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nottieme

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  • Birthday 11/27/1978

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    Pacific Northwest
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  1. On pics and privacy: We have accounts on Swingular, Kasidie, and SLS.. We have face pics and nude pics (no pics doing sex acts, just random poses) in the private areas on all three. On Kasadie we also have face pics in the public pics but only for verified couples. On Swingular and SLS was have blurred out face pics in the public area. The idea was that we did not want someone to be able to create a free account and look at our faces. Kasadie controls this somewhat, we control it on the other sites. We used to give pretty much anyone we talked to access to the private areas but we have started pulling back since we noticed almost nobody returns the favor - even the ones that continuously send us invites. Reasons for our personal privacy policy: We are not paranoid about being found out but we don't want it to be part of the conversation with non-LS friends and we don't want to be there reason (or the perceived reason) that someone else is outed. A man recognized my wife when she was shopping at a store (she has a distinctive body/head of hair and was wearing the same shirt as the photo) and ended up following her out to her car and down the road a ways.. .After that we blurred more of the pics to hide her hair and she no longer wears the clothes in the public photos. We have no public nudes. Being outed: No - just the guy that recognized my wife.. We also had one couple that we had some email exchanges with that spotted us at a restaurant and emailed us about it a month later to let us know they thought they saw us...
  2. We are on SLS (5+ months now) and have come to pretty much the same conclusion... We no longer put effort into initial 1x1 meetings (we had about a 50% no-show average when we were trying it). If a couple contacts us we first suggest a party or a meet and greet. If they are not up for that we suggest a night out with others - occasionally we will post a hot date on the calendar for a night out at a dance club (an unofficial small meet and greet). Most have said they like the idea and to please let them know the next time we plan a night out - normally they don't show and it ends up being people we have already met which is fine. I think we may go back and try that route (meeting new people 1x1) when we get through the bulk of who is local.
  3. We are also at the four month point in our journey. I have had some issues with MFMF situations and it was a bit frustrating. We are out on the dance floor and I can't keep it down if I try then we go back into a room and it decides to be shy. I've never had issues in the past (we have done many FFM threesomes) but I had read many stories here and other sites from guys who do not traditionally have issues suddenly have the problem... So not totally unexpected. The two times I had the issue I was able to finally get it up by putting it out of my mind - if you try to think about something that normally gets you going it won't work.. I think that is the biggest problem guys have, they are thinking ahead and are nervous about how they will perform instead of enjoying the moment.. You have to clear your mind and stop the mild panic of "Get up! Get up! Naked person here! Get up! .. shit! ok.. ok.. imagining hot honey with her big breasted friend.. double ended dildo and.. shit nothing.. stop panicking! think! think! think! .. naked big boob with a strap-on and.. nothing! Why!?! F*CK! ... " It is a downward spiral.. concentrate on pleasing the person you are with and enjoying the experience, stay in the moment and stop trying to get hard.
  4. It also requires an android app... So in the end it's a command from an app that causes the dress to become see through. I'm seeing some possible money opportunities for a creative app maker.
  5. Wow this thread was started over 10 years ago.. Reading up a few I'm really curious how things turned out for poor newbie tuesday's husband though the site has been waiting for email confirmation from her since 2006 so we are not likely to get an update
  6. One more minor thing as it is fresh on my mind - please rotate your photos so you are not standing sideways. Should go without saying but I saw it three times today!
  7. Agreed. It's one (or maybe two) for the minus column when doing the imaginary arithmetic of sizing up a couple.
  8. Thanks I apologize to everyone for the use of grammar in that post. I typed it up while getting ready to head out for a while and did not proof read it before hitting post. ... so last night we had our second date with a couple. The first date went really well and they set up the second date... they cancelled (via text) after we had already arrived and paid our way in. Never a guarantee! We were at a table enjoying a drink and trying to decipher why they cancelled at the last second when another couple came over and introduced themselves. We spent the evening getting to know them
  9. We much prefer meeting new people in group situations (parties or meet and greets), totally done try to pry pictures and/or information through SLS. If we are sent a message we ask them to come by the meet and greet or if they have an issue with that we a dance club we will be on a Friday or Saturday night and to please stop by for a dance or two and say hello. If they don't show or there is no chemistry no harm done and a night not wasted and either party can exit the situation without too much trouble. Also if there are multiple people we would like to meet we can do it with one night at the club. If things go extremely well and people stick around then bonus, your drop-by dates can meet each other and maybe make a match as well.
  10. We will not initiate contact with anyone that have no pictures - or that only have pictures that don't give a general idea of what to expect (such as closeups of body parts). We put 10 public photos up, all are full body shots expect for one (which is a pic of a face) - three have both of us in the picture. No nudes but one full body shot of her from the back wearing a thong and no top. We will respond to those that contact us regardless of pics since there are probably some that have a "Don't call us, we'll call you" attitude when it comes to initiating contact... But we expect pics on initial contact (or the second message) we've had to ask repeatedly for some to give us photos of the male half and have decided if we have to ask more than once to just politely say no thanks. So to answer your question: Your public pics should give a general and accurate idea of what both of you look like. Nudes and closeups are not needed.
