Hi All,
Thanks for a good forum. Been reading alot of good advice here, and was hoping for some feedback as well.
My wife and I are in our early 40's. Been married 10 years, with 2 kids. Marriage started with great sex but has fizzled a bit over the years. Lately the topic of threesomes has come up, and the idea of a MMF (or MMMF) has really excited the both of us. We'll start taking about it in bed and wind up having some hot sex. Or she'll come home and tell me about some hot guy she saw and teasing me how she'd like to bring him home, knowing it will lead to us having some hot sex later that night.
She's very attractive with a strong sexual desire, and has fantasized about having 2 or more men for a while. I've also had MMF fantasys for a long time. It turns me on to see a woman getting pleasure form several men, and knowing that's what my wife wants turns me on even more.
So far it's only been this kind of "dirty talk" but I think it could soon be time to take it further. But then the reality kicks in: how, who, where, etc.. and what about the feelings afterwards? Jealousy? Would we regret it? Are some things better left just being a fantasy? If we did it, would it be better with a stranger or someone we knew?
I have read alot of good advice here, and picked up that communication is key. As well as thinking it through. Right now we are kind of on the fence. It's exciting for us to talk about, and has brought alot of spark back to our sex-life, but we are wondering about actually crossing the line and doing it.
Is there any good way to "test the water"? Maybe we should go to a bar/club and let her flirt with some guys and see what happens? Is it better to plan it through or just let it happen naturally if/when it does?
Well, since it's something new to us, we aren't going to rush into it. Any advice here is welcome. Thanks.
