Why are men fascinated with women swallowing their semen?

The title is to pay homage to a current thread that is making the rounds (https://www.swingersboard.com/forums/topic/49581-why-are-men-fascinated-with-cumming-on-the-face/). I have noticed that there's a common opinion that women should swallow a man's ejaculate but they themselves find semen off-putting. I find it to be a double standard that they desire a woman to swallow it when they themselves dislike the texture/taste/feel/odor/whatever.

And to those who think they can point to me and say, "Well, doesn't Mr. Sun go down on you? How do you feel about your own womanly juices??" I actually don't let Mr. Sun go down on me for that reason. I don't like the way my juices smell or taste so I don't think it's fair to him to have him do that when I don't like it.

I don't see a double standard if I will not swallow another man's semen yet I love it when my wife swallows mine. I think it just means I'm not a homosexual. I have no problem with my own cum coming in contact with my lips or tongue, I just don't care to have another man's cum near my mouth. I don't see it as a consistency of the ejaculate so much as where it comes from. I love to lick my wife's cum from my fingers. It has pretty much the same consistency as my ejaculate and it tastes very different than mine but it comes from her which makes it the sweetest thing I have ever tasted.

Are breasts a good analogy to this question? My wife has two lovely breasts. My neighbor, Steve, has two breasts. I can suck, caress,lick,and kiss my wife's tits all day. Steve don't play that shit.

Sorry Sunbuckus but I don't think it is a double standard at all. I won't do semen cause it's gay. I will do a woman any day of the week and twice on Sunday because I like women. Fair has nothing to do with it.

Would I love a woman to swallow my semen. Sure, if I could just cum from a blowjob. Do I respect that she won't if she doesn't like it? Sure. It's up to her. I will still go down on her cause I like it. If she doesn't for some reason then I will respect that. But I sure as heck hope that she won't let me because she somehow thinks it unfair for me to because she doesn't like how she tastes. That's up to me to decide because I will be the one tasting... Not her.

I would go down on you because I like it... Not because you want me to. I would restrain from going down on you if you didn't like it and wanted me not too. You don't have to taste me if you don't want to in either case. After going down on you I wouldn't kiss you if you didn't like it. It's not a matter of fair but what each of us would like and enjoy.

I apologize for not being clear--I didn't mean other men's semen in the question...just your own. There are many men who expect their partner to swallow but have issue in kissing their sexual partner after she has swallowed their own semen. The point is that they find semen to be so disgusting personally but expect their sex-mate to consume what they find gross. To me, it's like finding raw tomatoes gross but expecting your lunch mate to eat your tomatoes, whether or not they want to.

Life is simple for us. I don’t lick my own pussy and my hubby doesn’t swallow his own cum. That worked so well for us that when we moved into the lifestyle, the same concept applied, I don’t lick pussy and he doesn’t suck dicks. Simple, kind of like when we only put Presidents on our paper money.

If someone doesn't like to do something they shouldn't! If the person they are with has a problem with that and can't be satisfied with all the other stuff they do then they should go elsewhere.

I never expect anything from the person I am with and enjoy everything that I do get. Does it feel great cumming in a women's soft wet mouth? Hell yes. Don't think there are too many men that don't enjoy it.

Ms Enhancer doesn't swallow, but it doesn't stop her from giving amazing head. She is a big time squirter and she cums a lot when she is getting eaten out so I do take facials and swallow her all the time. It does not bother me at all that this is the way it is, because I do enjoy it.

We always let people that we play with know ahead of time that she does not swallow and that she is a squirter! So far it has not stopped anyone from wanting to get head from her or eating her and having their face and mouth squirted all over.

Her girlfriend from a couple that is friends of ours is also a big time squirter and she has had her face covered and mouth filled when eating her, but this does not bother her! It is not a thick gooey texture like a man's juice.

The key word is, "Expectation". I think there should be an expectation that a spouse will try something first before writing it off, but not expecting them to do something that they have tried and disliked. Ultimately, the couple should get to a level of trust where a partner will perform a sex act they personally dislike, solely for the sake of their partner's enjoyment.

