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Drusilla

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About Drusilla

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  • Birthday 08/28/1971

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    M. Female
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    Pacific Northwest
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    Paranormal investigation, eBay
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    Mom
  • Swinging Experience
    Haven't yet....well, not really. Trying VERY hard to convince hubby, though. Any suggestions???

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    right about now?? All of them!

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  1. Wow....that sounds awesome! It sounds like just the right thing for us. I'd love to go but not sure I'd convince hubby. *sigh* After 9 months of seriously "thinking about it" and finding the idea "intriguing", he still won't go any further. I know...usually it's the girl that needs to be "convinced". We've switched that up a bit. LOL It definitely sounds like a great idea and a fun time!
  2. Very politically correct, 8inches! Lots of thought went into how to word this post, huh? lol Sorry.....couldn't resist.... And yes, of course, married women are much hotter than single ones. Oh, is that politically incorrect of me? LOL.... Just joshin' of course.
  3. Wow, SoCal....you obviously get "it". Thank you for saying what you did! I'm right there with your wife on the meds thing and it sux. Sure losing weight is possible (I've just lost 40...Woohoo! and am turning into quite the hotty if I do say so myself) but it means going down to 500-600 calories PER DAY. This is less than many people eat in ONE MEAL. How many ppl who are out there flinging insults can honestly say they could do that?!? Ppl with normal metabolisms simply can not understand what happens when health and medication all but stops the metabolism. But you did say it. You might not have said it to the one lady at the bar but you did say it to god knows how many ladies here. You explained why you didn't find the three women attractive. That's fine...obviously no one can tell you who to be attracted to. And I agree you did the right thing by quietly making your exit. BUT, the only characteristic you mentioned about the third lady was that she was overweight. Then you said she was a cow. Therefore, overweight=cow. As Shelly said, likening someone to a dirty, smelly, barn animal simply because they are overweight is completely different than saying someone has a sewer mouth. If you can't understand that, I'm not sure there's anything anyone could say to make you understand. I can't even bring myself to quote the rest of the drivel spouted in that post. Perhaps I'm misunderstanding you, and I really hope I am. But if you mean it like it sounds, I'd say you named yourself correctly. As far as 8inches is concerned...I don't think he meant to be an asshole or hurt anyone, he just didn't think about what he was saying before he said it. Of course, he went on to make it worse but maybe that was simply a defensive instinct? Maybe??? Trying to give the benefit of the doubt here....lol. It doesn't have anything to do with being politically correct or not. It has to do with not saying something that is going to hurt a great number of people.
  4. Shell...Bravo! Thank you for actually saying what I'm sure alot of ppl were actually thinking. And as a a matter of fact, there was at least one person reading who thought exactly that. She also happens to have a great sense of humor...well, most ppl find it kind of strange LOL...and doesn't offend easily at all. But yeah, the cow comment stung just a tad..... So, no Shell, you weren't wrong at all and I think you said it very well.
  5. Was wondering the same thing... Although I have to admit that I haven't experienced anything beyond one on one .......yet. One of my favorite fantasies is very similar to the one Mrs. Fun described. As she said, I wouldn't need to worry that everyone else was having a good time because it would all be about ME. I'm still working on gently leading hubby over to the "dark side" at all though so who knows if I'll ever experience anything even remotely close. Hubby does seem to be getting more open and interested in exploring new things though so anything is possible. I do think an option should be added to the poll to reflect the "there can be too many?" pov. Btw...most of you probably don't know me. I started a thread back in June or so and have posted once or twice on others since then. I may not have been very visible but I have been around lurking on most days...or nights. I really enjoy reading everything you all have to say and pay particular attention to all your great advice. I suppose I should do an "introduce myself" post sometime soon. It's on the list!
  6. Jamther...You are a very lucky girl and I'm soooooo incredibly jealous! I'm still working on getting hubby open to the idea of playing with others. I'm thinking it's going to be a very long time, if ever, that I get to experience the MFM. Of course, that's the one thing I'm really really REALLY wanting. *sigh* Of course you are nervous but just go and have FUN. Enjoy the attention and don't think too much. That's what I was told when first introduced to the idea of playing with others....lol...."stop thinking so much". Still waiting for my chance so please, please, PLEASE be sure to come let us know how it goes. Details would be good.
