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  1. Well I'm kind of late into this discussion ... I guess my first question would be why Flori_Daman (if tha'ts right) said his mate had died .... and it seems she hadn't or am I too many wines down here LOL. Anyway, hubby and I had a great first MFM experience and from all reports we were lucky. However he has since married and - well he's a hard act to follow. But ... one of our very first criteria with each other, was that anyone we involved in our "playtime" had to be fully aware of the risks. So by that we meant that if your spouse doesn't know about it they are taking risks both emotionally and physically that they are not even aware of. We have met many people online (mostly males) who have attempted to deceive us but it doesn't take long to see through it if you're aware. Only once did we actually play in a situation which was a married man with a girlfriend and as soon as they "fessed up" shortly afterwards it was "bye bye from us". This is not a moral judgement on anyone else, it is i guess some kind of ruling that helps us to feel a touch less hedonistic! If we're not hurting anyone else than its OK. Do we need that? Well yes I guess to some degree we do. But for the single males out there, and only for the really truly single males out there .... don't be too disheartened. As was said earlier, many couples just are not interested in MFM, its not necessarily personal or discriminatory. I am not Bi. and have been in many situations where I've had to gently push away the bi fem, because it is just not my thing.
  2. I guess I'm going against the flow here but ... it appears to me that Mrs Seriously is having her cake and eating it too! My husband is extremely outgoing and I am quite shy initially but he wouldn't dream of us separating at an event and hooking up and leaving me to my own devices. WE ARE A COUPLE. We don't always play as a couple but we always respect each others feelings and wishes first! Mr Seriously, it seems to me, is attracted to someone he would like to play with. Mrs Seriously is saying "no way" while she's playing her own game. I think this couple need to back off swinging entirely until they have sorted out respect for each other.
  3. Thanks Julie - only once in my life have I faked and it was in the "lifestyle" because damn I was just worn out and he wouldn't quit! LOL
  4. OK, readjustment here. Yes, I would agree that performance anxiety is very much on me too. I am not blaming the males cart blanche. I have thoroughly enjoyed most encounters even though i have not had an orgasm. My question was, put another way, does a lack of orgasm in the female make you males think twice about revisiting the situation? And by the way DBL D - I didn't go to college - but still if someone didn't make me cum doesn't mean i didn't have a good time and still want to try it again.
  5. If you males encounter a female that doesn't "cum" at the drop of a hat, that you actually have to work at to figure out what makes her tick - do you see that as a challenge or a waste of time? I'm obviously in this category, in over 18months only two males (apart from hubby) have given me an orgasm. I have a ball playing, am very active and the males always leave satisfied and hubby always makes sure I'm satisfied either during or afterwards, he almost always brings the visiting female to orgasm. The only successful males have been those that have been frequent playmates. I wonder if the others just saw it as a waste of time after the first attempt?
  6. Yep, I'm going with the full exchange of partners.
  7. Tazzie, we had almost exactly that same situation. Our take on it was that everyone involved in swinging is taking some kind of emotional and physical risk, the spouses of these people were actually taking the risk without knowing about it. Doesn't work for me. We will only swing when both parties are aware of and happy with whats going on.
  8. I'm going to second that last comment, my man is 5'6 and though I haven't actually measured him I know there are times when he makes me gasp ... he say 61/2 but i think longer, not thick, but long. So, don't go with the hand, foot size ... it definitely doesn't work. But I'm gonna go with, and I know it will cause a riot here, the ethnic thing. My guy is Italian and most of them I've had the pleasure to experience are pretty well endowed ....however, just came across my first Irish and damn he wasn't long but very thick, so - what works ..... a penis that is hard for you (whatever the size) and a man that can figure out what works for you (cos we're all different)!
  9. Hubby and I got caught out with this one when we found out that a couple we met were actually just lovers and she was married. We have made a rule that works for us ... we enjoy this, we don't want to hurt anyone else with what we do. We just figure we will only play with couples if both partners are aware and OK with it. Anything else is a disaster looking to happen and where we may not have caused it, we could certainly contribute to it, we don't want to go there.
  10. I'm with the coffee/tea idea. It's got to be either that or the number of Manhattans I drink
  11. A couple of our male friends know about our activities, not in detail obviously, their wives suspect I think but as yet have not said much. Although they have been a little distant recently LOL. I would not tell my best friend, even though I'm not entirely sure she would snub me. But here's a kicker and probably another thread, over this summer our kids saw some stuff on hubbys computer (he's a little techno. challenged and hadn't hidden it well) and faced us up about it. All they know for sure is that we've been visiting the sites! Surrender But they are filling in the rest for themselves because I refuse to give them details of our personal life. They wanted reassurance that we were emotionally safe and physically safe and I could give that unconditionally. However, none of them has had an attitude or changed their ways around us .... apart from the odd little quip about who we're meeting for dinner! We are a lot more discreet with the computer now but it's a little like shutting the stable door after the horse has bolted!
  12. Well ya learn something new everyday! I actually thought soft-swap was two couples same room but whatever goes as long as the partners are all in the one room. Hubby and I are comparative newbies but have done full-swap, mfm, foursome .... he's waiting for his first fmf!! I find that in the foursome situation that we've experienced with now good friends, that it's great fun and a great turn-on, but it's too distracting to me to be able to cum. If I really want to let go then it has to be seperate rooms. Who knows maybe we'll come across someone that solves that problem for me!
  13. I love this board, and thanks Catherine for bringing this up. Hubby and I were discussing the G-spot a few days ago .... can't say i'd heard about it. My orgasms are from clitoral stimulation and they are always wonderful but I really love the guy inside me and would love to achieve that too.
  14. ok - maybe, again another thread here (i keep doing this). But how come its ok to do oral with no protection but you need protection for penetration. Sorry if I come over as a bit blonde ... but I am
  15. Ok, another question. Hubby and I started out with practically no rules (other than condoms) a year ago. We've found ourselves in a couple of situations that have prompted our introducing some rules, but still minimal. Our #1 Rule is no swinging with married people unless both parties are aware and agree. That one came up recently. #2 - no going solo without discussing it with each other first. (and I know some of you don't do that anyways). How about you guys? What rules are important to you? What situations have prompted them?
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