  11. So... Hmmm.. Mrs NottieMe is one of those that has done quite a bit of modification - It has become the norm in her country. Her mom had it done, her sister, all of the neighbors. There were three plastic surgeons within walking distance of her apartment. Her body does have that barbie look that defies the laws of genetics. Some of it was done before I met her, some after. I was against all the augmentations she did after we met but honestly I did not fight it that hard.. She would fly home for visit to her mother and to have dental work done and then hit me up on skype with a shiny pamphlet with some crazy thing I had never heard of that was insanely cheap when compared to here.. I would be against it for a couple of hours and then extract promises for the future on things that are off the table: don't touch the face and please no tattoos. I can't argue with the results.. She will wander around the house all day naked and smile and twirl when she looks at her body in the mirror. When we go out to clubs she wears very sexy body-hugging clothing and I've yet to go to a club here or an LS event (few as they are) where she was not the most sought after person in the place. People say they prefer natural - maybe they do - but the barbies are not suffering from lack of attention. Having said all that the truth is if you are a female in reasonably good shape most men are going to find you attractive and desirable. Men do not fret because your breasts look a little different when they doing you doggie style. They are way to happy to be in the position they are in and are are more concerned about what you are thinking about them.
  12. So a quick update on this.. We did attend this months M&G (and in the month between visited one club twice as mentioned above and our first house party a week ago - all very good experiences). This time around was great. The music was still bad but not as bad as last time (I admit to scribbling out the requests for Olivia Newton John and Nickleback before the DJ saw it). The DJ was friendly and we were able to add a couple of our own requests which he had to track down as he was not familiar with the reggeaton genre. People were much more social this time around and we met a few new people made plans for later with two couples.. so score! Our intention was to go for about an hour mainly to say hi to those we may have unintentionally ignored the last time then go to a nearby club but we ended up staying until the end. Looking forward to the next one.
  13. We ended up going to club Sesso on Friday and Saturday nights and you are right it was completely different people and atmosphere both nights. Saturday was a much more lively group with about double the people of Friday night. We had a great time both nights though the single guys really were starting to be a problem Friday night - one took out a camera while my wife was undressed and down with another woman (the other woman's husband saw it and made him put it away) at one point towards the end of the night we were upstairs literately surrounded: one to the left, one to the right and one facing my wife - I was enjoying the beat, my back against the rail, my eyes closed, my wife bent over dancing and grinding me - and when I opened my eyes they were all there and all talking like the other two were not there.. It took a couple of minutes to get rid of them all and the last one apologized for him and the others being aggressive. Earlier in the night I went downstairs to get a drink for my wife (she was sitting on top of the bar upstairs) and came back up to find a little bald guy with his hand up her dress while she was saying "to touch! no touch!" and grabbing his hand and pushing it away... oh and while not totally against any policy.. I was sitting in the corner of a sofa getting oral when two guys came in - one sat next to me on the same sofa while another sat on the corner of the couch next to the one I was on (so the sofas formed the letter L) and one had his hands down his pants... threw off the mood just a tad Another couple came in and rescued us and we ended up having an awesome experience with them. We had zero issues Saturday night. On the M&Gs - we are going to try again, we don't have any expectations except as a way to get a feel for peoples personalities and put faces/bodies to profiles.
  14. Thanks for the comments.. A couple of things: I really don't mind the single men, one of the three I mentioned above was actually part of a couple... and we did talk to two of the three couples about the meet, They could have been in the group we did not talk to but we did not recognize them if they were there. We were going to another M&G this Friday in a "nearby" city (our city only has one regularly scheduled M&G) but while talking to my wife she said she would just prefer to skip the M&Gs for now and jump in with both feet and go to house parties or swinger clubs. I decided a club would be a better start so we are going to a swinger club in Portland this weekend. Super excited! but also also very nervous! We'll try a M&G again in a few months.
  15. Greetings good people! New couple here just starting out (our profile went up on SLS in December) we have had a few FFM threesome experiences over the past couple of years on vacations and decided we would try out the lifestyle on the home turf looking primarily at other couples. We do have another account here but found it was limiting our posting as it matched the SLS and other site names.. We attended our first meet and greet last week. While it was about what we expected in many ways we still were a bit disappointed. We expected the overall vibe to be a bit more sexually charged - instead it was similar to what you would find if you went to an all-ages new years eve party. My wife was dressed slutty (laced leather tight pants and six inch heels) and we walked into a land of t-shirts and jeans. Nothing wrong with that but not what the invitation was asking. The music was.. well "2 Legit 2 Quit" was playing when we arrived and later people were trying to dance to "total Eclipse of the Heart" and about every third song or so was a country ballad. The noise level was perfect - loud enough to dance (had it been good music) but conversations could still be heard... I remember thinking about the ages of these songs and if they had done the same thing when these songs were popular in the 80's and early 90's they would have been playing "at the hop" and "run around sue".. I got the feeling new people were fairly rare as most everyone seemed to already know each other - people were friendly to us. The people hosting it were great. When we arrived I went to get my wife a drink and in the (less than) 3 minutes I was gone she was asked by three different men for a kiss and one went in for one... All part of the territory and easy enough to handle and laugh off. There was a group of probably half the people there sitting around one of the tables that we didn't introduce ourselves which looking back I wish we had. We ended up in a conversation with an older couple that we were both enjoying so we didn't go break into that circle of people. One complaint: We went mainly because we had three different couples that had emailed us that we were not sure about investing an evening because of their profile... Things like the husband not in the pictures, a bit off in some of there preferences or very hazy about what they are looking for, etc. All three were signed up to go so we thought here is a good way to get a better feel for them without investing an evening... One couple wanted to do drinks before hand which we could not do (it was a busy day).. Yet not one of these three showed up to the MnG... In fact I would say at best 40% of those who signed up attended and the event was only posted a few days before. So.. Sadly in the end it appears these things really are not for meeting new people but instead ending up being socials for the same set of people month after month. Too bad, it would be really handy when talking to someone new on SLS/SDC/Kasidie/etc to do a quick meet at the next M&G, dance a couple of songs and see get a little feel for chemistry - it would save so much time... Anyway I don't think we will be attending it again soon - maybe six months down the line. Are they all pretty much like this?
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