@kcjones

Hi,

I'm not sure I agree with your last sentence. My way of thinking is if my better half isn't into something then I'll just have to learn to live without it even if it brings me great pleasure. I wouldn't be able to enjoy it knowing she is only doing it because I like it. I would love her more for it but I couldn't do it.

I even have an example that backs up what you say. I love women's feet. My wife never saw feet as sexual. She let me suck her toes and lick them. She even wears high heels just for me as she doesn't wear them because of her height. But where our situation differs from what you said is that she learned to love it. She loves the attention. She even has a spot on her feet that arouses her when I suck and lick it. Now it drives her crazy and turns her on so it's a win-win.

If a partner is willing to do something solely for the pleasure of their other, I guess that's a good thing. However, it would be so much more enjoyable if it was something both like.

If my wife didn't like my foot fetish, I would just go without. I love her enough that I would do it. I'm just glad she loves it now.

sunbuckus said:

I apologize for not being clear--I didn't mean other men's semen in the question...just your own. There are many men who expect their partner to swallow but have issue in kissing their sexual partner after she has swallowed their own semen. The point is that they find semen to be so disgusting personally but expect their sex-mate to consume what they find gross. To me, it's like finding raw tomatoes gross but expecting your lunch mate to eat your tomatoes, whether or not they want to.

I like it when my GF or any other playmate swallows my cum, but only if they really want to. My GF loves it, but I can readily understand Ladies who don't, and it doesn't put a stop at my enjoying the sex, not even a little bit. As far as kissing my GF after she sucks me, I will do it GLADLY, just the same as when she sucks and licks me clean after I have been in her Puss, she loves to kiss me. No double standard with me.

I apologize for not being clear--I didn't mean other men's semen in the question...just your own. There are many men who expect their partner to swallow but have issue in kissing their sexual partner after she has swallowed their own semen. The point is that they find semen to be so disgusting personally but expect their sex-mate to consume what they find gross. To me, it's like finding raw tomatoes gross but expecting your lunch mate to eat your tomatoes, whether or not they want to.

Key word. Expect. I shouldn't expect my playmate to eat my cum. If she does great. If she doesn't great. It is up to her. As far as kissing her. Be happy to.

Eating her? Love to as long as she wants it. As far as kissing her after... Only if she wants to. I just hope the fact that she doesn't like how she tastes will affect her letting me eat her. We just don't have to kiss until I have cleaned my face and rinsed.

I apologize for not being clear--I didn't mean other men's semen in the question...just your own. There are many men who expect their partner to swallow but have issue in kissing their sexual partner after she has swallowed their own semen. The point is that they find semen to be so disgusting personally but expect their sex-mate to consume what they find gross. To me, it's like finding raw tomatoes gross but expecting your lunch mate to eat your tomatoes, whether or not they want to.

Key word. Expect. I shouldn't expect my playmate to eat my cum. If she does great. If she doesn't great. It is up to her. As far as kissing her. Be happy to.

Eating her? Love to as long as she wants it. As far as kissing her after... Only if she wants to. I just hope the fact that she doesn't like how she tastes will affect her letting me eat her. We just don't have to kiss until I have cleaned my face and rinsed.

We enjoy orgasms. Where they happen isn't as important to us the fact THAT they happen. Mrs Doc gives terrific head and swallows with me. It doesn't usually happen with playmates. If I get off in her, and she hasn't reached orgasm or wants a few more, I'll happily go down on her. If a playmate doesn't swallow but I cum orally with her, I'm happy, hell, it's an orgasm, right?? Same applies to oral with her as with Mrs Doc.

I've never had the desire to do the creampie thing but if it was something Mrs Doc wanted, I'd try to meet her needs. I'd consider it as well with a long term playmate if it was important to her. For us, orgasms and pleasure is the key in that moment.

I don't EXPECT anything specific from a playmate and Mrs Doc would be dressed and out the door in a heartbeat (and its happened) if a playmate EXPECTED her to do anything. We have joked about her having penis breath or me having pussy breath when we kiss while playing together or with others. This is supposed to be fun so we don't take much of it very seriously. We don't expect specific acts from others, we like our partners to have an easy going approach to recreational sex but to be honest, we steer away from couples who are adamant about no kissing. We've found that those couples are often ridged and mechanical and we really hate to have to check off a bunch of rules while trying to get off.

