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CalendarGirl last won the day on July 20 2014

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About CalendarGirl

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  • Birthday 04/25/1969

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    S. Female
  • Location
    Central Ohio
  • Occupation
    Event planner
  • Swinging Experience
    Started swinging in February 2011 but had to take almost a year off. Still feel like a newbie.
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    xx/xx/xxxx

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    CalendarGirl25
  • SwingerZoneCentral Username
    Calendargirl
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    Paradise, Princeton

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  1. Hi Glida! I'm a nudist & I LOVE it! I had been getting invited to a nudist resort for 10 years & always declined saying "I don't want to see myself naked, much less anyone else!" Finally I decided to give it a shot & my only regret is not doing it a decade earlier! After about 35 seconds of my arrival I was naked feeling free, liberated & natural! I met all sorts of wonderfully kind people of all shapes & sizes. I'm a rather curvy, busty gal so when I'm clothed many people talk only to my chest. The most interesting thing I discovered was that more people spoke to me while I was naked, not my boobs. I was astounded so I asked one of my new friends why this was. He told me that when I'm clothed he had to wonder what I looked like naked. While naked he saw "the goods" & could instead focus on learning about me. How wonderful that was! The one question I'm always asked is "Aren't the just a bunch of erect dicks walking around?" Well I've been going for about 4 years & I have only seen that happen once. He simply excused himself, wrapped a towel around his waist & went to take a dip in the pool. No one even seemed to notice. I was at the beach one day & a young girl (9 or 10 maybe) was playing in the sand. She was looking for someone to play with so I sat in the sand & helped her build a castle. She was completely free, liberated & natural, not caring one bit that we were both naked. We had fun building her castle, playing in the water, all with her parents laying on chairs nearby. It was a family, friendly resort with no overt sexual activity allowed (behind closed doors only) so it was a completely natural & welcoming environment. The American Association for Nudist Recreation (AANR) has a terrific website with a resort locator that should be helpful to you. You can find resorts in your area simply by entering your zip code. Visit it at aanr.com. Obviously I highly recommend visiting a nude beach! I've never felt anyone was just looking at me, even as a single gal. I simply felt free, liberated & natural. Enjoy it! After all it is how we came into this world & how we'll go out so why not spend most of our life that way!
  2. Hi Cuckqueanhubby! Well I am a single female on SLS so I feel compelled to post a reply. I've never heard of cuckqueaning but I'm guessing its the same as cuckholding but the man has sex in front of his woman with another woman. I can assure you that some of us singles on SLS are legit. Personally I would be open to cuckqueaning, if I understand it correctly. I enjoy being with couples that are in it to pleasure each other. I'm honored to be invited into a dynamic where the couple wants to pleasure each other, which demonstrates their love for one another. I think you should screen a single the same way you would screen a couple. I tend to stick with playmates that have certifications, pictures and experience. Obviously it should be someone you are physically attracted to as well. Then simply discuss it with the single. Either they are into it or not. I would also suggest a fetish-specific site like FetLife where they may be more familiar with cuckqueaning. Please let us know how it goes. Personally I would be interested in learning more about cuckqueaning & I bet other members of this forum would be as well. Good luck and thank you for posting the question!
  3. I don't think it's a "poly-specific" mindset, even though I'm "poly-curious". I'm single so I can't speak to how couples feel but I prefer to get to know the people I have sex with and like them. The most important sexual organ to me is the brain so that needs to turn me on. I've had sex with people that I didn't initially think were sexually attractive to me but after learning more about them I was quite turned on! On a practical note, as a single female I feel safer with friends I know so I'm able to let go much more. I also don't think swinging is just for sex. I enjoy the openness of the people, the freedom of being able to show affection as you desire, the trust and honesty between committed couples. I enjoy the people not just the sex.
  4. Don't ever apologize for laughter, it's a joyful noise! I have not tried a grinding motion, but it sounds like I should. I tend to only try cowgirl with those I trust since I know I'm not very good at it and I'm without a trusted partner at the moment. Once I get my "stable" built up I'll give it a shot! Thanks Sunny!!
  5. Unfortunately, creepy people are EVERYWHERE! The platform for meeting makes absolutely no difference its about screening & taking the appropriate safety measures. I've had mixed results meeting people everywhere. I've met 2 couples on CL & had every couple I planned to meet on SLS stand me up. Every single man on SLS has shown up for our meets and none of the single men on CL have shown up. So I don't think you can make sweeping generalizations about a platform, unfortunately the world contains plenty of flakes & fakes and since swingers are simply a slice of the world, odds are there will be plenty there as well.
  6. Hi BiCaliGirl! As a single bi gal myself I agree with the responses so far. I attended my very first house party, actually hosted by an esteemed member of this board & it was one of the best things I've ever done! I had never gone to any party, vanilla or swinger, by myself before & I didn't know any of these folks. I expressed my concerns to the hostess & she completely understood, she was a newbie once after all! Both the hosts (married couple) immediately took me under their wings & introduced me to everyone. Not only did I enjoy everyone's company but I actually played with several of them! I felt completely safe & respected every minute. Now the hostess is my best friend! It took a huge leap of faith but the best things usually do! If the vibe isn't right you can always leave but as a "unicorn", the odds are you will be treated like a queen and protected like the gift you are! Go for it & let us know how it goes! Feel free to message me privately if I can be any support to you regarding anything!
