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funnewthings

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About funnewthings

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  • Birthday 07/09/1979

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    Couple (female half)
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    Somewhere...
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    just started
  1. I had this happen to me. Twice! The first, has problems getting it up on a regular, and didnt let us know... the second: They didnt tell us until AFTER playtime began, and his wife couldnt get him up. Then we find out he has NO FEELING in any of his extremities. Not cool. As I am not in this to just watch, or to fix your sex problems. So far BOTH couples we have played with had this problem. I think you should be upfront with people about it, as it is very unfair to lead someone on, then not be able to follow through. It made me feel bad about myself, esp since I had no clue as to what was going on. That would be like having a landscaper come over and he tells you he doesn't have a lawn mower!
  2. Yeah you pretty much got it... Sometimes when I get going things don't come out right. Oddly enough she contacted me today to tell me how much she still digs me... So I told her how I felt, how she was very offensive in what she said about me the next day to my guy (she didnt seem to realize I was also there reading what she was typing) and that she thinks we should be friends. If she hadn't tore me apart the next morning, I would have gladly been her friend, we have a lot in common, and share a lot of the same views. However I have come to the point in my life that I don't let anyone belittle me or make me feel bad about myself. So yeah... I think screening more carefully is important, and maybe trying to deal with people who aren't also "new" to the couples thing might help. Thanks for the feedback, I do appreciate it!
  3. I guess you can't really read into what I have said without knowing why... These have been my experiences so far. I am not looking for a supermodel, but seriously the men have to be remotely attractive, able to hold a convo, and show at least a little interest. oh yeah... and get it up. I am still new to this, and we don't represent that in any other fashion. I am also very outgoing, I talk to them, I make eye contact, I smile. I am friendly. I am not overly assertive though, and not going to just jump in the lap of someone elses man, especially someone I JUST met, without feeling them out and seeing what they are about. I have already had 2 couples lie to me. There is one couple who are "newbies" or so they say... They contacted us, I looked at their profile, and it seemed they were only looking for a man. When I spoke to the husband he assured me I was reading into it wrong. We went and hung out with them, they were nice, but had lied about quite a few things, AGE was one, he was about 6-7 years older than they said (which made him almost 10 years over my typical age range), she was 2 years older than they told us. Yet they stated after it came out they weren't the age they listed, she was 2 years older, he was "a year older than her". They then continued that they went to the same high school, but were not in it at the same time... I let it slide. Early in our "date" the wife kept running off to go dance to this cover band, not really making convo. I attempted numerous times to strike up convo with the husband, and was met with reply's of yes, no, or hummm... She and I seemed to click as the night got later, their profile said she was Bi- curious, as am I. We ended up talking more and more as the night progressed. Ok, cool right? Well she invites us to their house, and we stated that NOTHING would happen. So we went to their house, chatted for a while, then us girls went off to go talk alone for a few. This is when she dropped the bomb. She basically told me that she has no interest in women, or seeing her man with another one. We were in the middle of this convo and her husband came to get us. I was feeling very used at this point. I tried to relay this info to my guy, he went to the bathroom as he seemed to know I wanted to leave, I sat talking to her. The next thing I know she jumps up, leaving me with her husband, she chased my guy down and tried putting moves on him, while her husband grabbed my by the back of the head and tried to kiss me to distract me from what was going on. By this time there was no interest. I felt deceived. Then another couple we met, seemed to be going ok, met a couple times, talked online.... the wife was in control. She seemed cool, but before anything happened, they were trying to invite us to family bbq's and crap like that... not my thing. We finally had them over for a play date. He husband was not even remotely good looking, but we seemed to hit it off convo wise, so I decided to give it a shot. I made a fabulous dinner, they didn't even touch it. We started playing cards after, and they insisted we sit with each others partner on the opposite sides of the table. My guy touched her leg, her man got jealous, and jammed his hand in my crotch. I was a little unnerved by this... But I thought maybe my guy was touching her? Also by this time sitting at the table was uncomfortable as I have circulation problems due to an old leg injury, so I said lets go in the room and see what happens. I was attracted to her, and she claimed he was awesome in bed. So I gave it a shot. We get to the room, and she goes down on him, and stays there, hair covering everything.... I play with my boy a little and he re positions me so I can play with him, he can play with her, and her man can play with me... Her husband barely touched me, and when he did he was rubbing me like he was using brillo on rust, so I tried slowing his hand down, no avail. 20 minutes later she is still in this odd position. I wasn't being touched by anyone... He cant get hard... at all, not even for her. Then they blame it on his "medical condition" that they never told us about before then, claiming, "well hes numb from the waist down". WTF? So they jump up start making excuse after excuse, then run out. The next day I got blamed for everything. The only thing I know I did do, was my sig other told me to try and help her get him hard. Well he had my pussy in his face, and didn't try anything. I tried touching him with no response. His penis was non existent at this point, so honestly I was pretty turned off. But this was almost an hour into play! My man thinks he was jealous and that was the issue. So both of those were my fault right? I am not a supermodel either, but I know I am decent looking, as I have no problem getting attention from men. I am not trying to be closed minded, or anything, I even attempted play with a guy who was not ideal. I have no problems having sex... I am good at it, or so I am told... I expect the same thing in my sex partners. I have taken an active role in looking for people as well, for this very reason, but when people lie, or tell half truths, I cannot control another's actions, as I expect people to be as truthful as I am. And seriously you can be super hot, but being a liar will turn me off in a heart beat. I hope this doesn't offend, I just want to let ya all know where I am coming from, and why I seem somewhat jaded. Did anyone else have these sort of things happen when they started out?
  4. I've been trying to explain this to my guy. I am new to this, he is not. I am not looking to make any kind of "attachment" to anyone, so attraction is key. We search through couples together, and he gets annoyed that even though the chick is hot, the guy is not even remotely attractive, the means NO INTEREST on my part. There has to be some kind of physical attraction, as I am not looking for a relationship! He says I am too picky as I don't want someone more than double my body weight, (unless its in muscle) or old enough to be my parent. It also seems to me a lot of un attractive men, or men with sexual disabilities are into the lifestyle with their wives, in hopes they can get them satisfied, so they stay with them. So why are they looking for couples then? Why bother? Go after single men! I am not into this to sit and watch. My last peeve about attraction, is why don't the men flirt with me at all? Myself and my guy are attractive, thin, funny, nice people. I see the women go ga ga over him, yet their men seem to have very little interest in me at all... Not sure if its because they are jelous over my guy, or because they don't know how to flirt. I get hit on constantly outside of this... so why is it so hard to find a couple with a guy that will flirt or show interest in me in the lifestyle? Are they afraid of pretty girls? Maybe I need the high powered beer goggles? They seem to work well for the men folk:lol:
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