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About thiscouple

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    Just Getting Started
  • Birthday 06/17/1977

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    Married Couple
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    Midwest
  1. Thank you all. I do agree with what you all are saying. I honestly am not sure if I am ready for this or not. Some moments I am and others I am completely not. My emotions are on a rollercoaster and I feel like I'm jerking my husband around, though I am not meaning to be doing so at all. I want this for us. I want us both to have fun... I'm just not 110% sure it will be. I have insecurities that cannot be resolved overnight. We definitely have a lot of talking to do before we go any further.
  2. Mr. This and I have met a couple a few times. We have another 'date' with them for the 29th. We have not played with them yet (nor any couple). We are very new to this all. I am unsure if I am actually okay with full swapping just yet. We're going in with the game plan on the 29th to do some play. We've all agreed before hand it may just be with our own spouses in the same room, may be a soft swap, or may be a full swap. We plan to start out with our own spouses then switch for some soft and then it is up to me how far that goes. I hate, hate, hate that it is on me to decide, but I'm the one who is 'slow' to start so I guess it's decided my comfort level is the biggest thing/obstacle at this point. Anyway, my issue comes from the last date we had. We went to a local completely vanilla hang out and had some drinks, a bite to eat, and shot some pool. My issue is that during this the other wife is patting and grabbing Mr. This' butt. Yes, I do understand she is attracted to him, VERY attracted to him from her chats/texts with him and cannot wait to have her way with him. Okay, I'm 99% sure I am okay with all that. BUT, I am not okay with her being outwardly aggressive in public toward my husband. I saw several people in the establishment notice the behavior and obviously were wondering what was going on. At the time I didn't do anything because I didn't really know who's place it was to say something (his or mine). We'd agreed before hand no open/outward affection or flirting in a vanilla place as we both know a lot of people in this city and it's not that big a city. I'm annoyed he didn't say anything, but he figured if it bothered me I'd say something to him or her. Next time I definitely will, in fact, I'm thinking I should drop her a note before hand and restate our rule of no cross-PDA in public. I know it might seem a really petty issue to someone who has been in the LS a while, but to me it's important. I feel like if she cannot respect this rule, what other boundaries is she going to try and cross. Mr. This has a rule of noone but me kissing his neck... I really wonder if she'll abide by that or not, especially after she just tossed the no PDA rule right in front of me. What will she do when she knows/thinks I'm not looking. What I am wondering is: Is it his place or mine to say something to her? Or is it appropriate for either of us? I feel like I or he should have a chat with her before the 29th and restate our rules and stress them. I'm actually on the verge of calling off play if something isn't said/done because I don't feel like she respects my position as the other wife. Mr. This thinks that feeling is an overreaction since she just patted and grabbed his butt a couple times. EDIT: I wanted to add, Mr. This doesn't really see what happened as a PDA. I do and don't care how little a PDA it may have been, in my mind a rule is a rule. We've talked this out a lot and neither of us seem to budge from our own opinion. I'm usually the one to drop things and let it go, this time I'm not. So, I'm looking for neutral opinions/comments/anything?
  3. I can sympathize with your wife. Sounds very much like me. My husband brought up the idea of swapping. He knew I had a fantasy of MFM threesome so we went that route. Then he brings in that his fantasy really is a full couple's swap. Okay... Well, I want him to have fun too but honestly picturing him in my head with another woman was gut wrenching... nearly to the point of me feeling physically ill. I do have self esteem issues, worry if I am enough, and honestly my greatest fear is him willingly leaving me for another. We're doing a lot of talking and slowly working through it. We're supposed to do a same room encounter this coming weekend. With our own spouse, but another couple in the room. I'm nervous even about that. Knowing he'll be seeing her, listening to her, wanting her while being with me. Knowing it'll feel different and not sure of my reaction to that. It's scarey, but I'm willing to try and push through and readjust my way of thinking and hopefully we'll get to where we can both enjoy a full couple's swap the same way we both enjoy the MFM 3sums. Just be patient and take things really slow. She's probably emotionally very raw... as I am... and kind of in a tail spin not knowing what to feel or think.
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