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scott9255

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About scott9255

  • Rank
    Just Getting Started
  • Birthday May 18

Personal Info

  • Relationship Status
    Couple
  • Location
    Big Island, Hawaii
  • Interests
    Playing with bees
  • Occupation
    CFO Market Research Co., Orchard Owner
  • Swinging Experience
    15 years

Swinger Info

  • SLS Name
    Scott
  1. Aloha Teresa, Mahalo (thank you) for your through reply. A few years ago I attended house parties at a couple's house in NJ. As a new attendee, we were required to come an hour early for a sit and chat. The host and hostess spent that hour going over the do and don't in their house. It was a little uncomfortable at first and I soon realized the value of that get acquainted meeting. They were some of the best parties We ever attended. My partner never experience an unwanted grope. I must admit, it's been a few years since I've attended a large house party. Two years ago I moved to my 75 acre farm, in a remote part of the Big Island of Hawaii. Our play these days is meeting couples who live a distance away or are here on a vacation. I hate to hear that things have moved in that direction. To explain my question, "Do you have, what you consider, acceptable cues that you are interested in playing with a couple? If you do, why are your cues acceptable and the cues from others, annoying or unwelcomed." I was playing devil's advocate. Say we're talking to you and being nice and you say, "Are Ya'll interested in playing?" I'm thinking, I was just being nice and not ready or interested in playing with you. I could consider your question to be too aggressive or inappropriate. BTW, I agree with everything you said in your response and I have encountered those folks. Guys grabbing my wife's breasts or reaching under her skirt while talking or dancing. At the time they were few and far between and quickly asked to leave. Excessive drinkers were the most annoying to Us. There's nothing worse than someone intoxicated, making a pass.
  2. There will always be the random extreme case, i.e. the lady chasing you. These should be handled by the host of the party taking them aside and reminding them of the etiquette required at parties. Consider if your attitudes have changed and your interest in playing at parties has waned. Once you felt the advances of other couples, interested in playing, was flattering and welcomed. Now you find that same interest annoying and are only interested in the social aspect of the party. You may have become more selective or only want to play with friends. Here are some questions you might consider. When you're interested in playing with a couple how do you show your interest? Do you think they see you as aggressive? Do you have, what you consider, acceptable cues that you are interested in playing with a couple? If you do, why are your cues acceptable and the cues from others, annoying or unwelcomed. When you express and interest in another couple and they're not interested, how do they tell you they're not interested?
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