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  • Birthday 12/19/1950

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  • Relationship Status
    couple
  • Location
    Southeast Michigan
  • Interests
    computers, electronics, music
  • Occupation
    Retired
  • Swinging Experience
    1 year

Swinger Info

  • SLS Name
    PleasureDroids

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  1. We're an older couple -- I'm 59, she's 57 -- who have been full-swap swingers for about 3 years, although we don't play more than about 3 or 4 times a year. It took a long time to get to this point, as we were in a 'traditional' marriage for the first 35 years together. But the idea of watching her fuck somebody else started way back in 1971, when we were contemplating marriage. We were have a soul-baring pre-nuptial discussion, where the subject of previous lovers came up. For me, it was easy: I'd never gone beyond groping and petting with my girlfriends. She was a little hesitant to reveal her experience, but confessed that she'd been with about 3 guys, one of whom was a longtime, somewhat older boyfriend, who fucked her regularly for a couple of years or more. (I didn't learn about the frequency until several years later...) She was afraid that I'd be hurt or jealous that she had not 'saved' her virginity for me. Outwardly, I revealed little emotion at all, acting casually and with understanding, accepting her experience as something that occurred before we met, and not as a personal affront. Inwardly, I had a strange mixture of thoughts and feelings. There was a minor bit of jealousy and hurt that I wasn't her 'first and only.' But there was more than a little excitement and curiosity, thinking of her being taken by those young boys, and liking it. I didn't disclose these feelings at the time, and we didn't discuss it further. Life carried on -- we married and enjoyed a torrid sex life from the beginning and continuing on for the next 3 decades. As we got to know each other better, we would occasionally reveal fantasies that we both had, which served to stoke the fire of our sexual relationship. There were various kinks that we briefly discussed, but that we didn't act on. We maintained the ideal of a total and complete fidelity to one another and our sex, while frequent, was basically vanilla. At some point during about the first 10 years, we must have discussed voyeurism. My wife commented to someone that if she were to have sex with someone else, I 'would probably want to watch.' (I wasn't there to hear this -- she told me about it later.) My reaction to her comment was something like, "Mmmmmm....", but I didn't enthusiastically endorse the idea right then and there. Inside, however, it was a turn-on that she even talked that way! Eventually, I broached the discussion with her, stating that I thought it was time that she enjoyed a 'fresh' cock after all those years of being with just me. While the idea did seem appealing, she was having confidence and self-esteem issues about her age and weight, and replied 'Not at this time.' That was about 8 years ago, and I didn't press the issue any further. I retired 3 years ago and we embarked upon a sexual reawakening, confessing to each other our deepest and most personal fantasies. And we made it a point to gift each other by actualizing those fantasies that were within both of our value systems and that were possible to bring to life. The result has brought us even closer together that we'd ever been. Part of that has been that we've become swingers. Given my age and reduced level of sexual prowess, we don't play with couples as much as we do with other males, either in an MFM situation, or with my simply watching as my wife enjoys sex with another man. I love everything about it, but my favorite is watching the initial contact up to penetration. When we're at a party, she is almost always the only one 'dressed up', which is the way I enjoy seeing at women the most. The others will be in pants or jeans, but my wife is always in a dress or skirt with hose. (my big turn-on) I love to watch a man sit down and begin to seduce her, kissing and whispering into her ear, reaching over to fondle her breasts -- his hand eventually disappearing into her blouse or up her skirt. The heat builds in me as it it building in them, and it's not long before they get up to retreat to a bedroom for the 'main event'. Often times, my wife will whisper to the man that I like to watch and/or participate, and they'll ask me to come along. Once in the bedroom, I'll play mostly a passive role and remain almost fully-clothed, at least initially. I'll watch them undress each other, touching and discovering their exposed intimate parts. Often, she'll soon be on her knees, topless, but still in her skirt and hose, sucking the guy's cock. Then, I know it won't be long before she's on her back in bed, with her legs open, preparing to be entered. That's my absolute favorite part! I love watching her face as a 'new' cock slides into her for the first time! I love to her her soft moans as she tells us how good it feels. Even though I'm straight, I also enjoy the occasional experience of guiding a hard, erect dick into her pussy, when the other guy is not uptight about male-to-male contact of this sort. When I do participate, often times I'll be holding her legs in the air while she's being fucked, sometimes sucking her toes through her nylons. Inevitably, I'll wind up on the bed next to her so that she can suck my cock while the other guy is in her pussy. We've both loved it from the first time we tried it -- no jealousy, regrets, second thoughts or guilt. It's only sex, and it's great fun. Our marriage has never been stronger or more fun!
