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    Originally posted by OhioCouple:
    It very well could be that I have barked up the wrong tree. I'll be willing to eat crow for dinner tonight if that is the case.

    Testdiva and Daddytiger,

    Thank you for coming back and filling in some of the details. Often people will pose a question and then will not return to fill in the blanks.

    My opinion has totally changed regarding this for many reasons. This person is not really your husbands boss, he isn't married, your husband is aware of your feelings, (ya'll give me the warm fuzzies for responding together!), and can't remember but I think one of you stated that you were moving from the area.

    That said, here is my new take on this. I think you are wise to hold off for a bit. My reasoning for this is that I've had a couple of encounters with men that I have had the "hots" for. This was tho, back in my single days. Each event turned out to be sorely disappointing. I suppose that I expected a whole lot more than what I got.

    In swinging tho, the experiences and my feelings are quite a bit different from my single days. I am very turned on by many things that makes some of the men so very attractive. Maybe it is the way they interact with their wives/girlfriends or the respect they have with all women in general. (not saying the others did not, I don't know and didn't bother to find out, nor did I care back then. I just wanted it and I had to have it now. Lust pure and simple.)

    Now, I enjoy the "dance, romance and friendship", which leads to higher levels for myself and my husband.

    Too each his own though I suppose. Some can just go out do it, get it over with and go on. That just isn't our thing, but like all things where swinging is concerned, it is whatever works well for you.

    Lori ~ Who is eating crow tonight. [Frown]
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    No worries like I said lots of gaps....

    and also as I said.. I would REALLY hate to be disappointed..... but... I suppose sometimes just the "end of the conquest" so to speak is satisfaction in and of itself... Honestly, part of this I think is my own ego... I want to just to see if I can.

    Now I have thought on this for a bit... and felt bad for a bit thinking.. "Am I using him to get some kinda ego boost?" but then realize... "Wouldn't he be using me to get off and maybe get a ego boost of his own?!" .. so, its give and take... really....

    As I said though, if it happens it'll be one of those spontanious things.. I think my husband walking up and saying "Hey.. my wife REALLY wants to fuck you." would just be a BIT much in the way of PRESSURE... hehe

    Honestly I wanna work out with him... that's his "thing" so... if I could get in his gym... **smiles** (Besides! its the ONE thing we have in common!)

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    Testdiva,

    Short story for you. Well maybe not, since I am not well known for brevity.

    There was a fellow that I absolutely lusted after for nearly a year. He was the build, make, creme de la creme of all men. Perfect in stature and physically everything I thought I could have ever wanted. We worked in the same office building and every time I saw him my heart pounded. If by chance he would give a passing glance my way, I would become so wet that a couple of bath towels couldn't sop it up. And heaven forbid if he spoke to me AND smiled when he did so.

    Eventually I could no longer stand it and sent him a card via office mail letting him know that I had an interest in him. We began to date and goodness the first few dates were really great but were strictly limited to kissing and hugging, some feeling around. Highly erotic and enticing indeed. Finally, when the time came and we got down and on it..I was severely disappointed. Turns out that his interest was more in his own sexual gratification than mine. (I am being kind here.) It took me nearly a year to dump him, being the nice gal that I am. (I tried to give him time to make up for it.)

    The point here being that I would have rather had the absolute all out hots for him the rest of my life and lusted after that fantasy, rather than knowing what I do now.

    Lori
    Remember that human beings are complicated creatures. We like our bedtime routines but dislike routine in our bed times. - Sallie Foley, M.S.W.

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    so... if I could get in his gym
    Is that what they are calling it these days? hehe

    [ November 04, 2002, 07:47 PM: Message edited by: JustAskJulie ]
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    fine... is down his gym shorts better

    either way, I am going this evening for a leg workout...... (wow.. that could be taken pretty bad too huh?! well, we'll see if I have the guts to offer up one of those "non-standard" cardio workouts after I get my legs out of the way...

    I am gonna hush before I choke on my feet.

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    [Smiley_sex] [rofl]

    Good Luck Be sure to let us know how it goes.

    [ November 06, 2002, 12:43 PM: Message edited by: JustAskJulie ]
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    I am not sure if all your vairous warnings about him possibly "sucking" hit home or what... but I went over their ... did my little workout... (little hell.. I am SORE... he "helped me" work my calves on his calf machine... and after that I really wanted my husband to CARRY me home and just toss me in bed... and TODAY (2 days later) I can barely stand up! OUCH! (However, there is something somewhat sexy about a man standing behind you saying ok come on... up on your toes there.. 45 more!! well.. actaully no.. there's not... by the time I was done I was sweating like a PIG(LOL) fortunatly.. so was he and hubby... so their horrid smell covered mine right up!

    By the end though I was... just NOT turned on.. not at ALL... (which is kinda odd generally after a workout at home I am tired... but not DEAD! However... I think I kinda went numb too... the idea of being turned down does not sit with me too well. I have a delicate ego.. what can I say

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