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  • Birthday 02/28/1968

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    Couple
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    Canada
  • Interests
    Scuba Diving, Nature Walks
  • Occupation
    Government Employee
  • Swinging Experience
    2.0 years Active
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    xx/xx/xxxx

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    Just_4_Sharing
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    Eyz Wide Shut - Tampa, Caliente Resort-Tampa

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  1. Due to the limited resources for swingers and anyone interested in the LS in our immediate area, my wife and I are considering starting our own adult website. Just do it as a hobby. No, we are not taking a site for porn or anything like that. Nor, it is intended to be money generating. We are just looking at something to provide some links to information for anyone interested in our area. Undoubtedly, the most important link would be to here, the Swingers Board website, as this has been one of the most important and best source of information to us. Anyone have any suggestions or cautions about us doing this?
  2. Just my opinion on this topic. However, if the issue here is trying to convince her to become interested in swinging, I really think you are not going down the right path. As a couple, you both have to be on the same page on the issue, comfortable about it, and in agreement with it. If not, she may become resentful and feel she is being pushed into something. We have met couples in situations whereby either the male or the female was not entirely comfortable with the whole LS approach and it ends up like the less interested party feeling like they are "taking one for the team" and is just putting up to keep the other partner satisfied. This usually does not end well. We have been involved long enough to pick up on this type of situation and never push the issue with anyone. The main point here to to have open and honest communication between you and your spouse/partner. We are all different and the LS is not always meant for all couples or all individuals. If the comfort level is not there just move on to something that you both are comfortable with and will not cause problems with your relationship. BTW, in our case, it was my wife who initially openly brought up the subject of exploring the lifestyle. We both openly talked about it ourselves, investigated things on the internet, and met and chatted with couples in the LS before ever taking our first steps in meeting and exploring the LS with another couple.
  3. My spouse and I have been into the LS for several years now and have really enjoyed ourselves immensely. We have been with couples, had threesomes, and have had sole experiences and everything has worked for both of us. In the past six months though, the early stages of menopause has had a big impact on any new experiences. My wife has not really been in the mood and I can understand it. She told me to feel free to keep on exploring myself with other females and couples. I have with an on-going female FWB who she knows of and is totally aware when we did get together. However, lately I have been been losing interest myself just feeling a bit awkward without my wife enjoying herself in the way she did prior to the onset of menopause. Anyone else gone through this and how did you feel about the situation? Thanks
  4. Hello, I am in Port Hope Ontario, I am playful and fun with a big heart. Love to play, great shape, sexy man, contact me sometime, it will be fun,. Gerrard

  5. We too are not be fans of some of the naked pics that some people post, especially when it comes to crotch shots. We realize what you should have if you are a guy or a lady, and it basically functions all the same. At the risk of being rude and not wanting to offend anyone, some people should really at least screen their pics before posting as it may be more of a turn-off, rather than a turn-on. We usually post our pics as a non-erotic couple and also individual pics that can be easily matched to the couples' pics. We do crop the faces to be discreet in public galleries. However, once we establish contact and feel comfortable with the other couple or individual, we always share face pics, especially when a meet is planned. Most naughty pics we retain to share with people we have met and either have played with or are planning to have a meet for some adult fun. However, we will never post/text a naughty including faces cause once you hit the "send" or "post" button it is out there for anyone to see.
  6. We have been involved in the LS for 5+ years. However, it really was not until we had been married for 22 years and in our early forties (yes, we married young)that we started the discussion on getting together with others. Actually, we both admit that we had been having thoughts on our own of what it would be like to have sex with others for a couple years. But,it was my wife that initiated things when she told me one day that she wondered what it would be like to have sex with another man after it had just been her and I for 20+ years. Needless to say, after all the years together, sex had started to become a little bit mundane and routine for us both. It was a bit of a surprise but it was the spark that started us on our journey over the past 6 years. At first, my wife started chatting with a guy from Australia on one of the chat sites. As the weeks went by, things between the two of them in chat got more heated and they started to sex chat, which in turn sparked a new flavour in sex between my wife an I. Normally, after chatting late at night she would come to bed and tell me about their sex talk and we would end up having incredible sex ourselves each time. This progressed with us discussing being with others while having sex and this even got things more stimulating between us. This "first step" continued for approximately 6 months. The next step happened when we decided to visit a LS club on a trip to Florida late that year. Even though we did not get involved with anyone at the club, we did meet a nice couple and had a great evening chatting, dancing, and enjoying drinks. Plus, the couple pointed us in the direction of signing up for an adult website in order to meet people. Needless to say, this sparked our curiosity for the remainder of our trip to Florida and left us having great sex and discussing naughty thoughts. Upon returning from our trip that year, we did join one of the adult websites and began chatting with some couples. Being totally green, we did not know what to expect. Unfortunately, our first meet was site unseen and turned out to be a bit of disaster. Even though we were a bit turned off from the first meet, we persevered and managed to have a great meet with our second couple. Up to this point, we have never looked back and have continued to enjoy ourselves and the dynamic of our own sex life with others. Yes, we have meet couples that we have not connected with or with who we never became involved with. But we have had some great experiences with couples and have realized that we really enjoy the MFM threesome as I enjoy sharing my wife with another guy, and my wife enjoys the attention of two guys. Even though we may have taken the cautious approach, we have enjoyed ourselves. We have even taken in a clothing optional resort as a different dynamic and are looking forward to doing it again. We continue to look forward to things developing from here.
