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mrfunfan last won the day on March 31 2009

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  1. Ok, I just want to speak my 2 cents because the girl is at fault here for breaking the rule and the guy did not overreact. He had a right to call her out and be concerned. Let me share some light to you girls. I know the lifestyle is mostly about the girls having fun and basically setting the pace which is perfectly acceptable, but one thing is for certain...If you go ahead and break the rules without first letting your man know you are OK with it. You are taking advantage and doing a disservice to your man who is being respectful and avoiding situations because of your wishes. That is a great guy! He'll just be confused and left out and afterwards you will feel guilty and go right back to not being ok with full swap again leaving your man out and confusing him even more because he thought since you did full swap it was OK. I'm ok with girls setting the pace but let your man be the first to know throughout the night or immediately before you are willing to go further with another guy or cpl so he can open up more too. It's not fair to give another guy what your man would like who is looking out for you. We have learned the hard way and it almost cost us our marriage! Do not have a rule that says basically...when I break them it's ok because I guarantee you...you won't feel it's OK after you've had your fun and then realize your man was left out not sure it was ok cuz you never told him. Communicate with words, not actions. Us guys need to hear it's really ok because we want to respect your wishes of setting the pace. I guarantee you his girl playing and having fun isn't the problem here, it's breaking the rules without communicating with him. Now the rule should be full swap but it won't be. He was probably worried about her and needed a verbal she was OK.
  2. Sounds like she broke the rules and got caught up in the moment and feels guilty because she wouldn't want you to. This happened to us only I didn't say anything for years and let my wife continue breaking all the rules because I liked watching her have fun but when she realized she didn't like watching me do the same things so much guilt set in and we are still trying to work it out. Nip this in the butt now by talking about it and forgive her but you both have to know that there are moments that things can heat up and be honest with each other. No excuses. Give some room to both explore if your "feeling it" without feeling like your constantly afraid of breaking rules. Good luck!
  3. FIREFLY, thank you for sharing your experience. If you play or not that doesn't matter! You apparently are having sex in front of others which is more then most of the population...except europe! LOL Anyway, I've watched this thread and thought it would be a mute point by now...lesson learned...communication is important and the only thing you can do is remember us guys don't read minds too well. We like the KISS principle...you know...Keep It Simple & Sexual and we get it LOL Ok, but seriously, I have so much respect for girls that are in the lifestyle to please their man because you have to deal with more emotions then we will ever imagine. Your man sounds like a great guy and would never intentionally want to make you feel that way. I'm sure you are both just going to get closer because you opened up to him and want to make him happy
  4. Jonelle, We have met a lot of guys with sneaky and aggressive behaviour in the lifestyle and it's a shame. Men that cannot control themself should not be in the lifestyle. Just like anything else..if you can't control your drinking..then you shouldn't be drinking should you?? We have been in many situations where the guys just won't let the girls have fun without touching. I always wondered how their wife felt because with us...it made me worry about my wife and his wife. I have the opposite problem..I am so respectful that girls don't think I am into them and I'm so open and honest with my wife about sex and fantasies that she has the same insecurity issues. She actually worries about me developing feelings and losing me even if I'm just telling her a fantasy. We are just programmed differently I guess and she constantly needs reassurance. FYI, Guys think with their penis and maybe his is bigger than mine if he can't control it, LOL but what he is saying about not developing feelings or anything special is really true if he is being honest and loves you. My first problem with him is that if he can't control himself and lied about that..that is a red flag. My wife doesn't like hearing this but I have to say..."When I am able to share everything with my wife spiritually, emotionally, and sexually it brings me even closer to her and I fall even more deeply in love". This doesn't mean I have to fuck or play with anyone. Just the pure thought of my wife wanting to please me sexually and fulfill my fantasies blows my mind and makes me want to worship her! Our problem is....what brings me closer to her can make her sad because she thinks she isn't enough.... It isn't true and maybe other girls feel this way but I know where my heart is and I love my wife. I want to grow old with her and she is the only one I want to share my fantasies with. What I have realized in the lifestyle is that I was selfish before...I'm not the only one who can please my wife and make her feel good. I understand and actually enjoy seeing her happy regardless if it was me or someone else that made her day! I remember the days when someone would just give her a compliment and I got jealous...now...if someone compliments her and she smiles...I love to see the smile on her face and damn proud she is mine! I feel the same when I see her having sex On the other hand, I wish she felt the same in return about me but she has not reached that level. She cannot think of me having a good time without her or with someone else. So I don't do much with girls unless she is OK with it. One day she might, but we are definitely programmed differently.
  5. Thank you all for the response. I am really trying to determine if any girls didn't like watching at the beginning and then after the shock factor wears off of seeing your man could have fun with someone else you begin to enjoy seeing him in action and feel more secure. As for me, at the beginning, I did not care to watch only because I felt left out. Now it's just like watching porn but my hot wife is in it and the star! Seeing her from different angles is hot! We do role play at home and use different names and we get really turned on..but it's because she is involved and not watching me with another girl. My best experience was a 3some that happened one time by chance and I have been asked to play separately by girls and couples....but because my wife doesn't like the thought of me having fun without her, separate rooms and a HP is not an option for me. I'm ok with my wife having fun and get turned on thinking about it. However, if my wife tells me she doesn't like watching me have fun...I worry about it and it can be a performance problem for me.
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