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  1. It sounds to me like you two would likely be good candidates for trying out mfm. Your communication seems to be going great, plus you had the chance to try it out just a little and you both did well with it. My husband had the fantasy of watching me with others, and for a while he only mentioned wanting to see me with another woman. I wasn't fully on board with that (I've never been with a woman, though a bit curious), and he never pushed the issue at all. It was just something we discussed. Then one day we were talking and he asked how I felt about another guy. I was quite a bit more excited by that idea. Since we had been discussing swinging, an open relationship, and those topics in general for 7 years, we talked about it for a few more days and started up a profile on sls just to see how things went. We dealt with a couple flakes and a cheater right off the bat, but have since found several great guys who we'd both love to see again. We're actually meeting someone new tonight and we're both really excited. If you're interested we have a post both on our very first experience where my husband just watched, and another on the first mfm we had under the "first time experiences" forum.
  2. I certainly don't mind sharing anything that could be helpful information to guys who are figuring out how to go about it (with the very limited experience I have mind you), but I'm not willing to share any very sexual details of the encounter. Just what I put here is a bit more graphic than I'd normally like to share. That said, if you two single males (or anyone else) would like to ask a few questions I'd be happy to answer.
  3. A few weeks ago we had our first swinging experience with a single guy, and it was great. In that experience my husband just watched to fulfill that part of his fantasy and so we could get more comfortable. This past Friday, we called him up and all got together at his place again. We all hung out in the living room for a while and played a couple games and laughed and talked. After about an hour he asked if we were ready for more (at this point he had already been kind of cuddled next to me on the couch for a while) so I said yes and we started kissing. He asked what we wanted for the night and we let him know that we wanted my husband to be involved this time which he thought was great so we all moved to his room. I have to say it was quite different at first. There were hands and lips everywhere, and two guys working together to get my clothes off. I'd be laying there and look up, and have two people over me instead of one. Definitely had a few "oh my gosh, what am I doing?" moments, but more in disbelief it was actually happening and working. I must say, they did an excellent job sharing me and it went much more smoothly that I would have imagined. One person would position themselves near my head and the other lower, we'd do that a while then they'd switch. It was a little funny deciding who would actually fuck me first, but my husband told him to go ahead and go first so he did. It was nice that even after he was done, he stayed fully involved with me while my husband had me finish, and even while my husband and I were having sex he continued to touch and kiss me. Not sure how well I did as it was different to figure out what to do with two guys instead of just one, but neither complained so it couldn't have been too bad. After, he asked if we wanted to hang out a little longer so we did. We all just sat around in his living room chatting and laughing and having a great time. Again, we were both incredibly happy with how things turned out. Still no jealousy, my husband thinks I did a good job with dividing my attention so neither felt left out, and he was very happy with how effortlessly they were able to share me.
  4. I'm quite new at this, so my advice can be taken with a grain of salt, but I think perhaps you should be more picky about the guy you and your wife choose. You two are the ones inviting someone into your sex life, and they should fit the mold of what you want pretty closely. This guy now knows he can get his ideal situation: sex with your wife without anyone else around. He's not going to just go ahead and change his mind, he's going to ride that out as long as you let him. Put your foot down with him and let him know the next play time will be with you present, or there will not be a next time. In our profile on sls we state clearly that my husband will always be there and I am not playing alone. I promise we have not had any lack of response as there are plenty of guys who are more than happy to be a part of this kind of situation, and there are even those who enjoy being watched. Be more selective, you have every right to be in this situation. Good luck!
  5. We're pretty certain it's really ok. They each have their own singles profile where they mention each other, as well as a couples profile. I checked out all 3 profiles before even contacting him. And while I know it's not as much of a confirmation, I did chat with her on yahoo a couple of times. Very different style of pretty much everything than he uses. But I do totally agree about shying away from couples unless you can verify in person that it's ok if they play separate. In fact, that's why we've completely blocked couples from our profile altogether at this time. I was tired of the promises that their wife was ok with it. Thanks for all the insight, everyone.
  6. We have met him only once and yes things went well enough that we comfortable having sex on the first meet. And I'm asking both, how often do people here play with the same person, and how often do you keep up communication with that person. bbarnsworth, I can't believe he had the nerve to talk to you like that. As soon as a guy made that kind of demand of us, he'd be gone. We're in this for us, not anyone else. Not that we don't care about the guys and recognize their feelings as well, but we are the ones inviting them to participate and they should be mindful of that. We had been chatting a little and set up another meet with him and he had wanted to have his gf join us which was going to be fine. Then they had a little fight so she cancelled, and we decided it was best for the time to go ahead and reschedule at a later time so he could work on things with her. That was this past Saturday. Do you think giving him a week and emailing this Saturday to keep in touch and offer a new time would be ok? I'm thinking we'd like to see him at least once a month. He's a little far away for anything more regular than that. I guess I'll address it more in the next email I send.
  7. We seem to have hit it off great with the first guy we met. Wrote him a thank you email the next morning and we've discussed getting together again. We would very much like him to be a regular part of our experiences. But we are wondering at this point, if there is someone you see regularly, how often is that? We don't want to come on too strongly or seem pushy or anything, but we don't want to seem disinterested at the same time. Also, he's someone who likes the idea of FWB which in his case is fine with us, but where do you draw the line between sending friendly emails to check in and IM'ing as coming off as obsessed? With the IM I usually wait for the guy to initiate the conversation unless I have something we might need to discuss, but again I don't want to seem disinterested.
