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NDN

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About NDN

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  • Birthday 02/12/1969

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    Couple
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    Gastonia, NC
  1. I've been reading through the posts and some of them have really bothered me. Others have stated that she brought what happened upon herself or that she basically asked for it. I want it stated clearly that she did nothing at all wrong. The other couple and I were the ones to blame here not her. Nothing had even been mentioned by either of the other couple that they had an interest in me playing with them that night so when T tapped me on the shoulder asking me to join them, firefly and I were both taken by surprise. When I asked her if it was ok and she said yes (she was kind of put on the spot) I should have told T that I would love to but that I would like to finish playing with my own spouse first. I always tell her that she comes first with me no matter what and in this situation I didn't do that. I had an invite to play with someone else and I pretty much just left her hanging which was wrong. It's made me really upset to see that she's been pretty much bashed on here because she doesn't play. We sought this site out specifically so that we could get advice as situations arise and that others might could help her feel more comfortable with my LS, but she seems to be looked down upon as if she's in the wrong for how she feels. This of course doesn't apply to all the posts and she and I do appreciate all those who have at least some understanding of her feelings I don't agree with this at all. Yes it is a big deal for swingers to let their mates play with others (I know this because I used to be half of a full swap couple), but it's a much bigger deal for someone who isn't in and has no interest to be in the LS at all to let their SO play. Her comfort zone is pushed way beyond that of couples in which both play. In those relationships both are having a good time with others and can pretty much disassociate themselves from what their mate is doing. With her however, she's totally left out, by her own choice yes, but she's not getting to have fun while I play. I think this speaks volumes about her character and about her love for me.......
  2. I'm sorry I made you feel as you did. You know that you come first to me always. This was something new for us. We will work out timing issues in the future.
  3. Thank you for your input, but as stated, I only send an email to those looking for a single male, and state in the email that my SO doesn't play, but likes to watch.
  4. Interesting point. You would think in this lifestyle, courtesy would be a given.
  5. I am on another Swing site, and have noticed something. As many of you know, Firefly doesn't play. So, if I send an email to a couple, I always make sure they say they are seeking a single male. What I am finding is that the other couples are not even responding to say "Thanks, but no thanks". I'm curious as to if others have encountered this same thing...
  6. I have been in the lifestyle a couple years now. My better half is a monogamist. I respect her choice not to Swing, and she has given me permission to play if I choose.
  7. Swinging is not about what you do for a living. You can keep your Swinging life separate. Some of the people I have met are policemen, firemen, doctors, layers, the list goes on. And don't worry about your weight. In this lifestyle, not everyone is Barbie and Ken if you know what I mean. Hope the two of you have fun when you decide to try it.
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