy on the internet when I was so willing to find it with us in new and fun ways. Would any of you look into a keylogger if you felt it was the only way to get an answer? He will not talk to me about her. He says it is in the past and I need to drop it. I need to know the man I look at each day is the man I married, love and trust.
  4. Background; we have been married for 14 years and swinging for 4 years. I feel so stupid asking, but I am at my wit’s end. My husband started having emotional affairs with women online three years ago. He meets them on message boards and some dating sites. I caught him three years ago, and he swore up and down he would stop. He said nothing was as important as our family and he loved me and only me. I believed him and we started to work on our marriage and to heal. We went as far as putting swinging on hold to get things worked out. I have been suspicious since I first caught him, but he is able to explain away my concerns and tells me I am looking for reasons to doubt him. He swears he is no longer hiding anything from me, but my inner voice will not stop telling me he is lying. Is it possible to go from messaging, cybering and sexting multiple women to leaving it all behind in one day? He messaged with one woman for over two years and now swears he ended it with her immediately, but I have no proof of who she was, and no way to verify what he tells me. I was only able to read one e-mail between the two of them and he professed his love for her, but stated he could not leave due to the kids. I was also able to get into one of his message board accounts and read private messages between them. It was not strictly flirting and talking sex, the emotions pointed to more than friends. Our swinging was always based on us keeping the emotional bond for only the two of us. We have sex 2-3 each week and we don’t argue all that often. I try to be a good wife and give him what wants and needs. What am I doing wrong? I believe he continues to hide her from me, but I do not know how to find the proof since it is all online. The kicker is he is always willing to talk and be open, except when it comes to questions about her. He stonewalls me. What do I do?
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