I absolutely love when my partner swallows. If Mrs Doc is enjoying the moment and swallows another guys cum, good for her, and even better for him, I know!!

This is supposed to be fun so we don't take much of it very seriously.

There! That's it!

@kcjones

Hi,

I'm not sure I agree with your last sentence. My way of thinking is if my better half isn't into something then I'll just have to learn to live without it even if it brings me great pleasure. I wouldn't be able to enjoy it knowing she is only doing it because I like it. I would love her more for it but I couldn't do it.

 

I even have an example that backs up what you say. I love women's feet. My wife never saw feet as sexual. She let me suck her toes and lick them. She even wears high heels just for me as she doesn't wear them because of her height. But where our situation differs from what you said is that she learned to love it. She loves the attention. She even has a spot on her feet that arouses her when I suck and lick it. Now it drives her crazy and turns her on so it's a win-win.

 

If a partner is willing to do something solely for the pleasure of their other, I guess that's a good thing. However, it would be so much more enjoyable if it was something both like.

 

If my wife didn't like my foot fetish, I would just go without. I love her enough that I would do it. I'm just glad she loves it now.

While you may have been perfectly fine if your wife refused foot play, her placating ultimately ended with mutual gratification. A place you two couldn't have reached without the sacrifice of your wife. You made my point all too well.

They say its better to give than to receive. Well, someone has to sacrifice and be on the receiving end sometimes.

It comes down to consent. If an adult willingly participates in a sexual act even though they don't necessarily enjoy it, who am I to judge? Our safe word is "cinnamon".

A spirit of adventure is always a good thing in this lifestyle! And I think one can hope for everybody in a swinging encounter to have that adventurous spirit, to be willing to try something new, even if it's outside of their experience or comfort zone of the familiar. I think it's great when, if a person is unsure whether or how much they might like something, they take the approach of giving it a try, and seeing for themselves how they like it!

So, I think that attitude is a great thing, and a definite plus. But I think things might turn south when that hope and wish for my significant other, and for the other couple, becomes an expectation. Expectations imply that I'm imposing my desires on someone else, and suggest that I will be unhappy if someone else doesn't do the thing that I'm expecting.

I am more in favor of encouraging, I think, than expecting.

I don't know if it is fascination. I might be the exception but I learned to swallow early in my sex life. As many young women learning about sex, I was surprised by how much semen squirted out on an ejaculation. I graduated from a hand making him cum and messing up everything around, to making sure I had something to cover him and catch the squirt.

When we moved on to oral sex, I am not sure I was ready. I choked just at the thought but I went on to enjoying him enjoying. At first I would do a blow job and finish manually. Sometimes getting it in my hair or on some clothes. The first time I had a full cum in my mouth I wretched and choked it out. I learned to relax the next time but still spit it out. I know I should have spit in on him the first time, he held my head there when he came. It's called Young Love. The first time I swallowed was when after he came, he pulled me up and started kissing. I still had his cum in my mouth. I figure we shared his cum then.

Over the years I just learned to swallow. To me it is easier than spitting it in a tissue or getting it all over me. I don't like sticky cum on my face or in my hair.

As above, the local date spot when we were young was the drive-in movie theater and the boys very quickly moved you along the continuum from making out, to feeling you up and fingering you to teaching you how to give a hand job and then frowning upon you because you got it all over their car seats. You quickly learned that swallowing kept everyone clean and neat and resulted in many dates. I didn’t realize how much of a habit it had become until our first MFM, the pulled out, spewed on my tummy and I found myself going down and sucking the rest out for him. As hubby said, what a girl.

We enjoy orgasms. Where they happen isn't as important to us the fact THAT they happen. Mrs Doc gives terrific head and swallows with me....I absolutely love when my partner swallows. If Mrs Doc is enjoying the moment and swallows another guys cum, good for her, and even better for him, I know!!

This is roughly where we're at, too. Mrs. EastInWest, by my estimation, should get a gold medal for oral, but her interest in swallowing (or getting cum on her face) shifts with her arousal level. If she's just performing because we're lazing around the house and cumming seems like something to do, swallowing isn't really her thing, and swallowing some other man is nowhere on her list. In part, I think this is because it doesn't fit with the "good girls don't do that" self-image she was raised with. When she's very aroused and orgasmic, that goes out the window. She'll ask for it and not waste a drop, or take an interest in videos of women swallowing multiple men. Turning her on is like slipping her an inhibition-reducing drug.

