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AlbertaSwing

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  1. Why did I do it? The short answer is that I wanted to screw a porn star lol. But really there were some things in our relationship that I was quite unhappy about and was very frustrated. Living out this fantasy was a way of me acting out my frustrations. What I should have done before I reached that point....and what I eventually did later.......was talk to Mrs. Swing about my feelings and frustrations and skip the cheating part. The end result would have been the same with a much better relationship...minus the cheating part. Let me rephrase a comment I made in my last post. I said there was no need to cheat now that we are in the lifestyle. Tybee Swing rightly asked "Is there ever a need to cheat?". No, there is no need to cheat whether there is swinging involved or not. Being able to communicate how I feel with Mrs. Swing and know there will be understanding at her end we would be able to come to some kind of resolution that would work for everyone
  2. I would like to thank everyone for all the great replies and comments on this topic. Your comments were very interesting and insightful. Telling Mrs. Swing about my past cheating was not something I was considering until recently. We have been married for 8 years years. Our relationship has went though many changes over that time and especially in the last six months since we got into the lifestyle. We now talk and communicate like we have never before. I wanted to tell her about my past transgressions, but I wanted to pick the right time. Mrs. Swing is quite an unconventional woman in many ways and she continues to surprise me year after year. In the past I never thought she would consider swinging, I just did not think she had it in her. But she totally surprised me and now she is as enthusiastic about as I am. I actaully did tell her about my past cheating. The moment in which I told her about was not planned, it was a spur of the moment decision based on circumstances. Mrs Swing and I were having a discussion about secrets we kept from each other. Mrs Swing had figured in the the past that I might of done something, but I never would admit to it before. During our discussion Mrs Swing invited me to tell her if I had ever had cheated on her. So I proceeded to tell her, my gut feel was that this was the time to tell her all the details. I mean why not? I did tell her the details and her reaction was not what most would expect. Mrs. Swing still was not exactly impressed with my cheating, but her response did not exhibit the hurt and anger that probably would have been the case six months ago. We discussed the details for several days and the end result was that our relationship is stronger now than before. Our discussions gave her greater insight into who I am why I did it. There is certainly no need for anyone to cheat now since we are in the lifestyle and being honest with her about my past really helps to for me to honest with her in the future.
  3. The Mrs. and I have gotten into the Lifestyle about six months ago. We are really enjoying it and we have talked like we have never talked before. Our relationship and sex life have improved greatly since we started down this path. There is just this one thing on my mind. In our pre swing days I cheated on the Mrs. and I have not told her about it. Since our relationship has reached a new level I would like to be honest and tell her about my past transgressions, but I am not sure I should. I do not want to ruin what we have now. What do people here think, should I potentially rock the boat and tell her or should I forget about it and never discuss it?
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