  7. How sweet of you Sunbuckus! Being back is a little bit of therapy since I'm missing my man-panion. I have to give all the credit for that term to our very own Angelkin! Thanks for such great topics of discussion...as always!
  8. I was in this very situation for the last 16 months. I met my "man-panion" on SLS so we both had LS experience before we met (25 years for him, 3 for me). We set up a couples profile on SLS and were completely upfront about our relationship. He was in the state for work and would eventually leave for his next job, so a true "coupledom" was not in the cards. We ended up becoming best friends and most couples we played with said they would never know we weren't a long-time married couple. There was no jealousy, I met some of his other partners and he mine. In fact, he gave me my best MFM experience with a playmate of mine that actually brought me to tears! I think I would be more concerned with her lack of experience than whether you were a "true couple" or not. I think the inexperience would lead to more drama. My "man-panion" and I always considered ourselves 2 singles but we really enjoyed playing together. He would solicit single men for my pleasure and I would do the same for him with single women. Some couples rejected us because we weren't a couple and that's fine. There are a million reasons people get rejected so what's one more. Unfortunately, he has moved on to his next job, but we will still be best friends. Hopefully we'll get the chance to play as a couple again, but we'll still be singles. The other morale of this story is that all single guys are not schmucks! Now is your chance to show the world that this is true. It's not a cross to bear!
  9. I'm extremely interested in a poly relationship. After 17 years of marriage (now divorced) I think it's unrealistic that just one person could meet all my needs and/or wants. I had this conversation with a recent "man-panion" who is a swinger that has never been married. He didn't really understand poly until I used a very simplistic example. He has high blood pressure so is unable to enjoy hot tubs. I love hot tubs. So I told him that if he and I were in a relationship then I would want another partner that could enjoy the hot tub with me. It seems like a silly example but he got it. Years ago I worked for a woman that had a husband and a boyfriend, they had all been together since college. She went on tropical, scuba-diving vacations with the boyfriend and Nordic vacations with her husband. She spent a week at a time on each coast, boyfriend on the west, husband on the east so she always had companionship. Even at the time I thought it was fantastic, even though I was married. Of course, I'm single, without any romantic relationship so I understand that this could change with the right partner. But I can see myself (and others have actually agreed) in a poly relationship with a man (well, at least one) and a woman.
  10. "Friends" would never ask that of me. If your "friends" are asking you to be indiscreet then I would examine your choice of "friends."
  11. NorthIndy we seem to be going through some similar life paths right now. First of all, hang in there!! Second of all, I have the same concerns. I was married for 17 years and started swinging after my divorce. I've been enjoying the lifestyle for about 3 years now and wonder if it's possible to find a partner to continue with in this journey. I don't like to use the term "dating" with my playmates because "dating" to me is the search for a life partner. I'm not there yet but I feel myself wanting "a soft place to land" at the end of a long day. I'm enjoying time with a single male companion who has been in the lifestyle for 25 years so he gets it. We've known each other for about 10 months but in July he'll move out of state so there is no option for a long-term romantic partnership. We have a very good relationship now, a sweet sensual friendship and care for each other very much. So, I wonder is it possible to find this type of long-term relationship with a single man in the lifestyle? Most single men that I've experienced think swinging is great but they would never "allow" their wife/girlfriend to participate. I don't think I'm interested in physical monogamy any more so I wonder if I'll ever find a partner that will accept swinging.
  12. So sorry to hear this Angelkin! Some people just can't mind their own business. I'm keeping my fingers crossed there are no repercussions. Hang in there!!
  13. I find it amusing that everyone is astonished that nudists enjoy costumes. I found it amusing at first too until I saw the costumes! Woohoo! You can't wear these costumes at a vanilla Halloween party! For example, this year my uncle went as a Big Top (his friends had decided on a circus theme for costumes). He wore a long t-shirt that had a big top tent sewn onto it with open flaps. Poking out the open flaps was the "trunk of an elephant", yes, his cock! LOL! My aunt even used body paint to make it look more realistic. Apparently it worked because women were pulling on it all night thinking it was a prop. It's definitely a hoot!
  14. I always laugh out loud when I see all these terms for bi. What gives? There aren't any qualifications for straight so why does there need to be any for bi. To me bi means you enjoy both sexes. Does that mean you'll fuck anyone of the same sex? No, just like you wouldn't fuck just anyone of the opposite sex. Does bi mean you'll do all sexual activities with the same sex? No, just like if you're straight there are some sexual activities you don't like and won't do. Case in point, I was married to a man for 17 years that hated oral sex (giving and receiving) so who knows what term we would have to use for him! LOL! I prefer to use the term bisexual. Curious is defined as "eager to learn or know; inquisitive" so I feel that's best used for those that haven't tried it yet but may in the right circumstances. Hmmmm, just like straight sex! Labels are shorthand and should simply be used to start a conversation. The best thing about this lifestyle is that there is something for everyone so let's just talk about it and stop relying on a single word to describe our desires.
  15. I suspect it's because no one can agree what bisexual even means much less what to call it. I consider myself a bisexual female but I've been told since I wouldn't consider a "relationship" with a woman then I'm really not bi. I have never heard the three terms you put forth before so obviously the "community" hasn't settled on a term yet. After all, not everyone can even agree what a "swinger" is!
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