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traveling cpl last won the day on June 23 2009

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About traveling cpl

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  • Birthday 07/07/1958

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  • Relationship Status
    couple
  • Location
    traveling
  • Interests
    travelling
  • Occupation
    commerical
  • Swinging Experience
    just starting
  1. Having been in a similar situation where two couples became one and with family connections, find others to play with, then after a few reflect on your connections with them. We started in the LS to have fun and explore and we lost that by being exclusive to just one couple.
  2. Soft swap or not, the ideal situation is to relax and enjoy everybody's company including that of your partner's and then pair off. If jealousy is an issue, discuss it before hand, but if it is a big issue stop before you meet them or go any further. You meet in this arena for one thing, be open and allow each other the benefit of being just a normal human with desires. Sure, watching each other with somebody else is a turn on to many, but guarding them with you eyes and mind does not achieve anything. Enjoy the talk afterwards when you are alone. It's funny because you know what going to happen, at least in part before you start. Don't pay attention to your partner, give that consideration to your new friend and enjoy. You enjoy, they enjoy and everybody enjoys. Our first was nerve racking to a degree, yet we did it to have fun and see what it was all about. The second and third with the same couple was a blast and we progressed from there. In short enjoy.
  3. Been there done that and it didn't work for us. Why are you swinging, to enjoy just one person or the many who are out there!
  4. Return the gifts and say thank you and no more. My view you crossed the line.
  5. First of all, give yourself a 'pat' on the back for well done conclusion about what is causing you concern, in knowing what it is, as many will not recognize jealousy or the issue. And, it is your concern and it is real. Secondly, talk to your husband and let him know direct what your concern/s are for both of you, but it must also be constructive.
  6. I have tried it a few times when requested to do so. I find it more interesting then sexual. However, a female friend usually ask for it each time we are together, as her husband hands are far too big. It's not something I enjoy but she does.
  7. You have an interest in the lifestyle and no doubt so does your wife, otherwise you wouldn't be here. At this stage she is setting her comfort zone. I would go with her wants, at the same time just letting her know up-front, how you feel.
  8. A good counsellor wouldn't place their values on anyone. Its not the counsellors job to find your answer for you, that's a 'busy body approach' and everybody has opinions, but a counsellor is there to assist you in making/finding your answer by walking with you, not ahead. I don't dispute some counsellors maybe that way but they are not good. Spybunny has selected an opition for her future life but are the reasons the 'full' or 'right' ones. Only Spybunny knows that.
  9. Would it have been better or easier for you, had you meet with the men first in a causal setting, such as a bar or over dinner before they come to the room?
  10. should read exploded not explored (bad typing)
  11. My answer is yes, I had the thought for about one second on the third meet with a couple, only because his partner was not and interesting person. However, not long ago we meet a younger couple and had separate rooms. She was fine but during she wanted to see what the other two were doing and we found my partner and her partner in the kitchen just kissing after being together for at least two hours. She explored and went into a rage, why, because they were kissing, then took me back to 'our' room and started all over again including kissing, then left with him in silence.
  12. Once you have selected the third person, in this case a male, allow your wife to exchange emails with him, maybe even ask some questions about previous encounters etc, then both talk with him on the phone, leaving her to complete the call, after all she will make the final decision. That's the easy part, the next part is the actual meeting, his conduct when in public, bringing up the reason why you are all there and not just talking about the weather. Allow your wife and him to chat a bit by themselves whilst you order a drink at the bar, then later take your time and enjoy what will happen. Your wife will make the first move, be it to or with you or him. Let her be the master of ceremonies.
  13. If you are going to the 'Couples club' in Surry Hills- Sydney, they will not care if you have tattoos or not. Its the attitude and chemistry with the other customers. They will not stop you from entering because of tattoos. Then its up to the people you met there. Neither my wife or I have tattoos, but one chap we met last year with whom she became close to for a while had his back covered with one. But during the lead up to our fun over drinks etc and with his shirt on we didn't notice, or ask if had any. Had he said that he had tattoos before hand, would we have continued, don't know but it wasn't relevant to what we had in common.
  14. The idea may have been with us for years, but the right time, place and persons didn't happen or we didn't make it happen. We have close friends who are swingers back at home, but they hav never ask us to join them, mybe because they are close or we are too conservative for them, who knows. One evening at a hotel in your country we met a couple and over a long dinner they shared some of their swinging experiences, both likes and dislikes with us. They didn't know us and we didn't know them. The conversation had started about what NZ and Australia was like and after some time it turned to sport, family, then sex. Both my wife and I didn't find the conversation strannge. The evening was an non-event but we again bumped them the next day after doing a tour of a city. We had a standard room and they had a deluxe room with balcony. The normal thing happened, we all went to dinner together, then back to the hotel and parted company. Whilst we were talking about them before bed, they called and invited us to their room coffee, so we went. We talked and the subject of swinging came up and without any drink but coffee in our system, the night was our induction into this life style, but only while we are traveling, never at home at this stage.
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