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  1. jlff, I am a single female who only goes to clubs alone, no one in my social circle would, well I wouldn't feel comfortable inviting. Also, I have not been to a regular bar in 20 years or so except for the rare trip to hear specific music. So, I don't know how much comparison I can help you do. But, yes, I would imagine it is much like a regular bar. In the club that I visit, there are two floors. The first on could be easily mistaken for a regular bar, albeit a cheesy, poorly decorated bar. Dancing, drinking, small talk etc. Upstairs, there are the party areas and a table area which is quieter than the downstairs so it is easier to talk. I would suggest you let the employees know it is your first time and they will probably introduce you to some people who can show you around. I guess the biggest difference between a swinger club and a regular club is the sex on-premise and the assumption of availability is different. Plus, I like the group sex possibilities of the swinger clubs. My social skills usually stink, but I manage to meet people and have a good time. I am sure you will be fine. If you have specific questions, I will be happy to answer. Too bad we don't live closer, I would love to go to a club with someone instead of by myself sometime.
  2. This is from imbd using keyword searches. The only one I have seen was Consenting Adults which did have a swinging component but was more of a muder mystery IIRC The Ice Storm (1997) Score (1973) Promises! Promises! (1963) Consenting Adults (1992) Inside Amy (1975) Fun: Can Be Dangerous Sometimes (2005) This list is from the wikipedia entry on swinging Film In the movie The Blood Oranges (1997), two western couples, one with children, come together in the fictional Mediterranean village of Ilyria. The film was adapted from the novel by John Hawkes. The movie Bob & Carol & Ted & Alice (1969) is the American comedy classic that captures the sexual revolution of the late 1960s in the United States. It was nominated for four Academy Awards; Best Actor in a Supporting Role, Best Actress in a Supporting Role, Best Cinematography, and Best Original Screenplay. The movie Eating Raoul (1982) is a comic send-up of swinging stereotypes. The documentary movie The Lifestyle: Swinging in America, a 2000 film by director David Schisgall, took an in-depth look at several true-life swinging couples. The recent Bollywood film by Rajat Kapoor called Mixed Doubles[2] has tried to portray a humorous outlook to this concept on the Indian scene. PlayCouples, a 2003[20] feature-length documentary directed by Michael A. Bloom, has been called "the most complete and honest explanation of The Lifestyle I have yet to see" by Dr. Robert McGinley, founder of The Lifestyle Organization. Mimi Rogers' character Sharon, in the 1991 movie The Rapture, pursues an active swinging lifestyle with her 'partner', played by Rustam Branaman. Several of the key characters are introduced into the plot when they join Rogers and Branaman for group sex after meeting in a bar one night. The movie The Sex Monster (1999) is a comedy about a couple who begin a ménage à trois with another woman. The movie Zebra Lounge (2001) talks about swinging and its effects on the lives of a married couple with kids who seek some sexual adventures. The Dutch movie Swingers (2002) tells the story of a thirty-something couple and their first experiments with the swinging lifestyle. The film The Fourth Protocol (film) shows a brief clip of four American woman and an American airman naked in a room. The swinger overtones were very implicit. Television The BBC2 interviewer and documentary maker Louis Theroux investigated an American Swingers group in an episode of his Louis Theroux's Weird Weekends series. An episode of the BBC television programme Life on Mars featured the main characters infiltrating a swinger club. In an episode on the first season of the FOX series The OC, Sandy and Kirsten Cohen are tricked into attending a swinger's party on New Year's Eve. Touch And Go, a 1998 BBC Two drama, focussed on a young couple, played by Martin Clunes and Zara Turner visiting a swinging club in order to reinvigorate their marriage. After initial success, their marriage is threatened by the pressures of their new lifestyle. 2008 CBS series Swingtown is a period piece which deals with social and sexual changes of the 1970s, including swinging.
  3. I don't know, tell me what a great community service I would be doing and I'll see if I can get laid on premise this weekend! I was planning on doing some work but if you need me to investigate, I will!