  7. So guess I'm the freak wife who is trying to convince a relunctant/not real open to it hubby... *sigh* Oh what I wouldn't give to have him trying to convince me....LOL
  8. Would have to be JBJ & Dorothea... Or even better yet. J B Jovi & Richie sambora....yeah, now there's a sizzlin' couple of guys. what?!? That's not how you meant couple? Oh well, no worries...I'll be over here iin the corner nibbling on jon and ritchie. Dorothea is more than welcome to hang out with my dh. Hey, maybe they'd like to watch or something? Of course we would be a little off balance because my tryst is shaping up to be an incredibly erotic menag'e. Perhaps dorothea would like to invite a friend and they can play with my hubby. Hey, I'm a fair girl. LOL fyi...I have a small bit Very small bit of further information concerning my first thread in Situational help, "Our friends surprised us..." time to sleep now but will update that soon.
  9. Wow!...this just left me shaking my head... The kind of attitude expressed in this post is simply sick & sad As someone who desperately wants another pregnancy & baby but can't have it, this post was just a tad bit infuriating. Heck, even before my illness, I still would have found this infuriating. Abortion is NOT birth control!!!!!! Can't say how happy I was to see I wasn't the only one thinking perhaps it is time to try a bit of responsibility.
  10. we've talked....in bed, out of bed...everywhere. At this point, playing with friends isn't the problem...he seems more than willing/happy to do that. He just doesn't seem to want to play with me. This man who claims to love me more than life itself, who says I'm beautiful and he loves everything about me because he loves my soul.... He says he even loves my surgical scars because they are proof that I was willing to sacrifice something that I love & wanted more than almost anything (having babies...having a second baby), in order to stay alive and be with him and our son. I was given the option to try a pregnancy and treat the cancer after. But I was told the odds significantly increased that I would not survive past 5 years if I did that. I wanted to go for it...hubby begged me not to. I did what he wanted... I don't know...just confused...hurt.... he says I'm imagining things that he's just stressed over work, and yes it is stressful for him now but it's never impacted the bedroom before. Why now?
  11. thanks for the advice looking4ward. The thing is is that there has already been all that communication. He's a smart guy...I shouldn't have to tell him 3 million times. Geez...it's hard enough to say it once, let alone over and over and over. He is well...I mean really well...aware of all of that. He is either not paying attention or is choosing to ignore it. Like most men, he has selective hearing.... I feel like I'm putting effort in but he's not. That feels like a rejection. When he asked what was wrong, it wasn't said in a nice way. It was more like "wtf is wrong with you now". It was the way he said it, not what he said. I know....guys tend to roll their eyes at that but I think the women will understand. He was gearing for a fight and I was not in the mood to fight at midnight. I just couldn't do it right then. So, it was easier at the moment to just claim I wasn't crying. He claims he was just really tired last night. I don't know...maybe he was and maybe I'm just being too sensitive. Somehow, when your own husband of 18 years doesn't seem to want you and you are practically raping the guy...it doesn't do a whole lot of good for your security to exploring other ppl.
  12. As far as the troubles with DH that I'm wondering about...let's just say that I came to bed tonight completely nekky, freshly showered and shaved in all the right places. The man rolled over and said good night. This is the second night in a row he's done this and when we did have sex the night before, he acted like it was a huge chore. I just don't understand. The only time he seems into me is when he's getting a BJ. Since our son has been at camp, he's gotten quite a few spontaneous and surprising ones. He'll return the favor sometimes but in the last few weeks, his body language and the tension I can feel in him, just make it seem as thought he really doesn't want to return the favor. I've told him what i like, but he just keeps on doing it the old way which doesn't do much for me since I've discovered new tricks. It's like he doesn't want to make the effort to make it really good for me. Unless time constraints means it has to be a quickie, everytime I give him a BJ (often by the way since I love it so much), I try to make it the best one ever. I pay attention to tricks I read about or see somewhere and try them out. It's easy enough to tell if the person likes what you are doing. If he likes it, I'll keep doing it and add it to my standard routine. Whereas, I'll finally get up the courage to tell DH what I like and he'll do it that one time but then he doesn't do it again. He seems stuck on doing what HE thinks I should like rather than what he knows I do like. In addition, he hasn't been initiating it very often. It used to be a constant struggle to keep his hands off me for fear our son would walk in at the wrong moment. Now he just wants to grab my boobs (not necessarily in the way I like) and have me go down on him. This is a total recent problem. Although he insists I'm imagining things and he's just tired from work but it's driving me crazy..not to mention hurting my feelings. Is he upset/jealous that I've expressed an intrest in his best friend? Is he just nervous about the whole