My wife and I have an open marriage that I haven't actually taken advantage of yet.
She has, and she is not really interested in meeting couples. I might work her up to it, but for now she much prefers to have her own boyfriend(s). I can't really blame her either.
At first I was so turned on by knowing she was having adventures I had no need of my own. I think that is "a thing", but it surprised her.
After a while I just felt like my life was too busy to take on the chore of developing other relationships.
Lately though, I've felt like it would be good to be more social. It did my wife a lot of good and I think it would be good for me too.
So how does a busy guy with an open marriage go about meeting women in a similar situation?
I live in a smallish conservative area, so there isn't a "scene" to hang out in.
I didn't do the whole "hang out at bars and pick up chicks" thing when I was single, so I have no skill and little interest in that.
I've signed up on a few online sites. Honestly online meeting scares the shit out of me. People are weird. But I'm getting braver and I've logged onto a few "swinger" sites and set up profiles. What I find immediately though is that the categories are "single male" and "couples", and "single males" are ignored by much of the population on the sites.
Are onlines sites even worth the bother anyway for me?
I've not found any clubs of any sort that cater to the lifestyle. Otherwise I'd go, and my wife would go with me. We might not "do" anything, but she would come and we could get to know the scene and maybe meet some people. There aren't any even close though, so that is out.
What are your thoughts? Are there places to meet such people?
Or is a "hall pass" really just something you keep in your back pocket for years until the right situation presents itself?