I have pictures somewhere of her enthusiastically smearing me over her face and breasts, licking her lips with a wicked grin. I showed them to her a few months ago and she was having a pretty hard time reconciling how happy she was to be covered in cum. Of course, as said above, to each their own and there's no reason to hold people to your expectations in bed. I love women who love cum. Some women don't care for fluids and they're all wonderful, too. Sex should be fun.

This doesn't really apply to me so much but it's definitely a feeling of acceptance when a woman does swallow your cum. But it's certainly not fair if the guy won't kiss you afterwards and acts repulsed. If he thinks it's gross than maybe you shouldn't be swallowing it either!

Ass favorite. Pussy a Very close second. I could care less about a BJ. When it's not done right or just Not good. Teeth, or if I direct, and she does whatever, it irritates me and it's a boner killer. Never ANY issues fucking a clean ass or pussy. I love a great bj as much as the next, but certainty not every woman sucks a mean cock. Some just are lame at it. Need to be taught better. Oh but of course there are those cock sucking pro's too. Love them for their talents.

A woman who is well practiced at bringing men to climax using oral sex has probably also discovered the very intense reactions that she can cause after a man has had his orgasmic spasms. A man feels sensations that are so intense that they are almost painful. This sensation is never as intense with vaginal sex.

Relevant to the question, I have no particular fascination with a woman swallowing my seminal fluid. But I do relish that very intense feeling that happens only when a woman keeps me in her mouth throughout the entire orgasmic process and several seconds after. I'd crawl on my bare hands and knees over gravel to have the experience again.

Footnote: some of the women who have learned this fact seem to enjoy seeing a man writhe and squirm while experiencing this pain-pleasure.

Many years ago a young lady said to me, "It takes seventeen years (I don't know how accurate that is.) for all the cells in the body to be replaced. If I swallow and digest your semen, you'll be a part of me for the next seventeen years."

"Well, doesn't Mr. Sun go down on you? How do you feel about your own womanly juices??" I actually don't let Mr. Sun go down on me for that reason. I don't like the way my juices smell or taste so I don't think it's fair to him to have him do that when I don't like it.

That sounds like a strong personal preference that you are projecting onto everybody else.

As for me, not swallowing is as much fun as "coitus interruptus." Stopping or changing up the act just prior to ejaculation is a lot like the guy you tell to "keep doing it just like that" and he uses that opportunity to go to plan "B."

As for ejaculating on the face? I can only guess that came from porn videographers as a method to document ejaculation... maybe some women like it, but personally? I don't get it.

That sounds like a strong personal preference that you are projecting onto everybody else.

I have thought about this after posting this thread. And I can understand that I am stopping Mr. Sun from doing something he enjoys. Oral sex doesn't do anything for me, to be honest which is why I can take it or leave it. However, I know of men who go down on a woman and then expect the exact same thing to be done to him, whether or not she wants to or not. That is what gets my gall.

I have thought about this after posting this thread. And I can understand that I am stopping Mr. Sun from doing something he enjoys. Oral sex doesn't do anything for me, to be honest which is why I can take it or leave it. However, I know of men who go down on a woman and then expect the exact same thing to be done to him, whether or not she wants to or not. That is what gets my gall.

There is that word again. EXPECT. That is the problem. Shouldn't expect but should appreciate.

I have thought about this after posting this thread. And I can understand that I am stopping Mr. Sun from doing something he enjoys. Oral sex doesn't do anything for me, to be honest which is why I can take it or leave it. However, I know of men who go down on a woman and then expect the exact same thing to be done to him, whether or not she wants to or not. That is what gets my gall.

Yeah, any sort of quid pro quo like that could be turned into coercion. From a man's perspective, you are the first woman I have heard voice that particular twist, but I have heard several women adopt the position that since she goes down on him, he should have no problem going down on another guy, because she likes to watch the guys. Fair is fair, right?

FWIW, when Playboy Radio was on the air, the wife and I were amazed at the number of MALE callers that really didn't like getting a blowjob. So, to each his own.....

