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  1. I think it stems from watching porn when she was younger, and seeing guys say things that ARE meant to be demeaning and humiliating, and we've all seen this kind of porn. However, I've never treated her that way and the few times that she has given me BJ's to completion over 11 yrs. i've been nothing but grateful for the gift. I don't understand it, when I go down on her it's with a purpose. I want to make her cum. It's my reward. Anyway, SW PA is right. I'm not fixated on this, but I was feeling a little gipped last night after reading a "spit vs. swallow" poll on here. I get neither! LOL.
  2. This is a blog post, actually. Move it, I have no questions.
  3. I wish my wife would swallow me, or even blow me to completion, but she finds it "demeaning" to have cum in her mouth, she told me last week after 11 years together. Blow jobs are like a stop over in Omaha, NE for her on a trip from NYC to Los Angeles. She does it, but it's just something for her to endure for a few seconds in between the parts she enjoys. I love her, and I'm pretty sure that she loves me, but I'll never understand this. She started squirting a few years ago, and as embarrassed as she was about it, I was nothing but accepting. She felt dirty about it, and I was nothing but excited. They are obviously the strongest O's she has ever had, and I love watching her feel that good, even though it only happens with toys or some very active fingers. She's had more orgasms in the last year from me putting in the work, than she has had in her life, and I love getting her off. Feeling rejected though that I can't get the same level of enthusiasm from her. She said I don't taste bad, and she likes sucking dick, and I'm pretty sure at least one of those is untrue. Never, ever getting a no strings attached, I just-wanna-make-you-crazy, BJ can make you irrational, though.
  4. I agree, that's why I was glad nothing really happened. We hang out with this couple a lot though, usually every other week we do dinner and drinks at one of our houses and they drink a lot. I'm not sure if this will be a good idea at all, we'll see. I'm a bit worried about my buddy respecting our boundaries actually, because I get the feeling from him trying to play with my wife in the hot tub, barging in on us fucking and Tuesday, he was texting my wife about seeing her naked - which they've never done before - that he won't be happy with just them playing and him not getting to have sex with my wife, if they were to mess around. But I'm not comfortable with doing a full swap with them, too much junk involved. If we were going to do that, I'd want it to be at a club or with new people we meet. Seems to me that working out how we feel about each other having sex with different people could get a little messy if we are also having to consider our relationship to them and their relationship to each other. All this exploring and talking though, I'll say it again - it's thrown the switch on our love life at home. Tuesday she decided she wanted to tie me up and tease me. She's never done that before, it was fucking awesome. Then we switched, I tied her up and teased her for a bit. Got her really close to cumming a bunch, kept stopping and talking shit - made her beg to cum! It was hot as hell. Before I let her, I took out one of the dildos and worked her over good while she blew me. Not gonna lie, I'm hoping it sparks something in her brain. Then the Hitachi magic wand came out. She has incredible orgasms from that thing, but its so intense she usually stops after 1 or 2 good ones. I don't think she thought through being tied up, cause I wasn't stopping for nothing. Had to change the sheets after we got done that night, she soaked the bed probably 10 times. Possibly the best sex we've ever had and 11 years into the relationship. Life is good.
  5. I'm not sure that we're on the same page, Chicup. I can separate the emotional aspects, I don't need love - you can't get it from someone you barely know, imo. Love is a thing you grow, not some thing that you just "have". It's shared experiences and shared lives. But desire - there is nothing sexier in this world to me, than a woman that wants you as bad as you want her. Sexually. And of course, the excitement of not knowing what its gonna be like just amplifies the experience. I don't see any reason for us not to be able to share those kind of experiences, was my point. I understand I was type-vomiting and not being clear. I've kind of turned this thread into "dear diary", so sometimes it may not be well thought out.
  6. There's something happening here. Tonight, she decided she wanted to tie me up and tease the fuck out of me. It was incredible. I really don't "need" anyone else, ever. But my logical brain says "why are you depriving each other?" She deserves to feel wanted and so do I.
  7. Been a while since I update(I know, I said I wasn't going to at all, I lied). We just got back from a week at the beach in an awesome house with 2 other families. One was my best friends family, the other her best friends family. The house was awesome, pool, hot tub, right on the beach. We had an absolute blast all week, lots of boozing and late night hot tubbing after kiddies were knocked out. Lots of fun, kind of sexy environment, but it was all vanilla until the last night when her best friends family had to split a day early and we were left with just my buddy, his wife, and my wife and I. We decided that last night there, we'd get good and snookered and have a righteous time. My buddy had been getting down right flirty with my wife, smacked her ass a couple of times and made comments. Ms. Possum obviously liked the attention and wasn't disgusted by him, so it didn't bother me. It seemed that his wife had definitely been trying to get flirty with me, unfortunately I'm simply not into her like that. We had all had a great time all week though, and my wife had mentioned earlier in the week that she did think that his wife was pretty hot. It kind of surprised me, because I don't see her like that, but we didn't dwell on it. Fast forward to the last night again, we ran out of booze about 11 o'clock and I was ready to call it a night honestly. We had drank a good bit, I had a good buzz and didn't really need more. My wife agreed with me, but they pushed to get more booze and keep partying. I told him if he drove, I'd ride with him to the store(it was about 1/2 mile, but I wasn't taking the risk). On the drive, he said we should play some strip poker and get them naked. Sounded like a good idea to me. I asked what his wife would think about playing with mine, and he thought she'd be into it. I knew my wife would not be aggressive though, so I thought we could grease the wheels. They loved the strip poker idea, we all got naked and had a helluva time. I proceeded to get much more drunk than I needed to be, as did the other guy. This is an important detail. At this point, I could direct nothing to make the evening go any which way. After we were all naked, we apparently went and got in the hot tub. I don't recall this, but judging by the beer cans surrounding it in the morning, I know it happened. At some point we made our way back upstairs, and we went into our bedroom and started playing, door closed. She broke out her magic wand, which I do remember. I'm pretty sure I was talking shit to her about her wanting to fuck him and getting excited, and she seemed to be enjoying that, giving me a nice head job while she worked on herself with that amazing toy. Next thing I know, the door goes slamming open and he's standing there naked and shit canned and asking us to come eat leftover foods with them. I was not expecting this at all, and I had no interest in eating leftover foods or whatever, so I got up and pushed him out of the bedroom and closed the door. As much fun as it was to push up against my fantasy(and possibly my wife's too, although she's never admitted to this), I really wasn't trying to swap with them for a lot of reasons that night, either, and looking back on it, I'm thinking thats what they had in mind. The next day, we talked about what had happened. My wife said she was having fun with the partying and nakedness, something I don't think we've ever done with another couple. She also said she liked the attention she was getting. I asked her if she would have wanted to play with his wife that night, and she said "yeah, you should have got us playing truth or dare" (kudos to the poster that said she needs to be led into things). She also said though that my buddy started making her uncomfortable. I thought she meant when he barged in on us playing, but she said it was in the hot tub. He was trying to get his toes up on her and play with her pussy. I wasn't immediately sure how I felt about this, but given a day to think about it, it's no big deal. I didn't ask whether she let him or not, and I kinda want to know but I don't want her to think I'm being judgemental about it. We were all drunk and having fun. Long story even longer - we had a lot of fun brushing up against this fantasy the other night, but I'm glad that's all the further it went. It has already sparked some conversations between her and I about playing with other people, and whether or not we'd be open to it, but we certainly haven't worked through all of the issues. Had we allowed something to happen the other night, I could see all kinds of potential problems coming from it. She's still never admitted to me that having sex with another man is something she'd like to experience, and the talk of women has been mostly in the fantasy realm. Anywho, thanks for reading. Comments certainly welcome.
  8. I'm thinking out loud here a bit, so you'll have to cut me some slack. I don't mean that we aren't going to communicate, we are, better than ever. As a matter of fact, we made a pact last night to make sure all media is off in the house for at least 1 hour every night, and that's good for us and the kids. No internet, no TV, no phones, just ourselves. She even suggested it, I think she may be lurking here, tbh. Hi baby! I'm really talking specifically about the fantasy stuff, which is fun but isn't "our relationship". It's not that big of a deal, really. We went for a very long time without talking about those kinds of things(well, without her talking about them at all, and without me talking about them in explicit detail) and if she never related a secret hot thought to me from now to eternity, we'd be ok. We were ok all the way up to now, it's not a deal breaker. I was feeling a bit hurt the other night when I posted that, but I'm mostly over it. I'll just blurt out whatever comes to mind, no filter. She always has the filter. I'm gonna filter things a bit better from now on when she wants to know whats going on in my head sexually, though, because it's no fun to be lay your thoughts out there and then have them invalidated as "not hot", and then not get much more than a peak at what is "hot" in her brain, aside from the things we already do. I think that's reasonable. In the end, this is all sexual shit, and it's less than the icing on the cake, honestly. She's amazing, she works 60 hrs. a week, is an incredible mother, deals with me, and still surprises me in hot lingerie when I get home from work sometimes. We're more than good. I think I was getting a bit out of line with pushing these new ideas, really. It's always gotta be fun, no matter what and making each other uncomfortable isn't fun.
  9. I shouldn't say she doesn't have fantasies about me, she says she does but she is completely unable to verbalize them. Today we were texting and I told her I had been thiinking about her all day, she asked me if they were kinky thoughts. As if I would tell her now! Lol. Every single thing i've tried to spice up our sex life has been met with a "meh" at best, and derision at worst. If she wants honesty and real intimacy, she's gonna have to put herself out there a bit.
  10. I will understand if this gets moved over to the blog section....it's like dear fuckin' diary.
  11. This will be my last post here. It seems that I have a really good girl, I just needed to be reminded. We had a great talk tonight and I've come to the conclusion that she has really does have fantasies, they just aren't ones that we share, so there is no point. I'm pretty sure I'm actually not in her fantasies, despite her lame attempts to tell me otherwise, and since I want to keep her, I should probably get to be OK with this. After all, she's mine everyday in the REAL sense. She fantasizes about love and life, and wraps it up into sex. . The sex isn't the main part of the fantasy and it's drawn out over a lot of time, plus I don't really even have a supporting role, best I can tell. We work different upstairs. I can't think of a single sexual situation that wouldn't be improved by her being in the room. She can't think of a single one that won't throw up a roadblock for her....even in her bi-fantasies, I'm the guy in the corner. I'm gonna get to be ok with this, and I'm gonna close myself back off a bit, to be honest. I really do appreciate the responses though, at the very least, this last few weeks have helped her and I to understand how we're different.
  12. I didn't even need sex, honestly. I just needed an acknowledgement that today was incredible, and it was, I think. Couldn't get it.
  13. Ok. This may be a sign. We both had off work this morning, and the kids were in school. We had sex twice, with the second time coming about after talking about some fantasy shit. I told her for sure, that I was gonna jump her bones when she got home tonight. 3 times in 1 day would definitely tie a record for us, but I was so looking forward to it. She got home, laid on the other couch, didn't even give me a little affection, and then went about getting engrossed in her 50 shades of make believe novel, or whatever. I was at first excited that she was reading these, but seriously, she's obsessed now. As soon as there is one second to spare, she's into it. I know that wreaks of jealousy. I know. Of a book. Ridiculous.
  14. Thanks, I was pretty proud of myself actually. LOL. I'm really not into pushing this at all, it seems very complicated the more I read - especially so if its one partner who really wants it and the other who is doing it out of curiousity/trying to please their spouse. I'm not down with that. We have sure been having fun with the idea of it though. Nice lovemaking this morning, then some carnal quickie fucking after talking about her FMF fantasy around lunch. Now its midnight and I'm trying to keep my eyes open to see if she has any energy left when she gets home tonight. Not sure things were this urgent even in the beginning of the relationship. Plus, it has really seemed to help us develop a new level of intimacy. She saw me eyeing up this older woman at the Target today, then I saw her eyeing her up in the parking lot - then she called me a perv! I wasn't even looking at her at that point, I was watching her watch her! Nice to be able to share that with your wife.
  15. You know, Gordo, I'm starting to get that idea. We were joking around the other night and got on the topic again, she said she felt like I really wanted this to happen and that if she said yes, I'd be right on it. I explained that I'm open to the idea, but not committed to it. If she said she wanted to, we'd talk about it and likely, we'd be talking about it for a while before we'd be doing anything with anyone. Then she said she feels like I want it bad and that she feels like someone is going to pop out of the closet or something. I laughed at her, mainly because I've been really trying to not bring the topic up, but yet it seems to keep coming up(someone elses brain is puttin in overtime, and it ain't me). I told her I think she might like that, because it would make it easier on her to do it. She admitted that she kind of liked that idea....I led her down the path a little bit and we talked about what that would be like and whatnot. LOL. Then I stopped and told her the truth....."if you want this, you're going to have to say you want it. I'm not pushing you into doing anything." We've been having a lot of fun lately, it's definitely put a little kick back in our step around here. And I pointed out this board - so if you're reading this baby, don't bother checking the closets unless you hid someone in there.
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