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  1. hi this is the husband here. I think it is really funny and hypocritical that you guys can sit on a site like this and judge me for being open with my wife about how i am feeling. When you yourselves are doing things that is completly unorthodox and would be judged by other people. What makes what you do so much better?let me guess its because you are doing it together, but i bet it was not her idea in the first place. Its no different than you guys having sex in a seperate room and even if you dont do that you are still fucking someone else. At least i came to her about how i am feeling witch speakes volumes about my feelings for her.
  2. Thankyou all for your input, so nice to be able to vent if nothing else. We are so new to this that I didnt know if I was just not mature enough to handle the jealousy that would come along with swinging etc. I dont have a problem when I see him with our female friend who is a swinger, but she is also happily married and I guess it feels different. He is actually an amazing husband and father etc and he stuck with me when I was going through issues and I want to do the same for sure. He gave me the choice on this issue, whether or not he could pursue it. I said no, but that if we could find another woman that I am not tied to in tons of ways then maybe. He said he respects my choice, but I know that ofcourse he is still wanting it, but I honestly do not think he will go behind my back, he isnt really like that. He is more likely to be blunt and unintentionally tell me something hurtful than to go behind my back. But I do NOT want any drama whatsoever, not that kinda person.He does want to do stuff with me too, but the fact that this had been made the priority had made me feeling very insecure to say the least! He says if something else comes up instead he is all for it, but right now I am kinda too stressed to go there lol. I guess I thought as much sex as we have etc, that this wouldnt ever become an issue unless together, so I feel kinda blindsided(yes I know he is a guy, but most men seem to be stepping out due to lack of sex) I am not positive where we will go from here, but thanks so much for all your responses!
  3. Hi, my hubby and I have been married 8 yrs and are really happy. We have sex at least everyday so that isn't a prob. We have always talked about swap/playing together. We have never discussed anything alone, nor did it cross my mind. He recently told me he thought a chick was hot. (she is a mom in my son's class) then it turned out she is also a mom at son's sport practice. After that he tells me he wants to "hit it". I was floored cuz he doesn't want me involved. We could start swapping or bring in another female, but he says that isn't enough. He wants to know he can still get someone into bed that is a challenge, that it is about the ego boost. He doesn't get why I am jealous of her but wouldn't be of a another woman/couple I was also involved in, that either way it is sex. The couples we know are in love and just having fun and I think that is great and could see how it would benefit their marriage, also their fun is very discreet. I asked if he would rather me stay home from practice and he said yeah kinda. He wants to see how far he can take it with her. Since she is single, I am worried she will not be discreet, and he doesn't want to tell her I know, for fear he won't get laid. He also wants me to go out on dates with other men and let him listen to sex. I would rather we just all be there no matter what we do, guess he doesn't feel the same. Given all the sex he gets and all the options I am giving him, I don't think it's fair to go out and date this/these women (if more arise in the future). All while I am at home alone, or having to face this woman that thinks I dont know my husband is doing this. Not to mention she is not the only parent that I know at these practices. He says he wont be too obvious, but that doesn't keep her from talking. This isn't about us but only about him and that upsets me. I don't think he is gonna fall for her/them, just don't understand why he wants to do stuff without me. He says he is way into me, and that this is just about his ego and doesn't reflect on me. Is he justified in his wants and expectations? Am I being unrealistic to think we could swap if I cannot handle him doing this? Please give me your thoughts!!
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