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TheLorax

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TheLorax last won the day on October 7 2009

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About TheLorax

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  • Birthday 08/29/1969

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    Bedford, Indiana
  1. Not for me it isn't. If I could be 100% sure of never contracting an STI I would have no issue at all with having sex with multiple new partners at every opportunity. Not having to worry about it would make it far more exciting for me. Even STI's that are treatable are not something I care for. At all. No excitement. Just remember that life is nothing but a sexually transmitted infection ultimately ending in death!
  2. Yep. Not only is there a lot of ignorance about it since it's not an obvious disease, but there are a lot of folks who will either be deliberately blind to it or who will hide it. Many men will be asymptomatic but still infectious. It is one of the most common STIs in the world. You can minimize exposure, but there's no guarantee.
  3. There are a lot of people who on the surface don't seem to be bigoted or racist, but when it comes to something that strikes closer to the emotional core, and lets face it, even casual sex is a lot closer than casual acquaintance. Other folks have given you pretty good advise on how to proceed in this situation so I won't add to it. I am curious as to how that makes you feel about your friend though. I know I tend to lose a lot of respect for people when their underlying bigotry or racism shows through. This can be different in my opinion though from not being comfortable being in a sexual situation where the familiarity of being similar can play an important role. Is it possible that your friend was having difficulty vocalizing this type of discomfort, or is it true racism. That's what I'd want to know were it me.
  4. Put me in the camp of honest sexuality. Strip clubs bored me even before I did any swinging. Of course, I grew up with a hippy crowd so casual nudity was no big deal for me early on.
  5. Most of us have flaws of some sort or another and it can be difficult to look at the few people who look and act "perfect" and not be envious. Luckily, it takes all types to make a world, and for every type there's at least a few folks out there for whom that type is perfect Me, I accepted a long time ago that I would never be someone highly sought after for my looks, but I've had a lot of folks over the years who were strongly attracted to my sense of fun and adventure, my enjoyment of just simply playing, and my lack of expectations of how things are "supposed" to happen.
  6. I've posted before, my exwife and I started swinging in our early 20s. When we divorced on very friendly terms (so it wasn't like we asked friends to take sides) I found out just how many couples we knew who were still interested in her and not at all in me. Left me with a bad taste that lasted for years. Now many years later I can understand, but boy did it hit me hard. Luckily I found that many women in their late 30s to late 40s really like young men in their 20s
  7. Without even getting into correlation vs causation, the question I have is what parameters are used to define "swinger." Without answering that then any further suppositions from the data are no better than random. Is someone who (to borrow from Kinsey) has had one swinging experience a swinger? What about people who have had one, may in the future but have no immediate plans? What about the folks who get involved with swinging to "save" their marriage? I'm suspicious of any study of "swingers" that doesn't define the parameters first and up front.
  8. As others have noted, gathering real, useful data is darn near impossible. Cheating, while classically a reason for ending a relationship, is usually just the symptom, not the cause. A good and otherwise strong monogamous relationship can withstand a transgression, many do. Know what the leading cause of marital stress is? Finances. Now, swinging done well is built on a strong foundation of a solid relationship. But then, a solid relationship is not as likely to fail regardless of opening the sexual aspect of it. Sadly, only a small percentage of swinging is done well. At SWAG as a more than casual observer of interpersonal relationships, I'd say that the swinging community (as opposed to people who dabble or who have tried it once or twice) probably has a slightly lower divorce rate than the general populace. But I'd be surprised if that was much below statistical noise.
  9. I'll ditto the cleanliness posts. I mean, c'mon people, you know you are going to have sex soon! Jump in the shower, use a little soap and get that stuff clean! It's pretty awkward having to tell someone that their odor is way too strong. On the opposite end, if you're going to use perfume or cologne down there, USE IT SPARINGLY! Yeesh. I like cocks that fit in my mouth and go to the back just a little when my head is pushed down, but not so big as to choke me. And I like smaller inner and outer labia on my pussies
  10. I like the labia trimmed or shaved and the mons to be all natural Visually I LOVE the way a nice bush looks. I like burying my face in it. I'm hoping that the trend reverses over the next few years since it seems like 90% of the folks out there are shaved. It still looks "little girl" to me which is a turn-off.
  11. I have seen (and felt) decent implants and really, really bad implants. The ones that feel most natural tend to be the smaller implants. I want to stress that such a thing is a highly personal decision and I would never presume to tell another person what kind of body modification they should do. Having said that, I really, really like natural breasts, especially smaller ones. Having breasts lifted is something that fits my personal aesthetic once they've started to sag, and for those as someone above mentioned where most of the original tissue is gone and they are left looking like empty socks I can appreciate an implant. But if it is just a matter of adding size I generally am not in favor of it.
  12. I have to vehemently disagree that there are no bad blow jobs. I've had several in addition to the "hate them, but will grudgingly give them" ones others have mentioned. Mind you, that's out of a sample size of several thousand bjs As far as someone being so good at them that I would prefer them to intercourse, that's not one I can answer easily since I generally prefer head to intercourse. While I like fucking, I have to be in just the right mood to prefer it to oral sex. I've had partners who were pretty good at giving head, and I've had inexperienced partners who were pretty good because they had such obvious enthusiasm even though they didn't really understand what they were doing.
  13. A great post, NCMD. I know some people here have a problem with not posting completely accurate information on ads, but having had been the victim of employer problems (my then wife was threatened with her job) and professional problems, I routinely obscure identifying details when I'm online, and sometimes I deliberately put harmless things that anyone who knew me would think "that can't possibly be him." The net has a very long memory and while the gossip routine can have us "outed", it's harder for someone to do a search of gossip.
  14. I do have to say that while I've been offended by the attitude other people have copped sometimes when they feel they are morally superior, my personal beliefs are that violence is only used as a response to violence. I refuse to hang around with people with whom I have to worry that they might want to get into a fistfight over something I said. Because I take violence very seriously and it's entirely likely that someone will end up dead and I take that very seriously too since it's a no win situation no matter how you look at it.
  15. Many adult bookstores have gloryholes and they get used a lot. Other than the potential for disease they are safe enough (I've never heard of anyone getting anything cut off), compared to picking up a couple you don't know and going back to a room with them. Yes, 99% of the time there will be a guy sucking your dick They are also a fun place to take your partner into and have her suck you off, or fuck her or whatever while someone watches through the hole. Some clubs have them for private use, and I know of swingers parties where they are there for the party use.
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