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corynlaine last won the day on January 27 2013

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  1. hmm I have to say that (at least consider the possibility) you are using the picky as an excuse to avoid actually doing things. Are you sure you really want to be doing this? YEs OF COURSE there has to be attraction, but lets face it, the fantasy you concoct in your head about how swinging will go and the marvelous couple who will telepathically know exactly what you want and hot to touch you and pleasure you WILL NOT HAPPEN. So you have to except the reality of real life, real couples and situations. Within that you have to learn that what you accept or expect must be more flexible.
  2. I was gong to post about this and a secondary topic of plain fakes. While we play we would not consider ourselves in the lifestyle, and while we would love to meet a couple where all of us hit it off we find this incredibly hard. I don't THINK we're that repulsive but who knows. Anyway. Since we had a ffm I thought it would only be fair to try a mmf - while I don't consider myself by ( to me it means that I would be interested in having an emotional or sexual relationship with a man) I am open to oral etc because I know that she gets turned on by it and I like pleasing her. Anyway. In trying to look for a single guy - I looked on Craigslist and quickly moved on - but even here. The general theme under which single guys seem to operate is that the the guy in the relationship doesn't measure up somehow and that the desire to have a mmf mfm is because he is inadequate and will do this to keep her. Thus all a single guy as to do is show of his incredible, never before seen wonder dick and the girl of the couple will simple demand to have him right away. Really where do these guys come from and what gives this notion!? Or are we just prude and women actually like men like that ( ad no I am not talking about cockuld couples)
  3. Forgive me for being blunt but really there is no other way to say this. But you've been cockholded at best or your wife totally sh8 on your relationship and is cheating on your at worst. The other couple, as you state, has explicitely stated and required that you have NO PLACE in this relationship and your wife is not only willfully going along with this but shives it in your face. You say that she CLAIMS that she has told them that nothing else will happen YET you fight AND she still goes over there! This is PLAINLY saying to you that your relationship is at best secondary to the one she is having with them. I have one simple rule when dealing with people, whether swinging, work, or friends - words only have meaning when and only IF their action match their words. Now people are not perfect and they make mistakes, and their actions are not always (hardly ever) will match your ideal response BUT they must match. The more important and closer the relationship the more vital it is that words match action. Right now your wifes words and actions are not even in the same universe! You need to grow some balls and or decide whether you are ok with this or do something about it. BUT there is no middle ground here! As for your feeling bad. sometimes when you push a subject (like swinging but really anything ) and something out of the ordinary happens you make excuses for why the otehr person crossed the line. After all you brought this upon yourslef etc but that does not excuse her behavior.
  4. like everything in life, this experience/adventure is a set of compromises. Before we jumped in, we went through a list of issues both personal/emotional and public friends/family/work finding out and looked at worse case. If you are that worried about it, like for many other reasons, this LS may not be for you. OR you may chose to create a very restrictive profile (which may not get you as many or the kind of people you're looking for) or not post or create a profile on a site like this at all. You can just go to clubs and not do anything on the internet at all. That way if anyone you know sees you, your very first question will be 'really and what were YOU do ing there?' of course there is still the issue of you may have more to lose then they but again you're going to have to do an ROI and make a decision. But one way or another, if you plan to swing, it involves some risk(s) and you're going to have to deal with it.
  5. Couldn't agree with you more but I think there is a long way to go. We're both bi curious so it's pretty hard to find another couple who are also. So we've been looking at singles a bit. With regards to single guys we all know the story. With regards to single girls. What we've seen and find baffling is even in bi single girls a huge amount of the profiles spell out in big bold letters. "no bi guys". Now they are looking to play with couples. But feel the need to list this . wtf!?
  6. sorry it's been so long. I sat down to type an update a couple of times and something always seemed to ahve gotten in the way. I don't think I mentioned this before, but this couple also lives apart, though only 45 min. So we went to dinner, where the couple spent a lot of time basically having their own conversation, talking to each other. They they tell us about the wonderfull time they had on vacation (local area). My wife originally suggested that if they were interested we could drive up and have private fun time. They gave us the the same excuse that while it sounded hot, they weren't ready. So they continue on about how they went to all the sites etc. Then he tells (im keeping this short) us how they placed an add on craigslist for single guy and had a blast with him and described it in detail. All the while theyre showing us some pretty explicit pics of both of them on their phone etc. Also he has been texting my wife every day. His gf says she knows about it. Anyway long story short, we left with the feeling of a) WTF b) while appearantly good enough to send explicit pics on a daily basis and text non stop we're not good enough to do anything else with. And the way they decided to tell us is to rub our nose in it by telling us how thy had a great time with a guy they picked up off of CL. Obviously our issue is not with what they did -it's not like we're clinging or anything, but both of us looked at each other and said WTF - this is a strange way to tell us you don't like us. Anyway they were shocked when my told him the next day not to bother.
