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acdg

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About acdg

  • Rank
    Contributor
  • Birthday 08/21/1968

Personal Info

  • Relationship Status
    Couple
  • Location
    Germany
  • Swinging Experience
    5 years

Swinger Info

  • Favorite Club(s)
    Maihof
  1. We only play with others every once in a while sometimes multiple instances with different people sometime just alone maybe 50%. We have also found that the more we try the less that happens. When we go to a open group room to just lie down and rest a bit the play comes to us.
  2. a shower would also do the trick. we take at least 3 showers during a night at the club.
  3. Hi thank you for asking. Yes I think she has made some advances in working through her feelings. The first few months after posting this we either did not go to the club or had no horizontal activity with other couples so no day after effect. The last few visits have been a real fun in all ways (horizontal and Vertical) and the day after effect was in my opinion either not present or very well hidden. Her comment is that the day after is becoming less difficult and instead of it lasting 3 days after the day after it is only one day. That is the best I can do to translate her comments. So I guess she is either getting used to the situations or so tired the week after to really care. @Alura Thank you for the complement about my English I have not forgotten as much as I thought however I am still an American and English is still my first language German is only number 3. I was really hoping to find a similar forum in French or Italian so that my wife could read the help and advice of others without the help of a mechanical translation or me. The five days after the weekend are the hardest. acdg
  4. That also sounds like what is happing in her mind. (her response) When we are going to a club we always go with our camper and I also get into my vacation sort of feeling so I can really relate. The Positive thinking is a good start any other mental tips and tricks to think about?
  5. Thanks for the responses. Yes this does sound familiar and to hear it from someone else might help. She is mulling over the thoughts now. However I think the last sentence from supernova really sums it up, the moral values cause her to have the three days of remorse and her rebellious “you cannot tell me to do anything” side and the fun we have keep her coming back. Anyway we will see next week She said she will attempt change her thoughts to a more positive thought and try to discuss more than what she has been. To bad the forum here is only in English. Thanks A&C
  6. Hello all, My wife and i go to a club near us once or twice a month and always have a good time together. The next day my wife is still ok with what happened the night before on the drive home joking and laughing about some of the things that we did or happened. Now comes the weird part on Monday when we go back to normal life she has 3 days of remorse guilt jalousie all combined (her description) after that though she is once again ok and often the instigator of the next club visit. Does anyone have any ideas or recommendations to help her get over these feelings after the fact. We wrote this together and I posted this with her knowledge and permission. Thanks Chris & Annick
  7. The best theme Party we have ever been to has got to be nude. Simple to find a costume and when you want to go and play you only have to take off your shoes.
  8. Hello all, on one of our encounters the women were sitting (not getting into detail) and for whatever reason looked at each other and broke out in laughter. I did not have any problems and neither did the other guy we had with that couple several outbursts of laughter and really enjoyed ourselves. When all are relaxed and comfortable with the other why not we go to a club to have fun playing can have all sorts of different flavors. acdg
  9. Ahh thanks I must still be recovering from the New Years party. I should have guessed that, just could not get around the N that had to mean Nude.
  10. @ Julie Our daughter and her mother are very close and of course they talk. Last year 2008 we had a really great time and her mother told her so without any details other than dancing and great food, this year 2009 was the same. Yes you are correct we really do not need to give any excuse however when asked we need to say something. It does not really have to do with boundaries our daughter is defiantly just thinking that they could go to a great party with us which in a vanilla scene would not be a big deal. We do enjoy their company also. As far as opening the door for them we are not going to do so and continue the plausible deniability track. If they eventually do take the plunge and go to a club we will have to rethink our strategy at that time. @ sweet_tna if they knew the truth it would make things easier for us however after the discussions at the party the other night and the discussion here I am also convinced that unless they are also in the lifestyle then it is better that they do not know. As for the possibility that they walk into a club and we are there or the other way around that is always a possibility the same as registering with the internet page we are active in, there is nothing we can do to prevent that. And if they are in a club or on the site then they did not get there by accident. Next weekend we are going out again and I think this time we can say with a straight face we are meeting another couple with the RV’s at a bar (thank goodness our RV is small and only sleeps 2) not a lie just a omission of a lot of details. One question what does NYE Mean? Thanks ACDG
  11. Well we posed the question to a few of the other couples at the party and the general consensus is to keep your Lyfestyle activitys secret from Family members and I think we will also continue to do so until our daughter and her friend have decided to give it a try on their own. Then we can at least be communicating on the same wave length. @ Additude I like the thought and you are correct I never thought of it like that. Thanks @ LizandTom If we knew the Daughter and her Friend were in the lifestyle also I would not have a problem with it. As for the second question I do not think it would affect us at all. But good points. I think that as far as lying I think it will have to remain at large omissions of the truth to put it in better words. @ Alura The Quote I found on a old thread from you so I sort of suspected that it was yours. Great Line Thanks And like always great advice on the forum.
  12. Oh yes we defiantly agree telling the truth would be so much easier. We did say that we went to a club a long time ago and the response was not so positive more on the lines Mom what are you doing there? I guess she expected so much from me. Somewhere on the forum I read one of the best lines ever about swinging. "Swinging is like riding a Harley. For those who understand, no explanation is necessary. For those who don't, no explanation is possible." Anyway thanks for the insight and Happy nude Year. ACDG
  13. Hallo Forum, My wife and I go to on premise clubs quite regularly and have been up to now able to hide this from our Grown Daughter and Her Friend. They are both open to the idea of going to a swing club, Our Daughter really takes after her mother and would like to go, however her Friend at the moment while also open to the idea still does not have the courage to go. The situation where we need help is we are going to a new year’s party at a swing club and our Daughter wanted to go with us to the new year party, under the premise that it is not a swing club, this year we got out of it by saying that they are completely booked. We are afraid that next year she will think about new years early and tell us to book for them also. So the question is should we confess our lies and tell them where we are going or find another excuse. I think the ice is getting thin already due to several indiscretions anyway. Or should we continue to deny where we are going even though they have their suspicions. I am for confessing but my Wife is still concerned that the daughter and friend will not really understand since they have never been to a club. Thanks ACDG
  14. Like the others have said before Let the co worker be. Get your and your GF’s nerve together and go to the club the first time is the toughest. We were both apprehensive before we went to our first club since then we go regularly to clubs just relax and go. Or Just do it
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