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Mr&MrsGoat

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About Mr&MrsGoat

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    Just Getting Started
  • Birthday 07/19/1975

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    Couple
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    NC
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    Haven't started yet.

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    MrMrsGoat

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  1. I'm not sure which one of us really brought it up first. I'm thinking me, lol! About a year ago, we joined AFF with the thoughts that we were going to live out a fantasy of mine. We loved to have webcam shows and show off and we got to know a few people that way. But true to life, life happens. So our activities died down bit and we never had the chance to engage in the swinger lifestyle. But now we're going to see about giving it another go.
  2. I just want to say 'thank you' for this thread. Although I know I was never in debate about whether I wanted an 'open' or 'swing' experience, some of the questions here were exactly the ones I was thinking of but couldn't put into words. You all ROCK!
  3. You all have done such a wonderful job in answering my (somewhat confusing) questions. This is perfect. I really want us both to open up and look at this in all ways possible. I don't know if either of us sees the reality of it sometimes. I want us both to think through these things before starting something. I think what I'm worried about the most right now is separating sex from love. I know in my head, we can each have sex with other people and it not mean any more than just having fun. But in my heart, going from the vanilla way of thinking to realizing that it could be just something else we do together is a tricky step to take. If that makes sense? So that's why I want to talk, talk, talk and ask questions and see how he feels about these things. I want to know if this is something he wants to do as well. Not something he's doing just to go along with me. Thank you all again for all your thoughtfulness and support. I know I've found the right place here.
  4. Thanks Sweet_tna. We really want to know for certain there won't be any remorse afterwords. Does anyone have any advice on the types of questions you and your spouse discuss with one another before deciding to do this? What are good things to ask each other and ourselves to make sure we're both doing this for the right reasons?
  5. Exactly. That's why I love this section of the boards. I've already had so many of my questions answered without even asking them. I feel as if we have our eyes open as much as we can. We've been discussing this on and off for a little over a year now. It scares us and excites us. We both don't want this to be something that breaks us apart. So that's why we've been talking about it so much. What do you think are good rules for first timers? For example, what are the things you and your significant other promised to each other before going in? And another thing, this is something we don't really want everyone to know about. In fact, I think we'd both prefer that this aspect of our lives remain EXTREMELY private. With that being said, do you find that you usually travel away from your home to *play*? How many people actually play in your own home? I honestly can say I don't want ANYTHING happening in my own home and I'm real nervous about someone knowing where I live. You never know what kind of people are out there. It's a lot of trust you put into someone blindly. I just don't want to actually run into someone who knows about us. We're in a military town as it is and the gossip hounds are HORRIBLE here. This kind of thing completely gets your banned from 'normal' living. If that makes sense? I mean, honestly, nobody really wants to be talked about badly. So how do you keep it private? By playing in another town? Sorry, I'm babbling a little bit. I just have so many thoughts pouring through my mind at the moment about it. I'm off to read some more.....
  6. Hi there, Been lurking for a few weeks and decided today to join. My hubby and I have talked a lot about swinging. But what we get stuck on is knowing for sure if this is just a really hot fantasy we have or if it is something we should pursue? I'm thinking once we get into it, it'll be real hot. But I'm worried about afterwards. I don't know how I'll feel. It's kinda scary. I would love to hear some advice on knowing if this should just stay a fantasy? What are some of your personal experiences with making the 'jump' to reality. TIA!
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