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  1. Explaining my answer of indifference (which is really inaccurate but the most applicable answer), certifications are reassuring. Our main qualifications is the information (and how it is presented) in the profile along with pictures to give some idea of our attraction to a couple/person. The certification is a bonus; when there are positive certs, it ups the chances. Without them though, a good profile is adequate for conversation to begin.
  2. Good advice. The one couple we keep looking at over and over again are cute as can be and have NOTHING but nice day-to-day pics of them going about their lives. They look and sound amazing.
  3. Well, to us, honesty is SEXY. We've been looking at a few couples here and there and neither of them are exactly perfectly HWP. But because they provide equal treatment to both partners, it is attractive! They're nice looking, not movie stars, but genuine! And that, to us, is sexier than anything out there. If people have a lack of attractiveness due to your extra pounds, they'll find a match elsewhere. Meanwhile, you will too! Skinny or fat, neither is "all that." LOL.
  4. Thanks all for the responses... didn't mean to start a rant session but this is obviously a sore spot for many folk. We were just... well... curious if there was a logical reason behind it since it seems to be almost the norm. We were looking at profiles to get ideas on how to develop ours and well... that question came up and I thought what better way to get an answer than to ask the experienced community on swinger's board? I tried to make it humorous! Not ranty. Emotions stirred though didn't they? I searched in the forums for various combinations of the words profile and pics and male pics, etc., but didn't find anything immediately and time was short for me and the lack of immediate search hits made me think the topic was null and that perhaps it may indeed be the norm or that there was some reason behind it; my apologies, perhaps I should have delved deeper and waited until I had more time. I typically research things to the Nth degree. Otherwise I sure wouldn't have started a new thread. Fun4Ds, that sounded almost like a challenge. Forgive me if I perceived it that way. I will say that we JUST put a profile up. And well... that's just it, we don't have any pics up yet because the ones we have have backgrounds in them of places our vanilla friends, work colleagues, etc. might recognize, or we're wearing outfits we wear often. There seems to be differing opinions on the topic of discretion but we've decided to try and keep our potential swinger journeys separate from our vanilla social circle but take somewhat of a risk by posting a profile that will describe us enough so that other couples with like mindsets can judge if they want to contact us or not, but leave out things like hobbies or too detailed of descriptions (things that are distinctive to us descriptively) until we get to know a potential couple a little better. We are planning on a pic taking session for both of us soon within a motel room, or with an outside background that will be somewhat generic. We have a decent camera with a timer and a tripod. As far as for pics of the male half, I (the male half) have a couple of nice torso only shots of my chest, cropping off the face (but again, because of the background we decided we won't be using those). Meanwhile Fun4Ds, for example, we have seen a few where the couple is standing side by side and they have blocked out their faces, or have cut off the heads. Nice. At least you can get an idea, right? We plan on having, on Swing Lifestyle, 2 of each alone and 2 of us together, with facial discretion, meaning we will photoshop or paint out the faces, or crop out the heads entirely. We just bought a membership to Swing Lifestyle but when we think "what do WE want to see" as a basis for how to develop our own profile, this is all input we'll take into consideration. For an unpaid member, the limit is 6 public pics for viewing, because of that the 6 pics I mentioned should be sufficient to give viewers an idea before they do or don't contact us. So... when that photo project gets completed, I'll be glad to post a link to our profile. For now, there's not much there to see other than a glaring neon sign that says to everyone "Wow... these folk are greener than anyone on here" LOL... but we're working on it. Again, sorry for rubbing a sore spot, we really were just trying to understand why 8 out of 10 profiles (a made up statistic based on our own perception were like that. Remember, we are such newbies that everything makes us curious. I asked, the forum spoke, we get it. We're not alone in our thoughts, we won't down anyone who doesn't have a male pic up (we just won't continue contact if they won't share and we'll politely say 'no thank you'), and we'll develop our profile based on the question of "What do we like to see?" Have a great day everyone and thanks again for all the input! - A journeying and curious couple with few answers and LOTS of questions.
