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  1. Here's an update for everyone (if anyone is still listening!) ... So it turns out bringing up swinging didn't really ruin my marriage after all, as I had initially and stupidly feared. What rang true is what I have read in a lot of other posts on this board, and that is: if your marriage is strong enough, nothing can shake the foundation, least of all things that involve situations which both partners can derive pleasure from. So the short version is: I did bring it up! And she did say yes to soft swinging!!! (which is what I want anyway) Thanks to everybody who helped me and thanks to all the threads on this board. The long version: So here's how this happened. So we'd been experimenting with having sex in risky places (such as our balcony) and in front of the mirror at my behest over the past few months and the Mrs. enjoyed all those situations a lot. She actually brought up the balcony sex! Needless to say I was extremely encouraged. So while doing it in front of the mirror a few nights ago, I struck up a conversation about how it not only turns us on to see ourselves doing it, it actually feels like another couple is watching us. And she agreed and appeared to enjoy the scenario. So I asked us if she'd be turned on if another couple WAS indeed present, and she said it'd be like watching our own live porn. So I laughed and said it'll actually be hotter because we could actually reach out and touch them. To that she did say that she wouldn't actually wanna touch anyone but I AM OK WITH THAT! Going ahead from there, we talked about how we can't really have anyone we know what us, etc. and how it needs to be a couple as opposed to single guys (though single women would be less creepy lol). NEXT STEPS: I DON'T KNOW!!! So I know she is interested. Now I need to see if she's be interested in actually meeting some people online first and seeing if that actually turns her on. It's just an idea right now and ideas are hot, until sometimes you find when you actually execute them that they aren't! But I'll keep everyone posted.
  2. thanks guys, i found this thread which helped me a LOT! The risks of even bringing up swinging with your partner? I think the person who posted that went through a lot of the same trials as I am going through. I also identify with the guy because he also wanted to do this for the right reasons. I think the people in this thread have given me a lot of the same advice. Today I have started to talk to her more and more about the kinky things we do and plan to do, rather than just suggesting them while making love. I will keep everyone posted on my progress, with the hope she can get to read these things one day
  3. All good points. And yes, I wanna stress that it's been all about her pleasure for me anyway. I actually have been pretty shy about sex in public but after she kind of insinuated we keep the curtains open and then urged me to do it on the balcony, not only did it open my mind to new possibilities but it also signaled to me that she could be open to even more different things. I am pretty giving with sex as well so I don't know if she will question my motivation per se. The question in my mind is whether she'll look at me as less of an individual that I would be willing to share her with someone and whether the moral dilemma would become too much to handle. In any case, I will keep you guys posted. I really do appreciate all your help!
  4. Hello everyone, brand new member here from the Hartford, CT area. I have been reading all the boards and have taken in all the sage advice and I must admit I have learned a lot. So thank you all, in advance. My dilemma is this: My wife is kind of a light free spirit, meaning she likes to have sex in public, trying out new things such as new sexual positions and situations, etc. She's also into role play. So she's not conservative at all. ( enjoy all of those things as well.) We have joked about threesomes in the past, but not with anyone we know. My motivation is not a threesome, however. I just wanna start with some soft swap - maybe have someone watch us at first. I know that the only way to bring up swinging is to talk about it. But my fear is that it may turn my wife off completely or put doubts in her mind about my motivations. Will bringing this up damage my marriage? I think it's needless to say we're very much in love, and are quite stable mentally.
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