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  1. As a matter of fact, Mr. Rides was in a Viagra trial too... one where they were trying to get it labeled for treatment of Beningn Prostatic Enlargement. He took 100 mg a day for 90 days! Then they gave him 30 100's for a parting gift. Big fun!
  2. I wonder if this has already been posted... I guess I should have looked. What experiences have you had with different ED drugs? We have only tried Viagra and Levitra. In our experience, Viagra works a lot faster (Mrs. jokes to Mr he should try just sniffing it, or maybe taping it to his arm), but Levitra is more likely to be effective for multiple attempts. Not for 36 hours, necessarily, but definitely for 3-4 hours apart. Also, Levitra definitely doesn't work instantly (maybe 15-30 mins foreplay time required, what's wrong with that?) as does Viagra. Just one couple's experience... what's yours?
  3. My wild fantasy is a kind of musical chairs blow job thing, where there's a short musical interlude, during which time the ladies fellate their partner, then the music changes, and they move to the next one in line. Rather than losing a seat each time, it would be more along the lines of you drop out of the game when your partner has an orgasm. And obviously, the gentlemen in question would be at the beck and call of the lady who made it possible.
  4. From Mrs. Rides, who is the one who is most interested... I don't really talk to that many of my female companions about this, but when it does come up, by far and away the biggest resistance I hear to the idea is ladies' discomfort about their bodies. So gentlemen, I would suggest that you start focusing on the parts of your partner that she likes the best, praising the ones she's not so sure of. And, above all, get yourself some books that help you learn how to take pictures of her that make her look good. You can do this, even at the family reunion, even when she's in her swimsuit. (In that case, for example, never, ever, ever take a picture of any normal woman in full sun in a suit.) Seriously! When I was 20-40 pounds heavier, Mr. R would relentlessly take pics of me that were unflattering so that I would be "motivated" to do something about it. What that did was just make me more convinced it was hopeless. If you have gotten a "maybe" from your lady, imho, the most important thing you can do is make her confident about her ability to hold her own among other hot women. And, oh, by the way, I have never, ever, ever talked to any woman about the idea who doesn't at least have sort of a passing fantasy about it. Just an observation.
  5. Well, I guess bi-polar is a possible issue, but I think it's kind of a leap. If you never noticed this sort of thing in other contexts, it's probably more along the lines of someone who has the same conflicts as the half of those polled here who haven't tried it yet... That is, for example, my number one fear is that I will try it, like it, and then wake up the next morning and think, "What was I doing?!!!" Maybe she just has those waking moments in the heat of the moment, perhaps. Maybe, until she's a little more comfortable with the idea, it would be a good idea to go to be in scenarios that are a little less charged than clubs or parties. Of course, "getting checked out" is a good idea for any of us. In every sense of the word. Cheers, Mrs. R
  6. This is the Mrs... The first thing I thought when I read this thread was, "This is one of those deals where you have to decide whether it's more important to be happy, or to be right." I know it's not that simple, and this doesn't mean I don't honor your feelings, ShyWife. 30 years ago I felt this way about Mr. R looking at porn. What I did was start looking at what he was looking at, at least a little bit, and making sure he knew I was looking. At that point, we never really talked about it, but what I saw what he seemed to be a lot less interested in porn, and both of us were more interested in screwing each other. So I am not exactly sure how this translates to your sistuation, Shy, but if *I* were in this situation, I would make sure that I took every possible opportunity to invite him to look at sites together with you. I am not saying this is what you should do, I am just trying to share my experience. Cheers, Mrs. R
  7. All I can say is, just openly bringing the topic out, out of strictly (mostly private) fantasy, and into "I would love to see you do it with another" has resulted in daily (sometimes multiple times a day) sex for us for almost the last three months. I know it is unusual for the Mrs. to have more interest in this than the Mr., and you can also read about how he kind of began to be threatened by all this talk. Although, I am happy to say, I stopped talking about it, and he has brought up the subject on his own a couple of times. I am the Mrs., 50, and Mr. Rides is 55. We have been married and monogamous since 1980. Cheers, Mrs. R PS: He's started waking up with "morning wood" that no longer requires Viagra.
  8. Do you remember what it was like to be dating in the vanilla world??? I can sure remember having many of the same frustrations you describe when I was just looking to pair up two. When you consider that whenever four or more are gathered, you get a committee... And the truth is, all the good ones find their circle, then stop cruising sites like SLS. If you want to find a better quality of response from SLS, you might consider getting a new e-mail address and creating a new profile. Or maybe that's completely verboten. Cheers, Mrs. R
  9. Thanks for your supportive notes. I guess all men have some amount of anxiety about not being able to satisfy their wives, on so many levels, including sexually. Bottom line is this: We're still having that daily hot sex, even though I am not verbalizing anything about swinging. Proceed at the level of the least interested party, as it were. Since my initial post, we have had some good communication. I assured him that he DOES satisfy me, and I especially reminded him that the God's own truth is that I haven't touched another man (or woman) passionately since 1978. I also reminded him that that *my* fantasy is not centered on being with another man so much as playing around with a good lady friend, gently, which I am sure the boys would be very interested in, and then watch and be watched with my own partner. I often say to him that this is something almost everyone does in college, even back in my Fred Flintstone days, and now that we're empty nesters, I have this longing to get in on something I kind of missed out on. You know, one thing he said was, "There's really no one I can talk to about 'My wife wants me to have sex with another woman.'" I reminded him if we just met another play couple socially--no sex, just friendly--that he would certainly have someone to talk with about that. All of which seemed to make a light go off. And we *are* still having that daily hot sex, even though I am not verbalizing anything about swinging. Proceed at the level of the least interested party, yes, yes. Cheers, Hope to stay in touch, thanks to all for writing, Mrs. Rides PS: I always love the "our first time" posts on here, and I know other newbies do, too. I especially appreciate the ones where the first time wasn't that great but you were still interested enough to try it again and it was great. Cheers, and thanks to all
  10. Thanks to all for your insights. I am still waiting to hear from ladies who were initiators...
  11. I see posts from men about how they have hurt their wives by their interest in swinging, but I would love to hear from ladies who have been there. For the past couple of months, my husband and I have been actively talking about trying swinging, at my urging. The fantasizing has resulted in a couple of months of daily sex, and great fun. This morning, after a sunrise bop and a couple of naps, he got ready for work--he always works on Saturdays. As is my frequent custom, I came upstairs as he was dressing and playfully asked if he would like a complimentary 20-second blowjob. He wasn't up for it, and I certainly didn't take it personally. We talked about it a bit, and I assured him I didn't mind, not one bit. He was all downtrodden-like, and said, "I'm sore, I just put talc on it..." As he was leaving, he was still in downtrodden mode, and I said, "It's bigger than that, isn't it?" And at first he said, "I don't want to get into it now." Then, as he went out the door, he said, "I have never been able to satisfy you sexually, not ever. If I had, you wouldn't be so interested in having sex outside our marriage. I will do it if that's what it takes, though." Wow! Obviously I need to drop this topic, but I also need to know what to say to him to heal what is a seriously big wound.
  12. Hi, The idea of the guy being so hot after all the foreplay that undoubtedly leads up is actually pretty hot to the girl. If your first go is with a girl other than your own partner, that means you'll be pretty sure to have another shot later in the evening, anyway. If you are really, really concerned about it, talk to a urologist, who can prescribe inexpensive and quite save beta blockers that you can take on an as-needed basis. Your family practice physician is not that likely to participate in this idea, but most urologists are... Good luck wherever and whenever you come! Mrs. R
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