  5. Hello all, Hope this doesn't sound a little "ranty" but... here goes. My wife and I have recently put up a very "curious for now" profile on a site and are starting to look at couples and... we have a question. Why do so many of the profiles out there show no pics and/or have very limited descriptions of their men-folk? It's often "she's 36-24-36 and has sexy long legs, beautiful eyes, and a great smile; he's got a great personality and loves to laugh." Okay maybe that was extreme, but just making the point... *Chuckle* We love great personalities... and believe we would value the chemistry factor outside of sex to an extent, but what we both really want is to have some physical attraction first. I mean... this is about sex, right? We look through profile after profile and there will very often (on the majority of the profiles or so it seems) be a pic of the hot lady in various sultry poses and provocative attire, usually without a face pic (and that's totally understandable), but we'd have to say that there's typically not even a torso shot of the male, and very often a VERY limited description of him. She's just wanting a glimpse of the guy before she's even curious about them. She's not Bi, although she enjoys the look of a hot lady, and thinks about the possible pleasure of enjoying the touch of one, she is more (almost strictly) interested in the male first. We're thinking the same types of thoughts, that possibly the man in the profile is not as easy on the eyes as his lady is, and because of that the profilers are attempting to attract on the basis of those sexy lady legs that are their default picture. Or the male is maybe in a high-profile job and doesn't want anyone to recognize a tattoo or a shirt he wore at the office? Perhaps it's because a large majority of the profiles indicate a Bisexual female and are hoping on mutual attraction based on her gorgeous backside? We really don't know... and don't want to assume. So... what's the reasoning behind that trend? We'd rather ask you guys than keep wondering. It's a show-stopper for us more often than not. The profiles that have caught both of our interests have a couple torso shot, or if they're less concerned with anonymity, have posted full pictures of both members, or both of them with just the faces blotted out, or even those without pics that have what seem to be accurate descriptions of both of them, as in, equal treatment. We're learning... teach us oh wise ones. The underlying tone here from both of us is... we need to see your man! Please? Anyone else have similar thoughts or a feel for the reasoning behind this?
  6. Male of the Duo posting here: We watch porn pretty regularly! I know what she likes and hunt for such specifically. We can go hard together, be exhausted with post-orgasm bliss, the pop in a few different sexy scenes (well done amateur swinger/group sex porn is our favorite), and be at it again in no time. We've watched porn just as a "Hey honey look at what I found" moment and ended up banging before the flick was over. It's a frequent, although not always, part of our sex life.
  7. Hmm... my wife and I have pretty much always trimmed up until we started watching a lot of "real" and/or staged porn, some amateur, some models, and reading on this forum. Since then we've started shaving it all. It's very erotic... but here's a question and/or problem that diverts a bit from this thread topic: How does a woman (and a man for that matter) get the shave close enough so that that tiny stubble doesn't feel like your getting a bit sandpapered? Doesn't seem to matter how close we try... it's still there. That brings up the next question: Razor bumps and ingrown hairs. (I know, ewwww). It's ugly, can be painful, and it's another problem that can get bad enough for us to say "forget it, trimmed is good." Comments?
  8. Well... we are at stage 2 in your original thread post. The husband brought it up as a long time fantasy, and continue to fantasize about it and are using the board as a research, question and answer tool.
  9. Just mutual fantasizing on occasion; no experience. Learning, thinking, processing... communicating.
  10. We've never swung! We are in the "learn, read, research, and communicate" phase LOL. So, it's hard to say what I'd do in the situation but, I would have to say that I would let her know... but in a way that promotes positive reinforcement to our sex life. One purpose of swinging is to find new ways to please the person you love, right? I would love to hear her tell me, "Do it this way, you know like did it to me!" I aim to please. My wife does too so I'm sure she'd reciprocate. Great question.
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