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  1. Just want to post an update! We have had 2 GREAT experiences since the few not so good ones..and are VERY pleased !! We find it all so exciting. They both prefer the "friends with benefits" aspect of the LS...which is a plus. One couple is newer then we are but we are having a ton of fun w/ it. The other is more experienced and will likely see them less... It seems we finally found what works, and they are both full swap couples, which was amazing to say the least. Hubby and i had a few minor communication issues that we worked through, and needless, we have 2nd dates scheduled. SO FUN- this is what its apparently all about
  2. Thanks all. I know we can easily see that were making bad decisions, therefor how can we expect our swinging experiences to go well. Its funny how swinging sort of brings your flaw and your positive attributes as a couple to surface. We both can be too nice, and I especially can be too willing and open. This is all an eye opener. We are going to take a different approach, and have many couples contacting us one after the other this week, LOL, so we are looking to pace ourselves... will let you know how it goes!
  3. Hubby and I started swinging just before New Years. We met a really hot couple, (didnt appreciate their hotness at the time until we had to keep searching all over for their comp, lol). I had a great time that night, hubby did not have as good of a time (had some embarrassing issues related to getting things UP & happy). That time we drank a lot, and even the other female half ended up getting sick, and we played anyhow. Hubby later said he wanted to leave at that moment (when she got sick). We learned a lot that night. But, i had a amazing exp. 2nd time we met a young, unmd cpl, and our plan was not to do anything on the first meet except drinks, b/c of our 1st exp. Well, hubby got too drunk to drive that time and we asked if we could go back to their place (in the city, walking distance from bar). We were watching a movie and sobering up, when hubby whispers in my ear "if you find him attractive, put your hand on his leg".. so i made the moves on the guy. The guy whispers into the g/f ear, and they run off to the bedroom telling us to come along. (mind you there are 3 other roommates in their small apt!). So, we did, but hubby was very hesitant. He (we later found out he pulled a muscle due to heavy weight lifting) again could not get things happy. He was embarrassed, and I did things that night that i wasn't proud of either. again, too much drinking. We met another cpl for drinks/dinner, but we did not like them, and felt zero connection. So, bravo for us for just doing drinks and calling it a night. Our last experience topped all of these!!! We met a younger couple half way for drinks... we found them to be less attractive in person then we had wished, but they got "cuter" as the night went on. The female half was very bi, very aggressive. We had some fun at the bar (her and I), and we decided (us drunk girls) that we should go back to their place for some more fun. So, we did... and things went from OK to bad/worse very fast. We had some snacks, and were standing in the kitchen (i suspect they might have also done some drugs) when suddenly the male half fell to the floor having a seizure! My hubby sprang into action, and I was nervous and called 911, but then hung up when i saw him quickly regain consciousness. Well... then the cops show up at 2am, and i do mean 5-6 of them, followed by an interrogation, (my hubby was thrown against the wall and frisked!). EMS came and checked the male half out, who appeared to have very elevated blood pressure/heart beat. We left soon after w/ very mixed feelings. This couple called us back to update that he is fine, and doctor said it was a "freak" thing. He also emailed us and in both messages said they "cant wait to get together again"! Well, we have no interest in seeing them again. And, are not sure how to express that. They are going away w/ another couple so we have some time to think about it. Needless to say- WTF are we doing wrong here? Too much alcohol? Poor choice in couples? Moving too fast? Poor communication between hubby and I? We have been auditing ourselves as we go along, and as crazy as these nights have been, we are now looking more locally, for couples who are more reserved as we are (at least socially in public), and we are limiting our drinks to 2 on 1st dates so we stick w/ our guns about "just having drinks" rule, at least until we have a good experience. We are meeting 2 more couples this week. 1 i have been chatting w/ for a while, and they are very cool, very responsible have kids, and very careful. I hope we hit it off w/ them. 2nd cpl is local as well, older, new but also have kids and seem like fun, but not too insane like what weve been dealing with. Hubby and I really want this to work, LOL! Im sure i will get a good tongue thrashing by some of you experienced w/ this, and Im sure to an extent, we deserve it.
  4. Thanks for the responses! I like very much. We put new pics on our profile that everyone finds really sexy, so we are getting a lot of interest (very excited about that). But, since 99.9% of the face pics never seem to be attractive to me, I needed a good response. Thx!!
  5. I have to respond here... I reach out to many couples b/c I like to see face pics which many dont have public. I am very particular about the male being the female half. So- my question is... since i am the one who pursues the couple, and sort of leads them on (unintentionally) and they open face pics...which 9:10 times (my husband would say 9.9 times out of 10, LOL) I don't like, I am not sure how to respond. Right now, a couple are really really hounding us w/ IM's and emails, and I feel the need to reply and feel badly. Not sure WHAT to say or How to handle this?? Any advice?
  6. So, hubby and I dabbled with swinging for a few months now.. finally took the plunge this week before New Years. It was a couple we met on a swing membership site. We loved their pics and had some good exchanges. We set it up very last minute, very spontaneous. We met up for late night drinks to see if there was chemistry...and there must have been crazy sparks b/c the bar was shutting down, and she suggested going back to their house..to see their "Party room"... We were very excited about it all. We got to their house..shot the breeze and had a few (too many) cocktails. I knew they had a hot tub, so I hinted that I would like to take a dip. She got excited and came over to me and said she was going to get it ready, but first had to kiss me. We kissed and it was amazing. Wow. That was only my 2nd time kissing a woman, and I can't tell you how nice it feels. Her hubby set up the hot tub, and she warned us that there is only 1 rule- that we must remove all clothing to enter. We undressed and ran quickly into the tub (it was about 25 degrees outside, LOL). We got in and things got very steamy very fast. Her and I were naked, our hubby's behind us. We were kissing and touching and it was awesome. At one point, hubby was behind me, and she was on top of me... he thought that was totally wild. Finally, we worked our way back inside, and upstairs to their awesome bedroom with a huge bed. The whole set up was perfect for this (a little too perfect which makes me think they do this kind of thing more then they let on...lol....) She was not feeling to well (she was a tiny thing, very petite, and too much to drink) so we all cooled down a bit, then jumped in bed together. Unfortunately, my hubby was also not feeling too well (maybe too much time in the hot tub gave him a bad headache), but we overcame that for the most part. Lets just say i went down on a female for the first time, had a female go down on me for the first time... had my 1st 3some (FFM), and 4some, lol. I was surprised also that at one point, my hubby was having a hard time staying hard (maybe first time nerves or the fact that he had a splitting headache, lol), and i was sucking him off, and then he moved over to the other girl to suck him... which was a HUGE turn on for me..OMG... then i sucked off her hubby, and it was so intense. We played all night into the morning, when hubby requested some pain meds for the headache, and they both fell asleep as did we. Hubby nudged me that we should get on our way, and on our way home, realized we were driving with the morning commuters, LOL. WHAT a rush and a thrill. We know that this particular couple indicated in their profile that they prefer "one night stands" with no hard feelings, but are open to a 2nd/3rd with the right couple. We left the ball in their court, ended things on a good note... so other then hubby feeling a little embarrassed by his weewee not fully cooperating some of the time, We have been reminising about this since then, and are so glad we decided to explore this lifestyle. Were ready to plan our next experience!
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