We've heard different things on this (whether it is in fact curable or not) and as far as we are concerned if you were infected at any point we are not interested in playing with you whether soft swap or full swap. Before playing with anyone we ask them when the last time they were tested and if they have anything. If they fail the question by either not having been tested in the last 6 months, hesitating, obviously lying, or indicating they have an STD or HIV we will pass. In addition, we do make sure we look before touching the other person's equipment and we use protection for penetration. Obviously this doesn't protect us completely but these precautions can help steer us clear from potentially dangerous playmates. We don't think in terms of whether contracting something is inevitable, we simply take as many precautions as we possibly can. The sad fact is that we see too much reckless behavior at swingers parties and that is a shame ?