  4. I had a moment or two of panic when I read here that TSC had gone off-premise. I checked the yahoo board for TSC and there was some talk of taming down things in the public areas (no below the waist nudity) but the private rooms were still available. But then the word was that Metro (Nashville government) was cracking down on the big "ADULT" signs of some of the local businesses (which should not be an issue for TSC, I don't know about Menage's). I did learn a lot about the Metro Sexually Oriented Business Board (SOB for short). There has been discussions about the crack down on stripper clubs (dancers cannot be within 3 feet of customers) while there is nothing they can do about the swinger clubs. Maybe I will venture to one of the Board Meetings and become more educated.
  5. Try here: Erotic Surrender: The Sensual Joys ... - Google Book Search If the link doesn't work, google "pillow talk thesaurus" and go to the site on books.google
  6. iapr, I just wanted to assure you that my feathers weren't ruffled and I hope I didn't come off sounding like they were. I guess the drama question baffles me because the people I meet and play with at clubs aren't in my life long enough for there to be any drama. Granted, I would like to have a closer social circle in the swinger community, I would love to find a dozen or so people that get together regularly. But, I am a tad shy and pretty new but I hope to keep branching out. As far as finding single females in the vanilla world, it would seem that it would take even more of an investment of time and small talk to find someone that clicks right. It seems like in the swinger world, your odds would be better since everyone is there for the same reason. (But, I have avoided the vanilla single world so I am by no means an expert). Again, no offense taken on my end, I just do a quick personal check to make sure I am not a crazed ogre. I'm OK!
  7. As a single female, I tend to get a little self conscience about the single women questions since we seem to have a reputation as being ugly, psycho or having some other issue that makes it impossible for us to be in a relationship. But, I have too much time on my hands today and decided to chime in. The question of single females and emotional issues intrigues me. Out of all the people I have met at the club, I can't imagine anyone knowing me well enough to be aware of whether I have emotional issues. Maybe it is more of an issue finding people online with the emailing back and forth and such, but in the club, it seems more of a hit and run situation. (Not in a bad way). I have only met one couple online, we emailed a few times, ate dinner and shared a hotel room for a couple of hours. The next week, I couldn't decide whether to email them as a follow up since reading here about all the psycho, needy, drama crap and the single woman. I think reading here about the opinions of single woman makes me question even simple etiquette. (I did email them, all was well, Mrs. Manners doesn't have a chapter on this stuff). I guess the club just works better for me, it seems a very isolated situation that has no carry over into my "normal" life. I get dressed up, go do my thing and then return to my life. I just tend to grin more than others in my social circle. Maybe I am one of those woman in a "transition" period that a previous poster referred to. I imagine I could be in a relationship if I chose, I am just not at a point where that is a priority. I am sane and sober, I don't drink at all which is interesting itself at a swinger club. I figure I have to be OK with what I am doing as I can do it stone cold sober. I am not terribly disfigured and I show up shaved, shampooed and shiny! I wish I had a tad more of that diva attitude everyone speaks of single females having. I tend to be more on the shy side and I never assume I am the answer to someone's prayers. I am just a lady hoping to have some happy naked time after a hard weeks work!
  8. You know that movie about the guys that are dying and make their "kick the bucket list", I have been thinking about the things I want to experience in my sexual life before I kick the bucket. 1. A pitch black party, the room is pitch black and no one knows who is who, it's all just about the bodies and the sex. (I am mentally trying to figure out how to work the mandatory condom issue. I imagine glow in the dark condoms bouncing around ). 2. I also fantasize about a very comfy house party where the expectation is for sex without the need for small talk. Upon arrival, there would be bathing and massages with exotic oils, donning small robes and then entrance into the orgy site. No chit chat, "where do you work", "have you been here before". Nothing but "let's see what our bodies feel like together". 3. I also imagine a blindfolded gang bang with someone watching over me for safety reasons. I think this one will stay in the imaginary realm, it doesn't quite make it to the "bucket list". (But I'll keep it handy if I get to fulfill the other two). So what's on your sexual bucket list?