  7. So I don't want to derail your thread but we're kind of having the same situation. Couple contacted us and we seemed to hit it off. We meet for drinks and chat. She seems far more reserved, but carrying on more of a conversation then your girl We find out that they've been together for a while but live about 40 minutes apart in 2 separate houses and because of her wrok schedule and dauther they don't see each other every day. OK. Night went fairly well so we decide we should continue to chat (text) and my wife and he exchange numbers. They've been chatting on and off pretty much everyday and she has been sharing everything with me, but ome text indicate that he thinks he's just writing to her. One that was a bit of a red flag to me was something along the lines of "if it was up to me we'd be licking adn sucking etc - we debated whether he meant all of us, him and us or jsut her and him. I being the more cynical read it as her and him since as far as he knew he was texting her and that would fit the contect more than anything else. She read it as all of us since they were talking about sex as 2 couples. Several times she asks to get her number so we can text her as well and get to know her a bit. First time he blew her off but then sent it. They have exchanged a total of like 10 texts while he has sent close to a 100. (again I've seen all of them and I don't have a problem with her, but I am thinking that 1) she may know nothing about what he is doing 2) he admitted that she's a "total sub" and maybe going along because he tells her to. I can't decide how to read this and whether we should jsut blow them off. We're meeting for dinner and chat with no intention to play. I am wondering if you folks could suggest questions etc on how to decide what's going on?
  8. Please don't take this the wrong way because I'm not trying to be judgmental or anything, but I always wondered about this kind of thinking. If it isn't causing pain or against someones will. Why on earth wouldn't you try something you're curious about. What do you imagine will happen if you put a cock in your mouth - the guys from Queer Eye going to show up at your door the next day and start making you wear chiffon and an ascot to work? I have thought about it many a times and a few times before it nearly happened. And granted if it wasn't for her wishes I would probably would not have actively sought out the experience. It's not on my top 5 but it comes pretty damned close due to the effect it has on her and the world didn't come to an end.
  9. This isn't us, rather we've noticed this on a LOT of single BiF profiles - after various levels of detail explaining that they are interested in g/g or a no drama couple for 3somes they post usually in big bold letters - that they won't play with bi-guys. We find it really hilarious for 2 reasons: 1) the statement is such a disconnect from the rest of the profile that you just want to say WTF. 2) we get IMs or notes almost on a daily basis from couples listed straight guy bi girl who tell us that he's really interested and or plays but they just don't advertise. We wonder are these unicorns just clueless about how many men are actually interested or do they have some bizarre stereotype of what bi guy is? We are FAR less selective about looks than we were when we were single and, it seems, most of the people's profiles we read. Obviously there has to be connection but we would and have been accepting of people we would never have looked at when we were single - as long as the connection is there. People we won't play with EVER - guys (seems to be mostly a singles syndrome but many a couple's male's do it as well) who brag -whether about their sexual prowess or their money. Single women - I guess it's only natural that someone in such high demand would easily let it go to their heads, but we deal with enough ego and power play and all that at work. We recently saw a single bi profile listing "Now taking interviews" REALLY?
  10. We're at the point where we wish that the site would REQUIRE that a pic of BOTH be shown if they list as a couple. I nkow that there have been threads on this But I just don't GET IT - What are all these couples thinking who have 3,4, dozens of pics of her but not a single one of him in a suite and tie. IT's almost like these types of profiles are just people (whether she knows or not) getting off on people looking at their pics. As a guy, I have ZERO interest in seeing another picture of a womans butt (doggie style) EVER if that's all you ahve to offer, and we're pretty much at the point where if there is no pic of him up we won't bother beyond 1 e-mail.
  11. you know, I come at this from quit the opposite direction. You see adds ALL the TIME about wanting a BBC (as if there are no white men who have large members) and the specific requirement brings back to me all the racist conotations of black men and lynchings because they looked at a white girl. I am projecting because I am not a black man but anytime I read that in a profile I cringe.
  12. alura, Our profile clearly states our location and we have both public pics and privaste pics (which we opened for this couple so they could see who we are) I really don't get the no picture - I am not talking about explicit pics. But if you are willing to meet us and talk about sex why is it hard to take a pic from the last 4th of july party or company something or other - that could easily be explained as someone got it off the web if it comes to that. This couple saw our pics and expected us to drive an hour + from our home to show up in a parking lot and look for a certain color car?! People actually meet like this?
  13. So the other day we reached out to a couple whose profile was attractive, but the only image they had was a rather generic one - that frankly could have been taken of any woman at the mall with a cell phone. We expressed our interest in chatting and meeting for a drink, but asked that we see some G pics of them to get an idea of what they look like. "They" responded back with some flattering remarks (saying all the right things) and said that they were open any day this week. We responded back that do to work, kids and family the first day we had was Friday and that we would be happy to meet at the location they suggested BUT we'd still need to see some pics so we could recognize them when we get there as we didn't believe they would walk in naked or with a big sign around their necks "we're the swingers couple" They responded back that WE should send them our cell phone number and that they will be driving a x colored y make car and we should find them in the parking lot. At first we thought that this was really HILARIOUS that people would actually expect us to walk up to every car (very popular model and color) in the parking lot - likely to be more than one at just about everywhere you go. Then we thought well maybe people actually do this - while we've been here for some time our experiences are rather limited as generally we just don't have the time this takes (really surprising thing to us). But the more we think about this the more creeped out we are!? Mostly because of the combination of the ad - where they're kind of targeting newbies, saying all the right things but ending up with asking a newbie couple to show up to a parking lot without giving out ANY info about themselves. We thought we'd share just so others can think about taking a moment to think about what they are stepping into because sometimes when we're excited and nervous we don't make the best decisions. Or are we just being paranoid?
  14. Yea the club scene is not for us. I list bi curious because I'm not afraid to touch a penis when we play - we've gone to a couple of clubs where you had to sign up so people can see your profile and I swear it was like a black man walking into a kkk convension
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