  2. I like women who look like they enjoy being women and dress the part. It doesn't have to be short or skimpy (although I won't complain!) but I like to see women in skirts, hose, ankle bracelets & heels! And she can wear something on the top half of her body, too... Given the choice between a nicely-dressed, but "ordinary" woman and a supermodel in jeans, and I'll look at the nicely-dressed lady all night long!
  3. We dabble around in several different areas of out-of-marriage sex play, and one of those areas is cuckolding, but not where the humiliation aspect is a big factor. As is the case with many who've already responded, what we do is far from the original, rigid definition of cucking. Sometimes, it's a hotwife thing, sometimes it will evolve into an MFM. Sometimes I'll sit there and just watch & enjoy. It's hard to predict what we'll try next! It's all fun and my wife always has a great time.
  4. When we first started, we had quite a bit of trouble with people who didn't respond or wouldn't show up after we'd set up a meeting. At that point, I looked at certs as just being an indicator that others were "real" and wouldn't leave us sitting alone, wondering if we had a particularly serious strain of cooties. I've never relied on them to gauge the "quality" of a prospective sexual contact, because people are different. What may have been the greatest experience of the person who left the cert might be bland or ho-hum to me. I just wanted to make certain that people we were going to meet were courteous, decent, fun to be with, and had at least 3 teeth. We generally leave certs as a courtesy to those who accept them. And I retracted one once, too. We had an MFM twice with the male half of a couple, and I immediately wrote a cert for him after the first time. He didn't reciprocate. Some months later, as we were setting up the second meeting, I casually mentioned that he hadn't certed us. His response was that we hadn't played with the female half and she writes all of their certs. Well, he's played with my wife twice now, and hasn't bothered to take the hint. So I retracted the cert and don't think he'll be playing with us anymore.
  5. Geez -- thought I was the rare one who doesn't like to talk on the phone to the point of being "telephobic". Looks like I have plenty of company here! Anyway, we're like most of those who have already commented. After we've set up an initial meeting, we give my cell number -- never hers -- for emergency contact purposes. And it's implicit that we don't use the phone for general chitchat. I'll write or chat online with you all day, but I simply don't like talking on the phone. We've only given our home phone number to one couple, who have become very close friends with whom we socialize more than we play.
  6. We try to leave politics out of this. I enjoy a good political discussion/debate/argument probably more than most, but we're here because we want to play, not argue!
  7. And another one from SLS, quoted verbatim: We Are Looking For: "Looking for first bi ex/little shy sexy and nice girl house party wife never been orshe loves boatng very been on lake st clare" Description: "gooding looking girl north of the border but like too try or be tryed south of the border for first timer any hourse partys let us known thank,s" Don't know about you, but this profile makes me HOT! (not)
  8. Going to someone's home for the initial meet isn't something we've done and aren't likely to do, but I wouldn't rule it out entirely. I hate to deal in absolutes, and can forsee circumstances where we would make the exception. I don't think there's any question that the prudent thing is to meet at a neutral location. And that's what we have done on each occasion to this point. We're open to play on the first date, but often meet others at the same time as friends of ours who don't, which gives everybody time to think it over and develop a graceful exit strategy.
  9. My wife had a small number of sexual experiences. I'd had only a bit of petting and making out with a couple of girls. My first actual sexual experience with a woman other than my wife came when I was 57! We're making up for lost time...
  10. I like my women like I like my fried chicken: breasts, legs & thighs. Oh, and not too greasy...
  11. Looks like most of us had better try a little harder to get laid, huh? I think we'd like to do, at minimum, a couple of times/month. But I think it would be fun to try once/week!
  12. Him: 58 Her: 55 Swinging for about a year. Puberty a year before that...
  13. Yup -- first (and last) marriage. We did it right the first time!
  14. Probably about 60 miles, although that may vary when the gas prices are sky-high. You figure that 60 miles is roughly an hour each way -- that's not unreasonable for a really fun time!
  15. I checked "the intellectual", but that goes right out the window when the woman I'm with gets naked. I turn into a mush-mouth after that.
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