  9. As a single female, I think safety is my number one issue. I would love to act with more abandon, but I guess I am just a tad too paranoid.
  10. I am a single woman who hangs out at swinger events and I am not looking for attention, I am looking for sex. Yeah, I guess I could go hang out at a vanilla club, but then I have to listen to men whine about the ex wife and the job and the ex girlfriend and blah blah blah. When you are "dating" or meeting new vanilla people, there is this societal norm of small talk that seems to have to occur. Then, there is this "will she, won't she" awkwardness about the whole sex issue. Personally, I am not really interested in dating, my time is limited and I have enough going on in my life that I really don't have space for someone else. What I do have is a physical need and a couple of hours on the weekends to fill that need. As far as the whole hotness thing, OK, I don't "look" hot. I look like a school mom that brings cupcakes to class. I am pretty hot, though, under my skin. I could say the same for most of the single men I have met at swinger clubs. I don't think any of the guys I have been with would have attracted me purely on a physical level. But, in that setting, the way they carry themselves made them very atrractive for the purpose of the evening. I would have missed out on some great encounters if I only had sex with pretty people.
  11. I had a great time at the club last night, still no couple action, but a nice couple of hours with a single male. It just seems all the couples are in these dark corners and not really out there looking to meet people. But, I have met a couple online, we are maybe having dinner this coming weekend. We have emailed and chatted, they seem like people I would hang out with in a clothed situation. Which brings up the next problem. I can do relationship sex and I can do anonymous club sex. I am imagining awkwardness between the "I really enjoyed our dinner, let's go get naked". But, I am going to forge ahead and spread my social interaction wings.
  12. I also wonder about how many couples are there just to check things out. At the club I visit, there is the upstairs "play area" and the downstairs with the dance floor. I see many couples sitting in the dark along the walls downstairs. I hesitate to approach them since they seem to be more in spectator mode. I will definately move my timeline back a few hours. I agree about the single woman not being as rare. I see plenty of woman that don't appear to be attached to a man. But they all seem to know each other and I just haven't gotten to know many people at the club yet. Thanks again for the tips.
  13. Thanks for the advice! I think you ID'd my problem, I need to adjust my nap time to allow me to visit the club later. I work on the weekends, so I try to get home early. I need to nap and show up later! Any good sources for fuller size sexy clothes? My club attire consists of dresses with halterish tops and full skirts, I can pull skirt up or pull top down for easy access in the club environment. I am sure I am missing all the good stuff, I am usually gone by 11:00. If the club owner sees me talking to someone, he always tells them to get it quick because I am out of there like a flash. Am I correct that I should focus my ice breaker conversation on the female half of the couple? For some reaason, getting the females OK first seems like the way to go.
  14. So far, my experience has been limited to on-premise club or house party, meeting single men and getting down to business. This has worked well, but I am ready to spread my wings. I think after my divorce, I just wanted to make sure that I could get laid, OK, check that off, I can do that. Now, I would really like to make contact with a couple. I think I am attracted to the fact that the man would not be so eager and jumpy (he is with his wife, he knows he is going to get some). Plus, I have always been curious about the touch and feel of a woman (I am a bi-newbie). So I get all gussied up, go to the club, and never get approached by couples. I have approached couples when they had the first timer name tag. I sat and talked but they were just there to check out the scene. I did have a lovely conversation with a couple who had been swinging for 30 some odd years, they were great and we 20 questioned each other alot, I learned alot about swinging and about myself that night. But, how do I get past the talking? Are couples less likely to play with a single they just met at a club vs someone they have emailed before? I am not real comfortable with the emailing, I am not looking for a relationship and getting to know you, just some good old anonymous naked time. I don't think I am visually an ogre, I am a size 16, a little lumpy but all my lumps are in the right place. I don't dress real sexy, I like to look a little classy with that wild thang undertone. I am working on my small talk, eye contact people skills, so I am trying to be more outgoing. How do I let couples at the club know that I am interested. Do I need to do my networking online? Do couples prefer that mode of contact?
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