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synergy

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About synergy

  • Rank
    Just Getting Started
  • Birthday 03/22/1975

Personal Info

  • Relationship Status
    Couple
  • Location
    Southern California
  • Interests
    travel, social activities, reading, hiking, movies
  • Swinging Experience
    11 months
  1. I went for my yearly pap and was seen by the Physician's Assistant rather than the regular doc and was hoping I could ask for std testing and fly under the radar. First she asked me if I've had multiple sex partners, I confirmed yes and then she asked why I would do that since I indicated in my history that I'm in a relationship. She also asked if we were happy. I'm sure my face was beet red as I had to explain that we were both happy with the arrangement of my multiple sex partners :- l . She didn't appear to approve, But... I got to get my full spectrum testing and all was right with the world. Good thing for privacy laws as this is the same ob-gyn office my mother uses!
  2. I appreciated all of this advice and the additional perspectives. We actually didn't ever hear from them, as suspected and although we considered sending them a short and civil note to clear the air as advised by a couple of you, we have yet to do that. We have to agree that "Jack" displayed a real concerning lack of respect for women in his actions, whatever his reasoning and we also agree that it is definitely always important to move as slow as the slowest person's pace. I guess this example proves how important it is to figure out and clearly detail your boundaries as well as develop some sort of secret communication between you and your partner that will be an SOS and also preserve the feelings of your play friends, should any issues arise.
  3. We've been playing in the lifestyle for a couple years and having a great time meeting couples. Aside from the occasional couple that drank too much or online meet ups that never worked out, we've really enjoyed the friends we've made and all our interactions, drama free ... until the last one. We are at a swing club sitting at a table and we invite a cute couple we've never met to sit and share our table. After a few hours of entertaining conversation, they invite us back to the sex rooms. They told us about the fact that they had only been to a lifestyle venues prior and were very new, but because they invited us, we figured they were really ready to play with us. We get back there and the wife, let's call her "Jill" tells us that her husband, "Jack" can't wait to see us two girls together. She tells me I'll be her first girl/girl experience. After heating things up between the two of us for a while, Jill starts playing with my husband and I start playing with Jack. After Jack goes down on me for a little while, I tell him I want to suck his cock, but to let me know if I do anything wrong. So, I start getting into it and about 30 seconds later, he's cumming into my mouth. "Alright", well it's uncommon to do that without warning a girl, but I know Jack and Jill are new, so I sucked it up, haha. No problem, right? I'm happy he's obviously having a good time. So then, Jack sits up and looks over at Jill who is lying next to us smiling, eyes closed with rock hard nipples and from the looks of it is about ready for the big O. My husband is going down on her. Jack suddenly says "I think Jill wants to be done because she's signaling me with her face." Jill shakes her head and says something about everything being fine. My husband looks up and asks if anyone wants him to stop. Jill, still has her eyes closed and still smiling gently pushes his head back down. I recline next to Jack, playing with Jill's nipples thinking it would be nice if the two of us could watch their action, but he still seems uncomfortable staring at Jill and has an uneasy smile. I'm not sure what to do, but seconds later Jill seems to tune in to Jack, pulls away from my husband and leans in to listen to Jack. Right away, she gets up and stalks out of the room, fully naked. Jack says, "we're done" and I point out where Jill's clothes are. He gets dressed and leaves while several other couples in the playroom watch dumbfounded and I (mortified) coax my husband to just continue playing with me. What happened? Was Jack embarrassed that he came quickly? Was he embarrassed that he came in my mouth without warning? Or was he feeling jealous watching Jill enjoying oral sex from another man? He was still good to go after watching me on Jill... As far as I can tell, we took things very slow and indicated that we were fine with stopping at any time they felt weird, so what else could we have done in this situation?? Also, they told us their screen name, so we didn't know if we should contact them and apologize or ask if they are okay? I don't think they would ever contact us because not only did they leave without so much as a "fuck you", Jack took my shoes. I'm sure he thought they belonged to his wife, but that was the only thing she was wearing when she walked out. Did they bring me back my shoes or turn them in to lost and found? No, they just threw them in the vicinity of my locker. We don't want to fuel drama, but don't want to leave things awkward either.
  4. Actually, we did not disclose that detail to the single male. Thanks to everyone...there is a lot of good advice here. Synergy
  5. For years, my husband has brought up his fantasy of a mfm situation during our love-making. I could tell that it really excited him to fantasize about watching me f*** another man. At first, it really turned me off because I didn't want to complicate our great intimacy. One of the best things about our almost 20 year relationship has been the lack of drama. Well, now we are full fledged swingers for about a year (have had many fun experiences with couples) and we have yet to engage in a threesome except for a brief and casual fmf with a friend early in our relationship. I have chatted with a few single guys online and have found someone I am intrigued to meet. My husband accepted the chat invitation from the man and appeared to enjoy himself as he was masterbating while watching the two of us in our witty back and forth banter. From our conversation, the single guy seems like a respectful, intelligent and attractive man who appreciates the no strings appeal of this type of interaction. Here is the problem.... my husband seems to be hesitating on setting up a meeting. I'm sensing jealousy... Now this is somewhat frustrating because I now I'm feeling comfortable and excited about trying this new thing, not to mention I'd feel like we led this individual on and flaked. I mentioned this to my husband and he says I shouldn't be so concerned about other people. How should I approach this situation??
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