  7. We are heading to Cuba on May 4th and will be staying at a non-lifestyle resort. As we enjoy getting together with other couples or inviting another guy to join us for some threesome fun, we are wondering if anyone has had any luck in attracting or getting the attention of potential interested play partners at non-LS resorts? If so, does anyone have any suggestions/tips/tricks that could help us in seeing if there are other people in the LS like us that may be willing to explore the possibility of some adult fun during our stay? After all, we are sure that we are not the only LS people that frequent non-LS resorts from time-to-time. Thanks and all the best to all Swingersboard members.
  8. Simply put......It is not always easy to find a couple where all four people connect and/or are attracted to each other. Plus, as we both are straight, we have found many couples whereby the female is either bi-curious or bi-sexual and wants to have some FF action. Not judging or knocking anyone, but this will not work for my wife. In our case, as we live in an area where there is not an abundance of couples that are in the LS, so it makes the couples connection more difficult. When we first started in the LS, we were only considering other couples, and never ever considered the MFM threesome experience. However, after our first MFM experience a couple years ago, we both realized that this facet of the LS really works for us. Never ever thinking that I would be, I have come to realize that I am really turned on seeing my wife being sexual with another guy. My wife knows this and really plays up the flirting with both the other guy and myself whenever we invite a guy over. Plus, my wife really enjoys the attention of two guys, be it playing with both at the same time, or playing with one of us at a time while the other guy watches. Basically, it is much easier to connect in a threesome situation and there is always an abundance of interested guys to which my wife is attracted to. May not be the same for everyone, but that is what works for us and the reason why we enjoy the MFM threesome experience.
  9. Just an update.......Things did not go as planned. I had planned to meet this couple last evening. One thing that I had requested of them prior to meeting was a face pic in order to at least recognize who I was supposedly meeting. I/we have had the bad experience of meeting without seeing a face pic in the past, and to say that it was an uncomfortable and awkward experience is the least. There is nothing worst than walking into a crowded bar and standing around and not knowing who you are supposed to be meeting with and eventually getting a text simply saying "We are over in the corner, come on over." I/we vowed that we would never do that again. When I asked for a face pic, I made it clear that I was not looking for anything erotic. I did assure them of discretion and that the pic would not be shared with anyone else or saved for future reference (which we expect likewise with anyone I/we share pics with in the LS). In good faith, I did send them several very clear non-erotic face pics of myself so that they could see who they were meeting. Yes, they did send me one pic of the female, but it was a long-distance pic in which she was dressed for what appeared to be a costume party. IMO, I would still not recognize her from the pic if I did meet them. I realize that there is a need for discretion and privacy here. However, there has to be some level of trust. I was not comfortable about meeting someone who I at least did not recognize. Therefore, after discussing the situation with my wife, I decided not to proceed and kindly thanked the couple for their interest. Hopefully, there will be other opportunities.
  10. Even though my wife and I have been active in the LS for a little over three years, this weekend will be the first time that I am planning on meeting another couple for the first time on my own. In the past, we usually met as couple with another couple, myself on my own with a female, or my wife on her own with another male. In our journey thus far in the LS, my wife and I have been involved with other couples and have enjoyed having other guys join us for some MFM fun. However, lately we have been curious as to what it would be like for myself, the male, to join another straight couple for a threesome experience. We placed an ad and have been contacted by a couple that are interested. We have chatted and exchanged pics and there definitely is interest from both sides and my wife is in total agreement for me to meet them. I have played in a MFM situation in the past with a couple my wife and I have been involved with (of course with her being totally aware of and in total agreement with). But as we had played with the couple previously, it was a different dynamic with just the three of us getting together. As this will be the first time in meeting a totally new couple, just wondering if anyone who as done this before has any advice or words of wisdom that they would like to share.
