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  1. Thank you to all for your responses, and I have a follow up...has anyone been successful in reverting to a vanilla relationship with another couple? Personally, I don't see how that is possible. When I think back at the girlfriends I had late teens, early twenties, seeing them after we had broken up....it was essentially a free pass. It was friends with benefits (as long as I was not a jerk at time of break up!). My wife has shared similar stories from her past as well. Apply this to the current situation...I find it very likely that jumping into bed on a whim has a high propbability, given the right circumstances or situation. So again, has anyone had success at reverting to vanilla? And if so, what were the key issues to resolve?
  2. Oh boy.....new to the scene and we have been seeing another couple for about two months now. Very friendly, lots of calls and text messages, and both my wife and I have been getting along very well with our counter parts. However, while I like this woman, sexually it is not happening for me. I look forward to seeing her and get excitied for it, and we have a great time until we reach the bed room. While I have performed, each time there has been some type of mood killer via something that I find ill timed or, quite frankly, not sexy in the least. And without going into detail, this last time together was, well, one for the books. Additionally, there has been a lot of drama between the other couple which centers around their relationship and their activities with others. On some levels, my wife and I have been cast in the role of counselors. Generally speaking, I have no problem with this if I felt there was a payoff. I like helping if I can. But now I'm asking myself, what's in it for me? The answer was a cool woman and sex. The cool woman is still there but the sex is getting harder and harder with less satisfaction. So, to this point the situation seem pretty clear, right? Sounds like we should at least take a break and possibly end it. However, due to various issues my wife has not yet gone all the way with him, and she is excited to do so, so what do i do? Unselfishly my thought is to bite the bullet and continue for a few more weeks taking one for the team until my wife gets what she wants. However, that charade is not pleasant to me as I know it will hurt the other woman even further, not to mention how I will feel. On the other hand, should I expect my wife to be admittedly disappointed and end it along with me? This is the first couple we have been with so from that perspective there is emotional tie in for her. After week one with this couple I sensed many of these issues (primarily the drama) and suggested to my wife we end it then, quickly. But she thought I was being silly and she liked him and wanted to continue. I wish I would have listened to my gut then and gotten out as it would have been far easier and less "costly" at that time. I really don't know what to do and would appreciate any feedback or suggestions you may have. Thanks
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