Hey all,
I must apologize in advance as this might get wordy because the evolution of our experience together has encompassed a lot of time, and I think background information would be good to know.
This is the he of the couple, and while I know that the title above is a a loaded question, I think it bears asking so that I can gain the knowledge of others personal experiences to see where this may or may not go.
A little about us before beginning. My wife and I are an extremely open couple when it comes to our ability to talk and bring things up without worry of either setting up for an argument, or being made to feel inept or weird for expressing the feelings that one or the other might have. This is not something that we started out with, but as time has progressed we have honed this skill finely. Also, I know that my wife's heart is mine, and mine hers. No other can take her place, and I know that she feels the same for me. Our relationship is such that if you have one of us over for dinner without the other you may end up with somewhat of a boring evening as you would only have half of what makes each of us better people. With all that being said, let's begin.
First, background! Around 2007, during one of our many conversations, I had mentioned a fantasy of mine that had been developing over the course of the last several years. That fantasy was to bring another person into our bedroom. At the time, the fantasy for me was to bring a woman in. I mean, what guy hasn't had that fantasy at some time or another. At this point we had been married for 13 years and I really didn't think much of it as hurtful, or demeaning, or anything of the like. It was fantasy. Well, this is one of the times that I think understanding went out of the window. She wasn't happy. She "excitedly" explained to me that it must mean that she was inadequate for me and that she wasn't making me happy, and the litany of other items that went on for some time. Admittedly, looking back I can see that my presentation was probably lacking in delicacy regarding the content. I mean, I was raised by hippies. Sex and nudity, wasn't made a taboo, or a big deal. It just was. Honestly, since 2007 I have started to think that it was highly possible that my parents partook of the lifestyle just due to some of the earmarks that I have learned of since then. Now, for my wife it was different, sex was in typical southern fashion simply not talked about. Aside from "the talk" that was it. With the wisdom of age and more experience I can now see how something like this might be a bit alarming. Needless to say, after that conversation I left it at that.
Fast forward to the past few years. After the folly of that experience, I was very careful about expressing what thoughts were running around in my head when it concerned others in our bedroom. Although it had evolved to a vastly different perspective than it had originally started from, I pretty much kept it to myself. One night, my wife and I were watching a porn movie, and after a couple of scenes a scene started which involved two ladies. It was a very sensual scene, and one thing I noticed was that my wife was captivated by it. So much so, the following romp had a fire to it that led to a sheet changingly great ending. In the afterglow, we were talking and I asked if that scene had been what set her off in such a vigorous way. To my shock she said it was. This was a total surprise to me because in all our years together, she had never let on that women turned her on in the least. Taking heed to not rock any boats, I told her that I was turned on by the thought of her and another woman, but didn't press it.
Fast forward to the last year. Lately we have been going to more parties than before. Our children are older, our time is opening up a bit, and we are just generally getting to have a bit more fun. We both have always been social, and as we go to more parties, we find that a lot of the time either she or I is the life of the party. Anyway, over the course of these get-togethers, we have been noticing that a larger portion of our friends are either making seemingly joking advances to us, or outright "You can fuck my wife" kinds. We were stunned by this, but I guess with this happening she has seen that I am not a freak when it comes to this. As such, it has opened up our conversation at home. I have been able to explain that now it isn't just the thought of a woman with her in the bedroom, but men too. As the years passed, my fantasies had morphed into some startling realizations of spirit. I explained that her pleasure is my happiness, and that I didn't own her. If there is something that I can't do in the bedroom to make her happy, it would be my pleasure to make it happen for her. That I know that she is coming home with me. She then, rather than get upset, explained that she had developing fantasies with things like that, but "wasn't there yet to let it happen." Again, I didn't press it.
Fast forward to the last several months. During the course of the past few months there has been times that during sex she would mention wishing another man was in the room so she could do various things to him while I was doing various things to her, or at other times having another woman in the room so that I could do various things while she did various things. Of course, this turns me on greatly. Our conversations have been going to some of the couples that have made advances to us in the recent past.
Now, again I apologize for being wordy, but as you can see there has been a constant evolution of our sex lives together. I'm not convinced I know where this is going, but would like to know if any of you had experienced similarities that you can offer advice or warning to.
If there was anything that I didn't explain well enough, please ask me to elaborate. I sometimes have trouble expressing myself through writing. I'm the "much better in person" type.
Thanks!
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