  8. The guy we had our first experience with met his current gf on sls. He contacted her and she gave him a chance, then it turned into more. I've also had the chance to chat with her online for an evening, and they seem to have a great relationship. They each have their own singles profile as well as a couples profile. The are both bi/bi-curious, so if they meet someone through their single profile they think the other would enjoy, they "share" (his words) which is why I've talked with her because he'd like to set something up with her and I (wife). Anyway, from what I've seen in the pictures and emails she shared with me, they are probably the sweetest kind of people you could hope to meet and seem very happy with each other.
  9. I'm pretty sure we're one of the couples you're mentioning. At this point, I (wife) am the only one playing with anyone else. This started because it is my husband's fantasy to watch me enjoy myself, and also to do mfm with me. At this point, there is not going to be a situation where he is not at least in the room with me so that he can be involved to some extent. He is completely ok if he's not doing anything else, so there's really no score to keep in our situation because he is fully involved as much as he'd like with everything. That's not to say that he wouldn't be happy to start fully swinging at some point if I'm comfortable enough with it, but he's also happy if this is as far as it goes.
  10. Just a little update.... We have not heard from him at all since the last email he sent with the excuse of having pneumonia. We're not going to be the ones to initiate any new contact, and truly it's probably the best thing that could have happened anyway. We were supposed to meet last week, but since we didn't it left us open to pursue another guy I had my eye on. That encounter went great and this weekend we are getting together with him and his gf.
  11. No, I haven't. That's not something I'm into really. It was his fantasy to watch me with another man, not the other way around.
  12. We had such a great time last night! I (wife) finally decided I was tired of dealing with all the random guys contacting me and went after a guy I had found on sls and was interested in. He responded back and immediately I was feeling very comfortable with him, as was my husband. Last night we had some time open up in our schedule, so I contacted him and he was able to make time for us as well. All very last minute, and of course my hair dryer decided to pick the moment I was out of the shower to quit working, but we were still able to pull together and go meet at a pub near his place. He was such a great guy, very respectful of both of us, and probably even spent more time talking to my husband than me. It made me feel better seeing how well they got along, and it just seemed for the most part like we'd all been friends forever. Not that I wasn't terribly nervous, but he was so good about it, and I never felt pressured or uncomfortable around him. He paid for our drinks, then invited us back to his place. We all sat around and talked for a while, and I had to admit that I was too shy to be the one to make the first move. He still waited a while after that, then asked permission before kissing me. We eventually moved on to his room from there and had a really great time together. My husband just watched and after told me it was even more amazing than his fantasy and he didn't have any jealousy or a single bad feeling about the whole thing. In fact, he can't wait to do it all again, and I feel the same way. I'm still having moments of not being able to believe that all just happened last night, but I'm very happy that our first experience went the way it did.
  13. Alura, I (wife) am the only one who will be playing with anyone else at this point. Mr. Play is just going to be involved with me, so I don't feel comfortable bringing a couple into it. I've been contacted by couples saying the male half is welcome to play separate, but it just feels kind of funny to me to separate a couple. That and there's been hints from a few of them that maybe we can all play some time, but we're not even considering that at this point until I'm more comfortable and neither of us want that pressure on me. Thank you for the thought though, that would make sense if that's what we were going for. Now for an update... He actually just emailed me. Said he's very sorry, he's had a terrible case of pneumonia and will be getting back to me soon. I sent an email back saying, "I'm really sorry to hear that. I hope you feel better and we'll hear from you soon. Please keep in touch if you're still serious about meeting us." I decided to err on the side of not being a jerk to him if it's for real, but I wanted to imply at the end that we're questioning him as of now. Thoughts?
  14. Thanks for the suggestion of having a few guys at once. We seem to be trying to keep about 3 going at once. Of this first group one flaked out kind of early on, one still seems interested but I think I'm losing interest, and this last guy we were both really excited about when he flaked out. I think part of the problem is that we currently have too many prospects. I know we're fortunate in a way with this, but it's somewhat overwhelming to have all of it to sort through again when I had my top 3 of the moment picked out. As for the clubs, we're a little too nervous to do the face to face stuff right now, plus the clubs around us are pretty limited in allowing single guys in. Add to that that I have a hard time telling someone no to their face and hurting their feelings (the emails are hard enough) that I know I need to be more comfortable with that before we get into that kind of situation. Now if we meet a guy finally and it's just not clicking I know I'm going to have to say no, but the plan for that is meet once for dinner/drinks with no intention of playing, then have the chance to really think about it and let him know in a kindly worded email. If we click then he will be on for a second date and the fun stuff. We just want to be more comfortable and not be in a situation where either of us might feel any pressure until we have a better idea of what we're doing. To the possibility of him being married, I know it exists and would certainly explain his actions, or lack thereof. I'd just feel terrible even though I didn't know about it, I somehow contributed to his delinquency, so I'm really hoping he is just a flake and I didn't help hurt someone's relationship.
  15. I just want to thank you all again for all the thoughts and advice. It is very much appreciated. I told Mr. Play that we could just try blocking our number and calling him, but he just wants to write this guy off for now and focus elsewhere, so I guess that's what we're doing. If he actually does contact us again we'll see where it goes, and if not then you're right, sweet, it's his loss.
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