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Thank you all for your advice. I know my wife was more upset by this than I. I spoke with my daughter to see if she wanted to talk about anything, she said no so for me unless she brings it up, case closed. my wife and i had a discussion and we both appear to be in agreement that if it comes up in her therapy session we will let her therapist know that it really is none of their business. We are a loving, committed couple who love all our children and no one can doubt that. our swinging life does not put them at any risk (e.g. we don't play at home). just because they may not share the same views regarding sex does not make us "evil" parents.. to those who posted that she has control over us, that is true. and this is something we continue to work on. we have gotten better about setting boundaries we just got to keep reminding her and be more cognizant that we are the parents, she's the child...again, keep posting any input you may have, but big Mahaloz from Hawaii...

Okay how it happened doesn't matter. We thought we were very discreet. But our 17 yo daughter intercepted a text message from my wife's lover. the wife tried to blow it off as me texting her nasty messages,she wasn't buying it. Now the both of them aren't talking and their siblings are wondering what's going on. We're afraid that she may share this with her therapist and our whole swinging life will end. she made the same claim before to her therapist vut at the time we were only talking about swinging. I think a less said approach may work best...let her know that we still love each other and love her..any suggestions other than locking the phone, stop swininging altogether...have the both of them talk when their ready...wife was soooo embarassed she didn't want to come home....any suggestions greatly appreciated