I think a lot of people also think about the level of exposure that swallowing provides with reference to STIs. It is certainly possible to transmit virtually all STIs via oral route, with intraoral ejaculation increasing the risk. Of course, the risk is not as high as anal sex or vaginal sex, but it's there and non-trivial nonetheless. This may be the reason some folks don't swallow while playing, even tho they swallow with their own partner. In our case, we do oral without condoms, but Angel does not, as far as she can, allow a partner to cum in her mouth. We use condoms for all penetrative sex, so there's precious little chance any cum can get anywhere but in a condom....at least that's how we plan it.

I apologize for not being clear--I didn't mean other men's semen in the question...just your own. There are many men who expect their partner to swallow but have issue in kissing their sexual partner after she has swallowed their own semen. The point is that they find semen to be so disgusting personally but expect their sex-mate to consume what they find gross. To me, it's like finding raw tomatoes gross but expecting your lunch mate to eat your tomatoes, whether or not they want to.

So it's not really about the swallowing - it would be the same for kissing if you spit it out as well... And I imagine there are guys that don't kiss someone after they just finished giving a blowjob whether they came or not... I would think the same would go for a straight woman kissing a guy just after he had gone down on her or another woman.

I do get your point though about feeling obligated to return the favor. When I go down on a woman (it is something I enjoy) when we are playing and they start to go down on me later on I do wonder if they are just doing it because they feel obligated. It sucks the fun right out of it and I have to move the activity to something else fast because the boner is a curvin'!

So it's not really about the swallowing - it would be the same for kissing if you spit it out as well... And I imagine there are guys that don't kiss someone after they just finished giving a blowjob whether they came or not... I would think the same would go for a straight woman kissing a guy just after he had gone down on her or another woman.

Heh. Yeah...I actually had someone in mind when I put up this thread and sometimes when I am upset about something, I tend to try to make it general to make it have wider appeal but it doesn't quite work out. Plus, I thought I'd try to capitalize on another thread that was popular.

I do get your point though about feeling obligated to return the favor. When I go down on a woman (it is something I enjoy) when we are playing and they start to go down on me later on I do wonder if they are just doing it because they feel obligated. It sucks the fun right out of it and I have to move the activity to something else fast because the boner is a curvin'!

I've wondered about that quite often if certain sex acts are done because they feel it's obligated or just part of routine, especially when out swinging.

I guess this all boils down to communication, but I don't think it is much of a leap to return favor or technique "X," with the assumption that the originator naturally telegraphed that they liked or preferred that "thing."

Consider how this would play out, if you loved to swallow, and he hated oral sex.....

I may or may not have answered this already or not, but I'm not. Give me a slippery wet beautifully wonderful pussy or asshole to cum in and I'm perfectly happy.

I think this traces back to being completely accepting of your partner. You accept everything about them including their cum!

When swinging with younger men I feel it's a power thing for them but I still oblige. One has to question who is really in control when woman is on their knees and the man is about to lose their load!!!

I've been with countless young men and they all ask the same question when they are about to blow..."can I come in your mouth?"!!!!!!

In my (perhaps weird) opinion, the fascination is with women who greedily swallow semen, and moan while humming, "Ummmmm," as if they'd just been given a special chocolate treat.

Men just love it, I think is a beautiful bonding moment, nothing better than a good connection. 

I love male orgasms, an intense long pulsating and spasmatic male orgasm accompanied by a warm load of cum in my mouth is my perfect reward

6 hours ago, Sophy said:

Men just love it, I think is a beautiful bonding moment, nothing better than a good connection. 

I love male orgasms, an intense long pulsating and spasmatic male orgasm accompanied by a warm load of cum in my mouth is my perfect reward

  

Sophy, as comments aren’t turned on for that lovely portfolio of photos you posted recently in the Gallery section, I’m taking this opportunity to thank you for sharing them. 😊😘

I don't think it is about being 'fascinated' about a woman swallowing. To me it is about the feeling. When I get a blowjob and the woman pulls it out as I'm about to cum, the feeling stops. It is kind of abrupt. When she holds my cock in her mouth as I cum, the feeling continues. I can still feel her tongue as I spasm. 

