From your husband prospective is that he want you to suffer as much as it felt when you went behind his back and on top of that he wants payback/revenge of what you have done by trying to get a single female. He's never going to find the right girl because he's too wrap up in making you feel like he feels.
What I read at what you wrote overall should be written down for him to see clearly how you feel in this forum. You're married, so that means a partnership between you and your husband. If he can't respect your wishes over the situation, I think it's best to let go before you really hate him.