thing and reconsidering giving me the green light with this couple. We don't even know what will happen but he knows what I'm hoping will happen. It's so hard when he acts like there's nothing wrong but I KNOW there is. That's one thing I do well...read peoples feelings. I can feel a good aura or a bad aura & tension fairly easily and usually pretty accurately. Something is going on with him. I just can't figure out what. I don't think there has ever been a time when I've come to bed completely nekky (don't do it often with a kid in the house) and he didn't jump me. Today, nothing. Not even a smile or acknowledgement of my lack of clothes. he wanted a very chaiste kiss, and rolled over. I couldn't help it and a few tears flowed which started the sniffles. At least he did turn over and ask me what was wrong. I told him, "nothing, allergies". Although he knows fully well that my allergies aren't bothering me. I don't have any that would have just sprung up suddenly to have me sniffling either. I'm so confused! I have stopped talking about any possibility of playing tomorrow night and have stopped talking about his friend. in that way. I'm already insecure about my body and this is certainly NOT helping. He could be just stressed from work....hopefully, that's what it is.
  13. And just like the other installments, this one is quite lengthy. I really appreciate those of you who take the time to read it. If you take the time to comment...that's a bonus. I'm tried to make it as easy to read as possible. S. I'll just say in advance....in case you don't get all the way to the bottom. Our son is still at scout camp (I miss him SO much! ) but since he won't be home until Saturday afternoon, we made plans with our friends to "hang out" at their house tomorrow night. Their babies will be there but one is a toddler and still in a crib and the other is an infant. The toddler hasn't gotten out of his crib yet. Of course, that will happen for the first time if we all start playing, huh? No no no...he won't. Just joshin'...there are no worries on this issue. The point is, the babies are there but they are really "babies" and can't just walk in so it's not a problem. Actually, I love their babies and am can't wait to hug and snuggle them when we get over there. We are going for dinner so the kids will be up for awhile. I just love the way babies smell when they are all fresh and clean. oops.... When I heard the original plan, and thought about DH's strange attitude lately, I really was about about 90% certain nothing would happen or even be suggested. The original plan was that we'd go over for dinner and then they'd put the kids down and we could watch a movie or "something". I had really wanted to go out to the strip club again but they had babysitter issues. So no problem, we can go watch a movie. But then the friend calls today and says well we can change the plan and just plan on hanging in their backyard to visit. Sounds innocent enough, right? Yeah, innocent until you stop to think that the HOTTUB is ain the backyard. The FIREPIT is in the back yard. The dard & secluded bushes where he had pulled me aside to talk is in the backyard. For some strange reason, :rollseyes: I sort of consider their backyard to be their seduction center. Out in the backyard is where all the seduction/foreplay "action" happened until it was time to "go to bed" and the other two couples got serious. While DH and I had to take our son home...dammitt! That sounds as though they could be planning on...um...oh I don't know...making a move. (You thought I was gonna say making a MOVIE there didn't ya...huh? yeah...knew it...lol) II don't know of a better way to put it and at this point, I just don't know what to think. If we do watch a movie, can anyone suggest any good ones to get the 4 of us a bit revved up? I'm looking for something newish, recentish, that we would possibly want to watch for reasons other than the sex as well. I don't want them to think I brought porn or something. I'm working up to that....maybe next week. :grin: What about suggestions for a game if we go that way? Not the in your face swinger games (although, I'm SO hoping to get everyone playing one of these in the future...near future. I'm working on this one too...LOL :grin: For now, we need something clean but that can turn dirty when the right puddle dwelling minds crash the party. :grin: Strip poker could be an option but that means there is a strong possibility of getting totally nekky since I suck at Poker. I'm not at all comfy with totally nekky yet...I'll have to work it out. :sigh: I still don't have a real strong feeling that any playing will take place but anything is possible right? ~Dru
  14. No, no, no, no...there is no good to be gained from telling her. Btw, I am by no means an expert but I did graduate with a BS in Child & human development and family relationships. Granted that was a few years ago and I'm not currently practicing social work, but I have seen some couples in this predicament. From what I've seen, the only good that comes out of telling is that the guilty party is able to ease their guilt a bit by "getting it off their chest". Well, yippee for you but now you've laid all those awful feelings on your non-cheating spouse. You feel so much better, she feels like crap. How kind of you. You will not be doing your wife any favors by telling her. The guilt is yours....you earned it. Well said and precisely what I would have said had you not already said it! Your Daddy sounds like a smart man!
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