As for swallowing, after a woman makes me cum with her mouth, I don't have any issue kissing her. If she gets up and runs to the bathroom to spit, or leans over and spits into a towel or something, it makes me feel like I did something wrong, something gross. Like I sneezed or coughed and some phlegm got on her and grossed her out.

As for the taste, maybe I'm strange but I have tasted my cum. I figured if I want a woman to take it in her mouth I should know what it tastes like. Maybe it is this horrible thing that some woman claim it is. I've masturbated, cum into a shot glass and drank it many times. I have tried to see if my diet changes the taste (it doesn't really). Consistency and volume are the only things that really change. This depends on how often I cum. With that said, I don't understand the harsh reaction that some women have about cum. 

And no, I'm not gay.  

I don't think men are necessarily fascinated by it.  I think it depends on the man.  Some men are fascinated by women swallowing their load, taking it on their face, cumming in their pussy or ass, etc.  And I also think a lot of men like different kinky things that they don't have on a regular basis.  If a guy cums inside his wife's pussy every night but she refuses to swallow his cum then he might be fascinated with the idea as it becomes taboo to him.  The same goes for the reverse and cumming inside her pussy or ass, or cumming on her face, anal sex, etc.

I enjoy having my cum swallowed but I am not fascinated by it.  I don't really view it that much differently than cumming in her pussy.  I think cumming on her face is more fascinating and kinky.  It depends on the person.

Cumming in her mouth as she continues sucking after the ejaculation prolongs the orgasm…the closest a guy can get to a multi.

On 4/20/2016 at 8:49 PM, sunbuckus said:

The title is to pay homage to a current thread that is making the rounds (https://www.swingersboard.com/forums/topic/49581-why-are-men-fascinated-with-cumming-on-the-face/). I have noticed that there's a common opinion that women should swallow a man's ejaculate but they themselves find semen off-putting. I find it to be a double standard that they desire a woman to swallow it when they themselves dislike the texture/taste/feel/odor/whatever.

 

And to those who think they can point to me and say, "Well, doesn't Mr. Sun go down on you? How do you feel about your own womanly juices??" I actually don't let Mr. Sun go down on me for that reason. I don't like the way my juices smell or taste so I don't think it's fair to him to have him do that when I don't like it.

But I *like* girl juices!

On 4/21/2016 at 4:44 AM, Guest said:

Life is simple for us. I don’t lick my own pussy and my hubby doesn’t swallow his own cum. That worked so well for us that when we moved into the lifestyle, the same concept applied, I don’t lick pussy and he doesn’t suck dicks. Simple, kind of like when we only put Presidents on our paper money.

Hamilton, not a President.  Franklin neither, but He's on the $100!

50 minutes ago, Sophy said:

Thank you, I have allowed comments on all my pictures, please comment! I would love to read your comments, they encourage me to post more pictures.

Peterj is correct Sophy!  Your picture gallery is top notch.  You are a smoke show.  Love seeing more members of this site sharing themselves on here. Sharing is what this lifestyle is all about.

On 10/7/2021 at 11:36 AM, nusofties said:

Cumming in her mouth as she continues sucking after the ejaculation prolongs the orgasm…the closest a guy can get to a multi.

From a sensation perspective I know some guys enjoy fucking my girl's throat and cumming down it while still pumping.  But the fascination is not just the sensation because plenty of guys like to jerk off into her mouth and watch her swallow as well.  Some guys have also "buttered" her popcorn or added some "cream" to her beverages and other food cum play.  So there is the sensation aspect but there is also another angle to it for some as well.

I’ve always been of the mind that if a woman is good enough to let me finish in her mouth, she can do whatever she wants to with it.  I have absolutely *no* expectations and I’m certainly not fascinated if she chooses to swallow.  In fact, I’m usually so out of it for a minute or so afterwards that I actually don’t know what she does.   😉

I think if a woman will swallow his semen, then she will do about anything to please him. If I lick a lover's asshole because she likes it, I could care less if she doesn't want to do it to me, I am licking her asshole to please her! If a woman doesn't want to swallow me, I don't hold it against her. But if she swallows then it's a bonus.

People eat eggs, even from some dirty animal.  Why not sperm from a nice clean human?

On 4/21/2016 at 4:44 AM, Guest said: