Winter Tyrant

bbarnsworth, Thank you for the extensive post describing all that can happen, I suppose I had never thought of this, I'm going to speak with my wife and let her know what's been said, she learns by doing I learn by reading so this will help tremendously with any issues.

Thanks downunder for the kind words of encouragement.

Thanks Amantes, I actually went in today to see her. I showered, fixed up my hair and my wife ok'd the apparel before I ran her to rehearsal. I was nervous as ever and sure enough she's wasn't there! Oh well next time, my wife was super excited to hear about it too. Also the place where this girl works is actually the restaurant that a friend owns so we are not totally strangers. In this day and age here in a very open-minded and liberal town I don't know whether the same social norms exist with as much influence as other cities either (I'm not assuming this mystery girl knows) and our friend knows that we are open to the idea so hopefully she'll put in a good word for me.

So it sounds as though this is not as common or as "normal" (I hate to use that word) in the swing scene as I had thought. I'm going to try and work up the courage to talk to a particular girl soon. I'll let you guys know how it pans out. Thanks again.

Sorry for the confusion, her libido is still there but she's so tired that sex really isn't an option for her otherwise she'll be a zombie. Sex is great when it happens but I'm usually good to go multiple times a day where as she doesn't feel like she can keep up and needs some assistance.

Hi guys, It's been about a year since really visiting. Last summer while my wife was in a theatre production we flirted with the idea of getting a girlfriend for me that would be my sexual outlet, she was also training for work and was too tired to have sex. We thought about it and talked and talked and had some very passionate sex after long conversations about being with others. Fast forward about a year and the same situation arose. This time I'm actually considering it, I have done a lot of self discovery in the last year and we have grown as a couple and now she's really eager for me to find someone. She truly believes that this is what's right because she is so absent, I also think it would help me deal with my high libido. Ideally the girl would become a certain buddy of mine who would also have sex with my wife when she wants. I know of two couples who have done this with success because of an absent or libido-less partner. What I would like to know if this is too much too fast and if we are potentially overlooking something? I'm going to do some more research on approaching potential girls and also ask that anyone who is familiar with this post their experiences as well.