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Very_vanilla

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About Very_vanilla

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    Just Getting Started
  • Birthday 09/07/1977

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    Couple
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    Ca
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  1. Thank you again. To be more specific, I do fear that once the first swing encounter happens that my husband may no longer find our one on one everyday sex exciting or interesting anymore. I am fully aware that I need to have this discussion with him, I was just curious if others found this to be the case or not. From what it sounds like though is that perhaps my fear is not the normal reaction. Thanks
  2. Thank you all. Bbarnsworth you are very insightful and feel you were able to know so much about me from my short post, thank you. Primarily I was wondering how everyday sex with your spouse could possibly live up to and compete with the swinging encounters? From what I've read these "play dates" may only happen a few times a year. There is so much for me to learn about myself and my own sexuality. So much brainwashing to get past. It's very hard to think outside the sheltered box I was raised in. Baby steps ? - thank you again
  3. Ok. So I'm pretty vanilla. My husband has brought up the LS. I've been reading this forum in hopes of gaining insight and understanding. My thought at the moment is how will our bedroom life be after the big step into the Lifestyle? I've read that many of you are with your "playmates" on a few occasions. I fear that once we step into the lifestyle that our personal bedroom life will feel like it's lacking and we may never be able to completely satisfy each other alone. I know we are not ready to begin the lifestyle. I know I need to work on being more sexually open. I don't masturbate, I don't watch porn. I was raised with no discussion of sex. Anything sexual or provocative was viewed as negative and dirty. Honestly I haven't allowed myself to enjoy oral sex (giving or receiving) until recently. My husband has been patient and wonderful in our nine years of marriage. I'd like to eventually be comfortable enough with sex in general to perhaps venture into his fantasy. I have a long way to go, but I'm working on it. That's the first step, right? He'd like to bring me to a strip club (he goes with some friends and I sometimes get insecure about him bring there).
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