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DylanTheThomas

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About DylanTheThomas

  • Rank
    Contributor
  • Birthday 05/01/1981

Personal Info

  • Relationship Status
    M. Male, Podcaster
  • Location
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  • Swinging Experience
    5 Years
  • Anniversary
    xx/xx/xxxx

Swinger Info

  • Kasidie Username
    DylanNTonia
  • Favorite Club(s)
    Couples' Playhouse
  1. There's a terrifying signal/noise ratio problem with Craigslist. Screen, screen, screen, communicate, communicate, communicate. Mandate skype video chat for verification before you agree to meet in a public place. Having said all that, we're two for two on outstanding connections over craigslist, but we probably spent ten total hours screening fifty plus responses to get there.
  2. I can play the creepy old guy, Tinder's linked to my "sexy" fb profile and it's anonymous ~enough~ that I don't think I have to worry. Who knows, if it becomes a source of under 25 playmates, why not. It too bad you can't filter by sexuality. Having said that, I do start my own profile on Tinder with "non-monogamy's a hell of a drug" to get that out of the way but no one looks at profiles so it's really just a disclaimer. We'll see how this goes.
  3. Gotchya. LL and I have had a rocky relationship but if booty ball has truly gotten better then ...excellent. In the meantime I'm throwing caution to the wind, I'm going to go ahead and try "the tinders" and see what happens
  4. So I guess in isolation, if I'm ok with it and the wife's ok with it, we could just use it to get with singles. There's no real reason to go into swinging if they're just looking for a one night stand since hey... so are we. We'd just have to do it as... singles. *twiddles thumbs* I'm a huge fan of full disclosure but if everyone just wants casual sex does it really matter if they're part of the lifestyle?
  5. All the swingers on OKCupid that are looking for swing experiences that I've seen have terrible profiles, I can't believe they ever actually found another couple or a single woman that way. I've had a ~ton~ of success on OKC but you have to be willing to be upfront. In my first couple paragraphs I bold swinger and non-monogamous among other things, plus link to my wife's OKC profile (Yeah that's right, don't do OKC a couple for fucks sake) and make it clear verification is easy and only a click away. But... OKC does require a little more prep work and a few more dates. There's plenty of casual sex to be had, you just need to work for it. :P
  6. So I've been considering opening up a Tinder account... Some other monogamish friends of mine have had great success with it. I have wonderful success with OKC but since they removed the location based "what are you doing" features its ability to facilitate in the moment fun declined considerably and as much as I love Kasidie, its "rendezvous" feature has never ended in a last minute encounter. So... would Tinder be a another tool in the toolkit or is it too focused on monogamy for it to be effective?
  7. We found that we had WAY more fun once we weren't worried about fairness, equality, etc... Sometimes things just work; we play together with another couple or get into a pile together and it's great. Sometimes she finds someone(s) and I have good conversation, sometimes I end up playing quite a bit more than her, but we both are ok with whatever ends up happening but it's because we trust we're looking out for each other. I may go off and play with someone else but between people, sessions, I always check in and she does the same. If we ever have some feelings sneak up on us we disengage and spend more time with each other. At clubs we almost always end up playing together with other people, at parties it's totally open season and I'd say two out of three times we end up playing separately, sometimes in the same room but with different people.
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