  11. As the title says, my wife has expressed a desire to find a male gay best friend. Even though both of us are totally straight, we both are pretty liberal and easy going when it comes to hanging out with others of different sexual persuasions. We never judge anyone for their sexual preferences as we do not want to be judged for our involvement in the LS. My wife has always been more comfortable around a group of guys rather than women. Yes, she does have female friends, but she is just not into the women getting together or the "girls night out" scene. She has particularly found that gay guys are really fun to be around. On a recent cruise, where the cruise director was openly gay, we both find the guy to be a riot and great fun to be around, and enjoyed ourselves immensely in his company. As for myself, the male, I find it intriguing and arousing that my wife enjoys herself so much around guys. There is never any jealousy. As I enjoy seeing her interaction with other males, this has what has made the MFM threesome situation work so well with us, and has become the main part of LS experiences. It is almost like a sexual drug for me and I get an unbelievable sexual high when we play. My wife knows this, and loves to really play up to the moment and my arousal (as well as the arousal of the other guy). The more I think about the possibility of her having a male GBF, the more arousing I find it, especially since it may result in a different twist in a possible MFM situation, if it ever developed between the three of us. Actually, I would like something to develop. It is not that there would be any MM interaction, but the thought of my wife being able to channel the desires of her male GBF into having sex with her is arousing. Not that she would be trying to convert or get the GBF to "change teams", as from our experience, most gay or bi males still do enjoy sex with both male and female partners. She has always been a very desirable, sexy, and fun-loving woman, and I think being able to have an on-going MFM experience with a male GBF would enhance our LS experience, as well as keeping an open mind towards others sexual preferences. Anyone have any comments on this issue?
  12. We also thought about the no kissing when we were first curious about the LS. However, that thought quickly fell by the wayside from the first couple we became involved with. Both of us enjoy the kissing aspect very much and could not possibly see us being with others without considering kissing. For us, there seems to be something missing or incomplete without it. Plus, it really increases the passion and heat of the moment. Even, when we are in the MFM situation, we feel that there is definitely an intensified passion in our kissing between just the two of us.
  13. Mrs and I caught the second show last night.......and things did not appear to be much better. Amazing how jealousy and insecurity played a major part on behalf of the male in the main couple of the show. Here it is, he and his spouse are out openly recruiting other couples to join in their swinger group, and on top of it telling his wife to be a bit bolder and make the first move with other guys, but his insecurity and jealousy became quite evident in last nights show. And of course, the whole religious debate came up again when the female of another couple actually came out to her mother. Kind of amusing when the mother said, "The devil spells sin as F-U-N", and how the bible says "one man for one woman". Just curious as, unless I am mistaken, were there not several biblical characters that actually had more than one wife. BTW, on a lighter note, Mrs and I joked that we spell adultery as F-U-N.........lol
  14. You hit the nail on the proverbial head for us as to why the MFM threesome works so well for us. It is almost like a euphoric sexual drug for me when I see Mrs being flirty and getting sexual with another guy in front of me. The peak to this sexual high comes when she looks at me and asks me when I am going to join in on the sexual fun with her. She is totally aware of my arousal and really plays to the situation for myself, and the other guy. Totally and very sexually arousing for myself and the other guy when she is sucking his cock while looking at me and she stops just long enough to ask me how much I enjoy seeing her doing what she is doing. No, this is never a cuckolding situation. Nor is it ever a bi-curious or bi-sexual situation. Rather, it is an experience that myself, my wife, and the males we usually play with all enjoy together. As myself and the other male always agree that the Mrs is completely in charge when it comes to play (what she does or does not want based on her mood and arousal at the time), we all feel that it enhances the sexual experience.
  15. My wife and I watched the show and found it to focus more on the negative side of the LS and seemed to pit the good against evil, especially when it came to the religious based vanilla neighbors who were trying to save those that were being recruited by the main couple. In addition, it portrayed an open, and almost too open, attitude of the main couple when it came to how they were openly recruiting other couples in the LS. It may be the way things are in other areas, but from what we have seen and experienced, most people maintain at least some form of discretion when it comes to sexual activity and being involved in the LS. Unfortunately, it did not give a very attractive perception of the LS pertaining to swinging parties and the pressure or expectation for the need for sexual activity that may be evident at these gatherings. My wife was actually ironically surprised at the way the women were portrayed as catty, back-biting and down-right evil towards one another. On the truthful side of thing, it did actually bring out a bit of discussion concerning the comfort level and trust and communication needed between a couple and other couples in order for participation in the LS to be successful. We are positive there could be a better and more positive portrayal of the LS.
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