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awesomecplmn

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About awesomecplmn

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  • Birthday 05/04/1973

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  1. Weight is a crazy thing. And gets women all crazy in the head, which is incredibly annoying (I am a woman.) One site we belong to gives us weight categories, but the ranges get larger as the numbers get larger. So the choices are: 100 lbs or less 101-115 (14 lb range) 116-125 (9 lb range) 126-135 (9 lb range) 136-150 (14 lb range) 151-175 (24 lb range) 176-200 (24 lb range) 201-250 (49 lb range) Over 250 My weight is in the just-over-200 range, meaning I weigh between about 204 and 207. I am 5'4" which means I am not small for sure! But I do feel like 175-200 is a better choice than 201-250, even if it means I am technically lying. If only for the simple reason that many people would be WAY more likely to click right past our profile if they think I weigh in the 250 pound range. So, is that wrong of me?
  2. This is also very, very true. While I don't believe swinging is healthy for a marriage in trouble, I do think it can (not always) strengthen an already healthy marriage. It seems like when you're admitting to your sexual desires with your own spouse, it's easier to open up about all feelings.
  3. WarrenCouple, It's great that you are asking questions and starting to consider what may/may not make you comfortable as you think about visiting a club and possibly playing. Be completely honest with people and let them know you are nervous and that with the right couple you are thinking you'd like to try some same room sex to start. If it was me, first of all, I'd be flattered that you felt comfortable enough with my hubby and I to consider having your first experience (even if there was no swapping) with us. And second, most swingers LOVE having sex with their spouses, so this is not an issue at all. I may have sex with other people, but I still have the best sex with my #1!!
  4. I think a great benefit is the increased sexual arousal and attraction I have with my husband. Like someone else said, having a swinging experience usually has us walking around horny for at least several days after, so we have more sex. Plus, the more sex I have with others, the more I realize what a great lover my husband is. I have become much more appreciative of his mad skillz!
  5. We had also heard that LifestyleLounge was the Ken and Barbie site, but we joined on a free trial and found that to be mostly rumor. We are basically only using LL now, and have had way more luck finding people we like there. Even though it is more expensive than many others, it has been worth it for us. There are always local events posted and WAY FEWER fake or empty profiles. They do offer a free one week trial. Two weeks if you are referred by a current member and enter their name on your sign up. (You are welcome to use our member name if you like.....same as the name we use here.) It's true that you can't BUY a lifetime membership, but you can become a lifetime member by referring new members to the site. (See how that works?? The referrals help both parties......the new folks get a 2 week trial and the current member gets credit toward a lifetime membership......this is where I again say you are welcome to use our name when you sign up for your trial......wink!) In any case, this site has grown so much over the years through word of mouth and it really is great. It was started by a MN couple who still attends events and has a real profile and all that. It's really big in MN, but there are profiles from all over the world on there. I think the best advice to to do a free trial of several sites and find the one that has the most profiles in your area. But be careful and consider if the profiles are actually active or if they are outdated or mostly empty. I always check for a "last online" date. That way you can find the site that is going to be a best fit, for your own situation. AWESOMECPLMN on Lifestyle Lounge
  6. I think the best advice in this situation is to take the lead and approach the other person by letting THEM know that they needn't feel awkward or worried, because you will be very discrete. This helps put THEM at ease and also reiterates the fact that you want discretion from them as well. Keep in mind, they are probably also freaking out that they ran into YOU at this swinger's party. It's like my mom used to always tell me about frogs: they're more scared of you than you are of them. LOL Just don't do what I did which is leave the party and not return to the lifestyle for 15 years. That is just too sad!!!!!!!!!! So much missed time.
  7. This is a very interesting conversation. Hubby and I have recently become so-called active swingers, but as we look back over our lives, we realize that we were probably both always swingers. We both liked to look at our parent's dirty magazines as kids. We went to a swinger event within a year or two of being married. Nothing happened there other than some conversation and dancing b/c we ran into the parents of a friend of mine and I freaked out. We had a 3some with his ex early on in our marriage and then he reciprocated by bringing home a male friend. We drove several hours once to meet another couple after getting to know them on AOL back in the day.......we only soft-swapped. Then we took a lot of years off for a couple reasons. And I truly didn't think I ever would swing again. Then sort of suddenly, our relationship strengthened, I got out of a job and we started swinging again. We've had virtually no issues since starting in July of last year. And when people ask us how long we've been in this lifestyle, I don't know what to say. Six months?? We feel way more experienced than 6 months. 15+ years?? We feel way less experienced than 15 years. So when people ask, I pretty much explain this to them and say something like we are the oldest newbies around. When we're no longer really newbies, I think I will revise to say we have been in and out of the lifestyle to varying degrees our entire marriage. That best explains it. But, I think we are both swingers. I like the concept that we're not swingers because we have recreational sex outside our marriage, but instead we have recreational sex outside our marriage BECAUSE we're swingers.
  8. Well, damn JJ...I never got the rulebook!! I like the idea of some low-cut sweaters...especially since my breasts are one of my best features. I also may have to splurge on some nice boots to wear with my skirts.
  9. The hubby and I just got into swinging this summer and now the weather is quickly shifting. We live in Minnesota where the seasons change and it can get very cold. How do swingers dress in the winter?? I have been wearing skirts and revealing tops, but now I just get damn cold all the time. Any suggestions for staying warm while still having some sex appeal?? Thanks!
  10. I really appreciate all the comments and advice. We went to our party and I wore a tampon, then before going to the after party I put in an instead. These work great when the flow is low. I find they can slip and make a big mess if the flow is heavy. In any case, it turns out that we didn't even play. All that worrying for nothing. LOL.....But good news is that we met a couple we are having a date night with in a week and a half. So I won't be worrying about my period that night. I think for the future I'm going to just use the instead and see if it works for me before trying hormone birth control.
  11. I was just telling my husband this. He hasn't yet experienced any performance problems, but we were discussing the issue. And I basically said....all the woman wants is for you to find a way to please her and be lighthearted about it. I would love it if a guy just joked about it and went on with finding other ways to satisfy me. Sex is often quite hilarious. Just because we're swingers doesn't mean every experience is some mind blowing sexual nirvana.
  12. Okay, this is interesting. Hubby and I don't play during my period (his deal, not mine)....so I never knew lube was important. I guess I always figured the blood would make things nice and slippery. Not so????
  13. So we are scheduled to attend a party this Saturday and my period just started today. Then if I count forward, I am scheduled to get it a couple days before another big party we wanted to attend. Is this the universe's way of telling me it's not liking my new lifestyle?? Hubby doesn't like to have sex while I am on my period, but I've heard lore of men who love it. What's the story? Are any swingers getting lucky during that time of the month, and HOW on earth does one approach getting THAT out on the table??
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