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crystalpleasure

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About crystalpleasure

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    Contributor
  • Birthday 06/05/1969

Personal Info

  • Relationship Status
    couple
  • Location
    Corning NY

Swinger Info

  • SLS Name
    crystalenjoyment
  1. We had our profile reviewed a while back but have changed it some since then and would like the good folks here to give us a critique again. Our SLS name is crystalenjoyment. We know that our profile is longer than most. In the opinion of the folks out there are long-worded profiles a turn off? I realize that if you rattle on for paragarphs and say nothing that can be viewed as a turn off but we'd like to hope that we are informative without being boring or putting in useless info. Long profile does not necessarily mean long winded. For our two cents we dislike the uber-short profiles that seem to indicate laziness or lack of interest in conveying who you really are to others. Your opinions please and dont sugarcoat. Thanks!
  2. Did not mean to imply that the teen dance club was in any way trying to educate teens about swinging or trying to "recruit" them in any way. Obviously they are not. You and I know that most swingers would certainly not tell kids about our activities much less try and recruit them to our "side". However it is not a big leap to think that parents who dont know anything about the lifestyle to have unfounded concerns that their teens may be exposed to "people like us" at the club. What is the most common comment on news stories doing an expose on the local swinger club? The man on the street interviews with a local commenting that we dont want "that kind" of person in our community. If they only knew how many of "that kind" of people resided there and that we are pretty much like them in most respects. But I'm getting off topic. My main point is that the teens who attend dances there will eventually come to know what goes on the days they are not allowed to attend. Teens are naturally curious and with a little internet research at least some of them will find out what happens between consenting adults there on the non-teen club nights. Then the word will spread like ....well....like it does on the internet. Will that knowlege among the teens make it "cooler' for them to attend dances there? Maybe, maybe not. At some point you have to assume that most if not all of the teens will understand the "dual use" nature of the club. If anyone thinks that the teens will continue going to the club and never uderstand the nature of the adult club are fooling themselves. Will that knowlwge make the teens go out and make a "girls gone wild" video? Probably not. But they will learn about at least one more sexual lifestyle choice made by adults that most of us never would have dreamed existed when we were that age. I think it is great that the owners have a successful adult club AND I think it is awesome that they are giving local teens an apparently very safe and fun place to dance and party. While I wish both clubs success, I think they would have been better off running them in separate locations. The dual use idea for the same building seems likely to backfire eventually hurting both sides of the business.
  3. I'm glad that this club has been operating without any problems and has overcome the hurdles required for it to open. I applaud all businiss owners brave enough to try and open a lifestyle oriented business, otherwise many of us would not have a place to play. That being said, the whole "dual use" idea for this club seems like a poor one at its core. I am wondering how many adults that use the club, are also comfortable sending thier teens there? Do the parents who send teens to the dance club know of its swinging alter ego? How many of the teens know of the clubs use as a sexy swinger location? If they dont know now it will only be a matter of time. Maybe this is part of the appeal to the teens? I am suspecting that the teen crowd and the swinger crowd come from different demographics and different households? We are trying to keep our swinging activities separate from our kids lives. If my child grows up and decided to be a swinger I'm fine with that. However I dont need them to know about swinging while they are teens. I dont want them to be encouraged in any particular direction with their sexuality while they are too young to make informed decisions. The main thing I want them learning as teens is to make good informed decisions, be openminded, and hopefully communicate with their parents more openly about sexual questions and issues they have. (at least more open than most of our parents were with us...) To me this seems a little like opening a casino in vegas just for teens. Since it uses only fake monopoly money its OK and not hurting anyone right? Surely its not encouraging those teens to gamble when they hit 21 right? How many of you as (30 or 40 or 50 somethings) think that you would have been able to handle the issues that need to be embraced to be a successful swinger back in your teens or early twenties? Would you have had the maturity and trust and open communcation with your partner? Seems like swinging is a concept that you need to be exposed to as an adult and a decision that needs to be made as a mature adult.
  4. First, thanks so much for the honest input. We are still new at this and the profile is almost a living thing and continually gets changed and (hopefully) improved as we consider, and reconsider and get feedback. We were already aware that we were not practicing what we preach here. We have plenty of face pics and together pics that we open when we contact someone or vice versa. Being new we were/are hesitant about putting more easily identifiable pics in the public profile. Realizing now how others may view this we will reconsider putting out a "together" pic as the default, but still probably with our faces pixelated. Certainly never intended this to be insulting to any segment of the Lifestyle community but your comments let us know that it ceratinly could be taken that way. Again thanks for the open and honest feedback. Part of our problem with frequency is that we simply have a difficult time finding time for the lifestyle so far. If we had the time for both quantity and quality then we'd certainly go after it! We were not trying to judge anyone that has a high frequency of play. What is the old quote? A nymphomanic is pretty much anyone who has more sex than you do. A prude is anyone who has less. On the highway anyone who drives faster than you is an asshole, anyone driving slower is an idiot. All depends on your frame of refrence. Also it was not so much that we have a problem with the swinger/lifestyle label. We were just trying to indicate that (for us anyhow) the "lifestyle" certainly does not dominate our lives. We will probably either remove or wordsmith this some more.
  5. We'd be interested in some constructive (or destructive) criticism of our profile on Swing Lifestyle, Crystalenjoyment Mr & Mrs Crystalenjoyment
  6. Since we are from a place sometimes called "The Crystal City" because of its history of glassmaking (both commercial and art glass) AND because of Mrs. Crystalpleasure's enjoyment of a particular glass toy, we came up with the names crystalpleasure and crystalenjoyment. Some sites limit the number of charachters for a username and so sometimes we use crystalenjoyment as well.
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