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Dannyboy50

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About Dannyboy50

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  • Birthday 01/01/1949

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    single male
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    alpharetta
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  1. I came here to this community to get your advice and suggestions, and I have gotten both...thank you. Everyone is of the opinion that introducing swinging is a very bad idea, and that we should seek professional help. OK...case closed...I am going to forget "swinging" and I plan to discuss with her again the idea of us going to counseling. If that doesn't fly, I am going to try to follow another suggestion...exit gracefully. Now, I have a suggestion for a few of you...don't add facts to the scenario...don't assume...don't accuse based on things not involved. First I wanted to give serious thought, and seek advice, before I floated this idea with my wife. I did just that. I have not ever discussed swinging with her, and now I certainly have no intention to do so. I knew it was a desperate act on my part...but I had run out of other ideas. Second, the first step was serious consideration and advice; if everything was "go", then the second step would have been a serious conversation with wife, and if everything was "go" the third step would be a serious conversation with potential other couple, including the history of her jealousy.....You were right to point out that I should not put another couple in a bad situation...but you were wrong to think that I would have done that. I'm in step one, not step two, and certainly not step three. Third, I am a man who loves his wife, who is trying to find a cure for jealousy which is destroying what could have been a wonderful marriage. After 6 years of me loving her, being faithful and patient with her...the problem is worse, not better. I hate to give up, but we have separated and divorce papers are on the table. I don't need swinging...don't want it...but I think I am healthy enough to do it, and to even enjoy it...if it saves our marriage. But, again, it appears to have been a stupid thought. I say all of this because many people who come here for advice, need their situation addressed...as many of you did with me...but they do not need advice based on added facts or assumptions which are not involved in their situation. OK, I'll get off my box now...I have enough problems.. Thanks again for the responses. Keith
  2. I'm listening to each and every one. OK....She has told me that she likes porn movies...I don't so much, so we have never watched one together...what if we were to meet with another couple with the plan being for her to get turned on and all the action was between her and the other couple...I abstain or either I do very little compared to her involvement. My goal is not to figure some "legitimate" way to screw other women....at my age keeping a love-love relationship, and having peace is more important than an occasional piece of strange ass....I am just desperate to kill the thing that is killing our marriage. I keep putting counseling on the back burner because I don't think she would participate, we have both lost patience with this old worn out 6 yr old topic, and then costs, time, etc....It just may be easier to turn lose and start over. Again thanks for the comments and advice.
  3. Thanks. Her insecurities are tied to bad relationships she had before I came along, and started right after we met. I mistakenly thought that marriage and time would show her that I was worthy of trust, and the insecurity would fade away and trust would grow, but that has not happened at all. Talking and communication and trying has kept us together for 6 yrs, but now we have been separated for several weeks, divorce filed, issues settled, and down to point of walking away...My thoughts are that if we would try this...it can't hurt...we are done for anyway...but if we did it...and make love later...then it might be a wake her up and know that our love can easily handle us fucking somebody else in the same room...Chemo almost kills a cancer patient...to use an analogy...but talking even thru a counselor is not going to kill the cancer....Have I changed anyone's advice?? If its my last chance why not give it a shot?
  4. I have a serious situation. My wife and I are middle-aged, and have been married to each other for about 6 years. We have always had problems with her extreme jealousy...paranoia..whatever...although I have always been faithful. A cashier can smile at me, and I can be in deep shit. We are now separated, she has filed for divorce, because she is convinced that I have been unfaithful to her...I was not. We do love each other, and the only problem we have is her jealousy...we are talking...we both want to be together with each other...but she says I will break her heart again..and I say that my actions have been entirely innocent...I'm just friendly with everyone...I don't need an extramarital affair to be happy. And I am at my wits end...this marriage is over, and that is really sad. Now, my wife is sexual...she loves sex. My thought is if we entered into a swinging relationship...or swinging lifestyle....maybe that would cure her jealousy...her worse fears would be realized, but there would be no dishonesty...we would be doing it with each others knowledge and approval...and since she is doing it ...how could she be jealousy...She can enjoy her sexuality...the jealousy problem hopefully would disappear...we could live together happy as a married couple...and while I don't need the swinging lifestyle....I would enjoy it. Please give me your thoughts, suggestions, etc, and if you live in north Atlanta area, possibly we can conspire to work towards making something happen. I have not discussed this with her...I think she would dismiss it, and possibly get angry, but if handled right....I see this as a solution to all the problems...win..win..win.. At least I would try it before I kiss my love goodbye.
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